Anyone else hate their parents?

Question

My dad forgot my 18th birthday...he 4gets my birthday every year but i thought your 18th birthday was supposed to be special. He don't live with me and don't really see him as much as i used to, suppose he don't care no more?
My mum never listens to me and she's always busy. I go to talk to her and she say shhh i'm watching my program, but it seems no time is good for her. All she does is pick me up from work and the rest of the time just annoys me and moans about everything! I used to think i was the favourite but if i wanna watch something on tv she'll say no, but if my brother wants to then it's a different story.
Guess i just feel alone.
It's the anniversary of my grans death next week which i'm dreading. I feel i've got to be nice to her now. I prob sound selfish.
I tried to talk to my mate but everytime i talk to her she makes out like her life is ten times worse and my other mate won't understand because she hasn't really been through alot in life so don't wanna bother her.

Answer 1

OK LOOK I NO THAT THAT IS BAD AND IT HURT YOU BUT YOU SHOULDNT HATE UR PARENTS. YOU NEVER NO ONE DAY THEY COULD LEAVE AND NEVER COME BACK. ONE OF MY FRIENDS HATED HER PARENTS FOR SOMETHING I FORGOT. SHE TOLD THEM THAT SHE NEVER WANTED TO TALK TO THEM AGAIN AND THAT SHE WISHED THAT THEY WOULD DIE.A COUPLE OF HOURS LATER HER PARENTS DECIDED TO GO GROCERY SHOPPING SO THEY LEFT.ON THERE WAY THERE THEY GOT INA CAR ACCIDENT AND THEY BOTH DIED.SHE NEVER GOT TO TELL THEM SHE LOVED THEM. THE LAST THING SHE SAID TO THEM WAS "I HOPE YOU BOTH DIE AND LEAVE ME ALONE"

Answer 2

Yeah, I do. I know what u mean. My dad's really passive, and doesn't say much. My mom is always critical of me. I'm not saying there's no merit, but she just expects me to obey her, no questions asked. I'm a disabled person, and it seems that's all my parents see...they've even said they, nor anyone they know, likes me as a person, they just love me because I'm their kid...they have to. Everytime I come home, I hate myself. Because of my folks I have little to no confidence in myself. They encourage me, then discourage me, then they wonder why I look so down. then when I tell them, they'll use it against me years later! I think horrible things would happen to me or them, and that's how I get through my day. My friends are great though, they do understand my plight, and do try to cheer me up. I am blessed in that area, but no matter what, it's always hard when u know ur parents don't, and never will like u. they don't like my brother either, but they like him more than me. Sometimes I wonder why they had kids. I was supposed to die an infant, I wonder why they didn't let me go, or poison me when they relized I didn't turn out the way they planned. This is why I like this site, I feel like I bother my friends too much(they don't let me know if I do), so I come on here, and every so often I get a question I can totally relate to. Hey, if u ever wanna talk, u can contact [e-mail]. I hope u can move out soon if it's that bad. Maybe u'll have better luck than me and won't have to return home for a while. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Why you hate them? Some mothers are really busy specially when they are single moms, they have to work for their kids and the house and may be they are not paying attention to their kids cause they think they are doing a good job. I think you should try
to talk to her nice, in the mean time just write down your feelings.

About your father, I don't think he forgot your birthday, may be he have been busy, Did you called him? try to contact him

You're lucky cause you have both of them alive and they raised in the best way they could. And at least your father always sent you something every year. Just think about all those kids that come to this world and no one care about them or in my case: My father always denied me. I can't say I hate him, but I don't have any feelings for him.

I hope you feel better, and I know how you feel cause my mom was a single mom and believe she never pay attention to me or my brother, until now and just a little bit.

Take care

Answer 4

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.


Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.


Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.


Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.


You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.


Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.


With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Answer 5

My dad forgot my birthday every year when I was growing up. He was a truck driver so during the week we saw very little of him.I was 34 when I got my first birthday card from him. I still have it today(27yrs later)I was the oldest & more was allways expected of me because I had 3 younger brothers. My mother was always to busy for me but always made time to go to things at school for my brothers. It REALLY SUCKS being the oldest.It sounds like you are going throughthe same stuff.Keep going on..

Answer 6

my mate does that too, its so annoying,just iggnor them! i don't know how you relationship used to be with your parents, but i can tell you this, parents love there children all equally and always will no matter what. your dad still cares, maybe he feels left out coz you don't see him as much any more, and thats him being selfish not you! as for your mum, mums are all the same, they don't wana face the fact your growing up, so they try to control and protect you through fear of loosing you! stay strong for your mum at this tough time and it will show her how much you care and how mature you are and her respect for you should grow!! feeling alone is totally normal, i feel like that too! maybe its time to think about moving out and creating your own life! i still live at home and have simular problems, if it wasn't for the money issue i'd move out and then i could see my parents occationally, if you no what i mean. keep your head up chick and remember you are special and you are loved!

Answer 7

Yeah I hate my dad hate him to bits and I hate my mum aswell my dad forced me to say sorry to my mum before that my dad took his car and drove after me and took me down to the hospital just coz I got stressed and he wouldn't let me back home or anything typical of my dad hate him

Answer 8

gosh babe ur parents really are getting u down aint they! why dont u tell them to pull themselves together or your moving ur **** outta there! they will soon realise how much they are hurting u. its not nice that your dad forgot such a special occasion get him to make it up to you make him feel small and make him feel as he has made you feel. your mother seems as though shes more interested in watching her programs then listening to you and giving u atention well wen my mum was the same i sat down one night wen there was only her in and i poured my heart out to her told her how she was making me feel and how i wanted it to change she soon snapped into action and made it up to me in every possible way. the most stressful thing about it for me is tht my parents were seperated and i wanted them to be both there for me well thungs cant alway go ur way just keep at it and keep ur chin up uv always got people on here to tlk to and to turn to for advice. gud luk babe x x x x

Answer 9

time to go it alone,get ur own house/flat,ur mom will soon take notice when the extra income u provide ceases.

Answer 10

i know how you feel... my mom always ignores me and my dad doesnt even know how old i am... so to answer your question i would have to say yes lol