well im 15, 16 on suday and im in this situation where i love my boyfriend we have been together a month now and i feel that im ready to have sex but im still have second thoughts i mean when im with him it feels right and i feel ready but when i actually think about it i feel that i may become a little to attached after as it will be my first time and all. i know that what ever decision i make he will still be there its just that i want to do it but somethings telling me i should wait i really dont know what to do i need help
2006-06-18 13:53:45 · 23 answers · asked by kitkatblue3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A month is not long enough. If you are questioning the decision, it is definitely not the right time. You can't get your first time back. Please make sure you have no doubts before entering into it. I believe every time you have sex with someone, you give a piece of your soul away as well as your body. That's why it shouldn't be shared freely.
2006-06-18 13:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel ready, you shouldn't do it. I waited a very long time, for a lot of different reasons, and my first time was still a wonderful experience, despite the fact I was older (almost twice the age my partner was when he first had sex). Waiting, if you unsure, won't make it any less special or good.
If you are just giving into media/religious pressure to wait, that's okay too, but try not to listen to the abstinence-only crowd. They don't know very much. Likewise, if your boyfriend ever tries to pressure you to do it, don't give in to him either. The most important thing in life is to make your own decisions.
2006-06-18 21:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot judge based on the million variables in your situation that i do not know about. But to me a month seems too short a period to do something that substantial. Assuming you're a virgin, it's a big thing to lose your virginity to. Remember, you're never going to forget your first time, so you want to do it with someone you absolutely love or care for. Now if you're not a virgin, my apologies, but i think you still should wait a while more and debate the question in your mind. Dont act upon impulse but rather on sound thinking
2006-06-18 21:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by d_ist_urb_ed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No NO No you aren't ready for sex. Be friends, be buds, be pals
But don't be a learning tool for your boyfriend. 1 month might seem like a long time but its not. So many of us have made this mistake
over the years. 1 little slip up and ready for full time baby sitting.
all ways looking for baby sitters to get away.
Plus so many more things.
wait till you get married if he respects you he will wait.
2006-06-18 21:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Gary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if something is telling u to wait, then wait, it means ur not ready, u'll regret it, u have lots of time, so wait for a while and see how things go, a month isn't very long, if it was closer to a year that'd be different but its too soon, i think part of u still doesn't want to yet
2006-06-18 20:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by matrix15sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask
then you aren't ready
if you are ready then consider this - are you ready for the consequences?
the emotional side? some boys lose interest once they get their way with you
what if you get pregnant? no precautions are 100% effective
and is he willing to provide for you if that is the case?
if not then neither of you are anything like ready and the fact that you have doubts proves it
true love waits
2006-06-18 21:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think you're too young to have sex, you have been with this guy only for one month. How old is this guy? why you want to have sex with him? Cause you want to try it? Sex is not a game, it's a responsibility, and it cause some second effects like pregnancy! and I bet you, you're not ready for have a kid right now, just be careful. Learn to listen your instincts.
Anyway if you really want to do it, please use condoms.
2006-06-18 21:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Papayita :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really not sure then No it's not the right time. And also, hon PLEASE get on some birth control before you start having sex. Don't take the risk of getting pregnant at such an early age. It would also be wise for your partner to wear a condom to help prevent you from getting any sexually transmitted diseases.
2006-06-18 21:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts, you're probably not ready. So don't rush into it. If he truly loves, he'll be patient.
Because you don't want to wake up the next day and feel like you made a mistake, this is something that you cannot take back.
2006-06-18 20:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not ready for sex you have been with him only a mouth and even if you feel its right if he loves you then he can wait make him wait for it.
2006-06-18 21:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by blackfoxcoz69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋