now what do i do ?

Question

my mom found out that i am pregnant and she insists that i get an abortion what doi do now?

i am 15 years old

Answer 1

You do whatever you have to do to protect your unborn baby. You are a mother now, too, and you have a responsibility to make sure no one harms your child. Calmly explain to your mother that you want to do the right thing and let your baby live, and then give her some time to get used to the idea. She is of course really upset and angry right now, but I'm sure she loves you and will come to love her grandchild.

It will help if your mom knows you have a mature plan for you and your baby. Please go to a crisis pregnancy center right away and talk to a counselor. She'll be able to help you sign up for financial and medical assistance and help you find a safe place to stay, if necessary. She can also give you free maternity and baby supplies and give you information on child care, adoption, and other topics. Some centers can even give you a free ultrasound so you can see your baby. All services at crisis pregnancy centers are free. You can find one near you by going to http://www.optionline.org

You and your mom need to know that abortion not only kills your baby, but is dangerous for you, too. Here is some information on the risks of abortion:

http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.bcpinstitute.org/brochure.htm
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women/
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

To read the stories of other teens who have been in your situation, please visit:
http://www.StandUpGirl.coom

To learn about your baby's development, visit:
http://www.justthefacts.org

To see photos of aborted babies, visit:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

To learn about all aspects of abortion, visit:
http://Abort73.com

Please be strong and do the right thing for yourself and your baby. You will never regret it.

Answer 2

First of all, don't listen to all the people telling you it is a sin and it is murder, they have probably never been faced with the decision. And it is not their place to tell you whether it is right or it is wrong. Having a child is a very big responsibility. I am not saying that an abortion is the answer for everyone. But it may be for you. There is always the option of adoption though, if you find that you just can't go through with an abortion. There are many people out there who desperately want to have a child and cannot. On the other hand, that doesn't mean it is your responsibility to give them one. How old are you? This is also a large deciding factor. Are you emotionally ready to handle the responsibility of creating and caring for a new life? Are you ready to devote the rest of your life to this person you created? If you are a young teenager, you may not be ready. And it will effect the rest of your life, from here on out. Nothing will ever be the same. If you are young, you have all the time in the world to have a family of your own, after you have finished growing up youself. You have a big decision ahead of you, so make sure you take the time to think about it and to prepare yourself. Good luck, I'm sure everything will be okay.

Answer 3

This is hard for the 3 of you. Remember that the second you conceive it is the beginning your pregnancy. An abortion is killing a fetus, no matter how small, it is killing. There needs to be someone who can guide yall through this, do you have a strong christian background, if so, your minister, or a crisis center, these places would have open arms for you. Don't rush in and not think this through. You know when you have sex that one time is all it takes, right? The baby is not responsible for this problem, it is up to you to make a wise choice. I'm sure your mother is upset, and I don't know all the details, but you need to keep away from permiscuious behavior, there can be so many complications, and so many deadly diseases too.

Answer 4

your mom can NOT force you to get an abortion. It's your decision. I personally thnik that abortion is wrong. Don't listn to these people saying you wont get anywhere in life. There are a lot of opprotunities out there. Having a baby doesn't mean that you will not be able to go anywhere in life. I know this because I have 2 daughter and i'm 20. Planned parenthood and Right to Life are the best places to go for help. There are many programs out there to help you if you do plan to keep your baby. If you want to eventually go to college, you'll still be able to. They have government grants that are strictly for single moms. Don't give up and please don't have an abortion. I've been there and I thank god everyday that I chose to give my daughters life. Good luck and congratulations. A baby is the best gift in the world. If you need to talk to someone that's been there, please feel free to send me an email of something.

Answer 5

The act may have been in bad judgement but the result is not. You must explain to your mom that an abortion kills the opportunity to make masterpiece out of a bad situation. It will be hard but you will have to make the necessary sacrifices and be the mom you have forced yourself to become at an early age. You can do it but it will be hard work. Don't let your child down.

Answer 6

if you're under 18 I would seriously consider an abortion. Here is my take on it:
- if you can't support a child that means that (a) your child will not have a good life because you can't afford to take care of him/her
(b) you will still have to work like crazy to put food in it's mouth, not fun stuff.

- Having children at a young age limits what you can do with your life. You don't want to work at mcDonalds forever, do you? Because being pregnant will get you a shitty education.

Answer 7

What do you think is the best thing for you and your child? Are you old enough to care for this baby? Maybe Mom is stressed that her little girl got herself in a awkward situation and she is looking out for what she thinks is best for you. Having a baby is a lot of work. You should have used a condom or waited until you could have been ready to care for this baby without a parent being able to tell you what to do.

Answer 8

there are teen shelters for that..if you want to keep the baby i mean..call up the local hrs office near you and talk to them..you don't have to 'get rid of it' if you don't want to. it's hard i know baby doll, but that's what happens when you act like a grown up and do what grown ups do...sex is another word for mating...both are ment for reproduction..it feels good cause otherwise who would do it if all you got was pregnant?? seriously, since you're online..start looking for help for teenage mothers like as in a shelter that will keep you safe and help you take care of your baby, while you learn to be a parent and take care and support your baby..baby doll, it aint the end of the world...you aren't the first child to get knocked up..it's been happening since before recorded history...you won't be the last....i'm not going to lie to you...if you keep the baby...you'll have a few rough years ahead of you, but once you get in the grove of things, you realize a child forces you to become a better person..you will change in some ways, physical, emotional, and mentally. all for the better....if you don't want to keep the baby...it's your legal right to do so. All the best baby girl!

btw..i personally believe those who choose abortions are selfish and don't want to sacrifice some stupid materialist things for their own flesh and blood..with or without a child...life is hard for everyone.. there are programs that will help watch your child while you attend college. there are federal programs aimed at helping single young mothers..there are people who don't have kids that work at Mc Donalds...even if you do, i'm sure if you are determined to go to college you will make it.good luck..

Answer 9

See if you can find a Pregnancy Care Center (or Crisis Pregnancy Center) in your area. They will provide help, education, counseling, etc. The centers are Christian, but they are non-judgmental and are there to help anyone caught in an unplanned pregnancy.

And should you have an abortion, a Pregnancy Care Center does provide post-abortion counseling.

Answer 10

keep in mind one thing: you and not anyone else has to live with your decision for the rest of your life.

If you want the child to live but are too young to keep it or cant afford it, Go to a pregnancy center in your area the will help you find a good place that allows open adoption.
Which allows you to keep in contact to the adoptive parents that will love the child for the rest of the childs life.
And you can pick the parents.

believe me there a lot of couples dieing to have an infant for multiple reasons.

But remember your parents are always your family just talk to them or a pregnancy counselor for all of you.
Again, at a local pregnancy center.