My wife cheated on me, but I still love her?

Question

We have since plit up, I think she still loves me, but I am not sure. I love her with all my heart. Am I wrong for feeling this way. Should I just move on? I have a daughter with her who she says may not be mine now. Waiting for results to come back.

Answer 1

go to maury! =)

Answer 2

Loving someone isn't all there is in a marriage. See if you have a daughter and then go from there with your relationship with her. This may not include a relationship with her mother. You may have not met the right woman just yet. Find some time to go help out some other people at this time and that will help you to forget some of your problems. It also can put in perspective. Help at church, hospital,soup kitchen etc. Sounds like you've heard alot of lies lately and need some decent people around you.

Answer 3

well to be honest if she cheated on you then she didnt love you cause to be honest if she loved you then she wouldn't have done what she dont in the first pace, no its not wronge to still love her, its still right i mean you were married so its something you cant help really :) well if she says that u cant see your daughter then u can take legal action cause you have rights to see your daughter by law :) well the best thing to do would be to move on but this kind of thing takes time, i mean bad things happen to good people :) i believe that there is someone out there for every one this just mean that she wasn't the one but there will be some one else maybe not know but later in the future dont worry there will be someone out there that will love you back the way u love them just takes time thats all :) well i hope this helps xxx

Answer 4

Well, it sounds like you didn't have much say so in the split.. I know you might think you did BUT from what you say (you love her..that's sweet) you kinda of felt forced out of the relationship. It's not uncommon to feel as you do. (You sound like a loving guy.) I DO think tho her feelings are equally important. Was she repentitent over it? Sometimes.. we're not perfect.. we are bored or feel 'unloved' and hell, we human beings just get IN situations sometimes where we DO things like cheat.. lie.. hell, a whole host of rotton things (hurtful to others around us.) We hurt ourselves most. I think the fact about the kid's worse, frankly. Kids are cute; they make you love 'em. Are you doing 'tests' to figure out about child support? That makes it all sound a bit more 'formal' that things are over. Some men you know, say they don't care if the kid is or isn't, and that 'they are that baby's daddy not matter what.' To ME, this is a REAL man! You might want to consider this route. Why not adopt that attitude (assuming the kid's biological 'papa' wants nothing to do with her.) IF this woman is any kind of a human being she WILL respond that that! (if she doesn't.. drop her.. but please DO continue to see the little girl.) I'm wondering how long you were married, how old this child is... ahh me.. so sad.. g'luck, fellah

Answer 5

Time to wise up, get a paterniy test IMMEDIATELY, and file for divorce...she is NOT going to change, and unless you have a burning desire to live in misery, cut your losses and move on. IF the child is not yours, you have two choices...sue for custody and support the baby, OR sue for non support....that depends on how you feel about 'your ' child. If you have raised him/her, then you are probably the parent. Do what is right by the child, discard the mother...but it would sound that the child would be in much better hands with you than with her. I only have your side of the story, and that is why advice here is so dangerous. Good luck

Answer 6

If its not yours then cut your losses and move on if it is yours call a lawyer and treat the whole situation like a business deal and document everything and always have a witness with you on visitation days. NEVER BE ALONE WITH HER!!! And for the kids sake pay your child support because you helped make the child so be a man and support the kid and visit every chance you get with the kid BUT DO NOT USE IT AS AN EXCUSE TO SEE YOUR EX. Pick up your child, set a meeting date for the return drop off, and get the hell out of there. Talk to her as little as possible and START SEEING OTHER WOMEN!!! GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!!ITS TOO SHORT TO BE MISERABLE WITH ONE PERSON ! Don't stay with her because of the child you'll just make the child miserable and start a chain reaction.

Answer 7

I think if she cheated on you, you should move on. It's not fair for you. Another thing is how do you know that she was cheating on you? Did you catch her or she confessed? If she confessed may be you can give her a second chance. It's up to you cause if she did it once, she can do it again. Just follow your heart and I know is not so easy cause you have a kid with her, and remember if you get divorce, don't forget your daughter.

Good luck

Answer 8

This is what happened to me, except for the kid thing. I would wait till you get the results back . And then go to a counsler and talk to a marriage counsler or someone professional. But me and my long time bf are together now. We were together for 2 years and then he cheated on me and lied to my face about it. And I loved him so much I couldnt let him go so I kept him. It was rough for a while. And then he broke up with me a year later cuz he wanted to be single or something. And I was upset but I moved on as best I could. And then he came back to me and now we are back together and going to get married eventually.
So the best advice I can give you is to let her go and if its meant to be she will come back to you. If its not, then you will have to move on and find someone who deserves you. Good luck.

Answer 9

for people who aren't in a relationship the anwer is easy, just leave and be done with it. But I understand there's more involved, when you love someone the feelings don't stop because of a betrayal. The first step is family therapy to find out the reason why she cheated and if the relationship can be saved.

Answer 10

You aren't wrong to feel whatever you feel. Talk to her, and ask if she still loves you and wants to try to work things out. If so, give it a try.

If your daughter turns out not to be your biological daughter, you're not likely to stop loving her.

If you and your wife get back together, some sort of counselling could be helpful.

Answer 11

I'm going through the same thing you are right now. My hubby and his girlfriend live together. I have 2 handsome little boys with him. I still love him with all my heart even though he was a jerk and cheated on me. I love him more than life itself. If you'd like to talk more feel free to contact me. Take care and good luck.