I just moved into a new house, i have alot of bills to pay, i asked my husband who lives 500 miles away for some money to buy food for me and his three children, and he tells me I have to earn it...I feel that he is my husband I shouldn't have to earn money that i ask him for, especially when it's food...
2006-06-18 14:11:54 · 19 answers · asked by Channie C. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's an asshole. And do you really need us to tell you that he is wrong and you are right? Come on now............
2006-06-18 14:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.King 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmm, I'm not getting this.. he lives 500 miles away.. You didn't say he was an ex-husband.. he live far off for his job then, and commute? You make a good case, that it is selfish to deny you money for you, the kids' food. Does he pay the rest of the stuff? you said "I" not "we/(you and he)" have a lot of bills to pay. I find this curious and this makes me think he IS an ex husband. With ex's. legally they have to only give you a set amount the court specifies (and unfortunately the court doesn't give a damn what you spend the money for.. ) If as I said at first you are married, isn't he already in the habit of buying groceries? Does he give you an allowance and you needed to use it all up (this sounds most plausible) for extra bills (we have more bills when we move/have new houses) and so now there's no groceries? Yeah, that DOES kinda suck.. You need to perhaps itemize things (****, send him copies of all the stuff you had to pay extra.) I can't imagine anyone sane would quibble over it when it's set down 'in black and white' man.. g'luck, honey
2006-06-18 14:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he live so far away???
Anyway, if you are separated, then asking you to buy your food and half the food bill for the kids is not such a bad thing.
If not then he should definitely cover the bill while you help out as much as you can (given your time availability).
I think its crazy to put yourself in a situation where you have to ask him for money anyway. There should be a separate account just for food that you can draw from.
Just my 2 cents.
2006-06-18 14:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't' think that you are wrong because those are his children that he has to provide for and should have no problem dong so. If he has a problem with that tell him you all can take him to court and get something done about it. What exactly does he expect you to do for money to help raise his own kids especially since you are paying the bills to keep a roof over their heads.
2006-06-18 14:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Snuggles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have enough on your hands having just moved and with three children. Your husband sounds selfish and discerned. How are you supposed to earn money to buy food when you have those three children to take care of alone? He needs to rethink his attitude and answer and back up his family. They're his children too!!!!
2006-06-18 14:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy Lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is his place to support you and those kids so yes you have a right to be upset but also why is he so far away from you? He is to be your provider and you are to be his helpmate and the mother of his kids. He actually seems quite selfish. Food is a necessity not a want and you should not even have to ask for money for this as you are his wife and they are his family! How does he think you have to so called "earn" it?
2006-06-18 15:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living 500 miles away from your husband? That aside, if it's food to feed his children and yourself, yes, he should be sending you some. No good husband would even remotely allow his family to go hungry.
2006-06-18 14:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter's gift was quite reasonable. If you have the money to pay your child's college tuition, then you should! Your son's gift was a bit less reasonable... I assume that he's not as academic and mature as your daughter? It does sound like you are trying to buy their love and purposely make your wife upset, at least with the Ferrari thing.
2016-03-26 21:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY on earth are you petitioning the internet for answers? PUHLEEZE...WAKE UP! Leave his sorry *** exactly where he is; 500 miles away from you. Honey, get a job if you don't already have one and file for a divorce. AND...no matter what happens over the next few weeks/months...DO NOT let this sorry piece of scum into your house; not even if he crawls 500 miles on his hands and knees and begs your pardon.
2006-06-18 14:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are not wrong. It's food for you and the kids. Why is he so faraway?
And he's your husband right? So means he have to support you in everyway. If he doesn't girl I suggest you to get divorce and a nice child support! Gosh, sorry about what I'm going to say, but I think he's an a****le!
2006-06-18 14:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Papayita :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First why is yoru husband 500 miles away and no if your kids need food you shouldn't..if you got a job you would spend all that on babysitting cost so no point
2006-06-18 14:17:09 · answer #11 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋