weve been best of friends since high school and later had a relationship for almost two years..we broke up then and He and this girl had their relationship.. for almost 2 years I am not expecting that we will meet ways again..and now we are back for good..
He's ex is still texting him sometimes, I ignored it before for I understand the girl's feelings..But then this past few days, she is always texting him and she wanted them to meet..
My guy is telling me that I should not be bothered because he has already committed his self on me.. for once he doesnt want to lose me again, same as I dont want to lose him too..
But why is it that I have this feeling of fear..Im trusting my guy very much that I am so afraid that the girl might take chances over me and continue flirting my guy..
2006-06-18 14:27:38 · 13 answers · asked by baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry. But it's up to your boyfriend to solve this one. One, he can't stop his ex from texting. She can text all she wants. However, it's up to your boyfriend to make a decision. Does he care enough about you to make a stop to these textings? Does he care that this may destroy the trust and possibly the relationship? If he truely cares about you, he needs to confront the other girl and tell her that you are the one and that she needs to stop texting. Oh by the way, texting is fine. Texting are just words. However, if the text says anything about "let's meet" or anything like that, then she's crossing the line. You can't force your boyfriend to lose friends just because he's dating you. You just have to keep the "friendships" innocent.
2006-06-18 14:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Scott D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If hes committed to you and he doesnt want to lose you again, then you should feel safe. But I understand your worries. I have the same problem with my bf and his ex gfs. But I trust him and I know that he would never do anything like that to me. Just talk to him and tell him it really bothers you. And if he doesnt respect your wishes, then tell him he must not really love you. If he does, he will respect your wishes.
2006-06-18 21:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Care Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him seriously and explain your feelings. Even if you love him, you need to draw the line. If he is so "committed" to you he would respect your wishes and stop talking to her. There is ALWAYS a chance that he might be cheating on you, so be prepared just in case he is. I have felt that same kind of fear but I ignored it and let my guy have his complete freedom then he hurt me. I'm not saying that your guy will do this but it's always good to have one eye open and brace yourself for the worst in these kinds of situations.
2006-06-18 21:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Lib 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't worry about it, i know thats hard to do, but just tell yourself that if you do loose him again it wasn't meant to be, and you will get over him, trust me. if its something you can't do anything about, then why waste your time worrying? Love life and the time you have with your friend, there is absolutely nothing you can do if he was not meant to be your boyfriend. nothing can change that. So just be happy in the NOW.
2006-06-18 21:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by catlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have good reason to feel the way that you do!!! Either its over with him and the other woman or its not!!! He can't have it both ways. You make the decision. Good luck!!!!
2006-06-18 21:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't trust him because of the text messages. Tell him to handle it so that she stops thats his responsibility.
2006-06-18 21:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you don't trust him and you are feeling like this because you are confused. Do you sometimes think that you want to date other people. let me know what you think Luckyjaden@yahoo.com
2006-06-18 21:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't get so depressed over him he is a guy they tend to make you mad or jealous!
start hanging out with an old ex and make him jealous back!!
2006-06-18 21:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by dolphinegirl4060 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your situation well enough but to me it looks like maybe he wants to have his cake and eat it too.talk to him about it.good luck!
2006-06-18 21:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UNFORTUNATELY IT WONT END IF YOU DONT TRUST HIM, BE YOURSELF AND KNOW THAT IS ALL YOU CAN DO. IF HE DISRESPECTS YOU BY HANGING WITH HER, ITS BEST TO MOVE ON, ALWAYS WORRING ABOUT BEING CHEETED ON IS NO WAY TO LIVE.
2006-06-18 22:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by error file not found 404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋