My boyfriend, my kids andmyself all live together. Problem is, my boyfriend makes a living playing online poker. When the kids are around, he expects them to be seen and not heard. Thats tough! They are 9 and 6 and my 6 year old is a little hyperactive. My boyfriend takes out his frustration on them when he is isn't able to play well when they are around and he's trying to play. Our house is open space so everything is heard from where he is playing. On top of all this, we've been having work done on our house so he's been having to get up early and not been able to play as much as he's used to. He usually plays nights when the kids are asleep but he hasn't ben able to do that because of the renovations. I'm stuck because I feel that when my kids are around, I have to keep them extremely quiet or they will get on his nerves. What can I do?
2006-06-18 13:31:35 · 4 answers · asked by Mena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move out. if you feel like you and your kids have to walk on egg-shells around this man, you need to leave. your kids should not have to grow up in that kind of environment.
2006-06-18 13:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do, he needs to grow up. Taking out his frustrations on the kids is a bad sign for the future.
You said you're doing renovations, put up some walls and make him a play room. Then you won't have to worry as much about keeping the kids quiet. As for taking his frustrations out on the kids, I have a spare baseball bat. When he wakes up, he'll get the idea to treat the children better. If he's a slow learner you may have to do this twice (iron skillet also works), but you CANNOT let your children be mentally abused!
2006-06-18 13:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by Theresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing online poker is not a job. It is a pastime. He might have a gambling problem. Which in time will become your problem. Your main concern is your children. Maybe he can go to someone elses house to play. with all the work going on he needs to be alittle more flexable. He would probably have a different outlook if the children were his own blood. Sorry to say.
You might want to consider your options.....like dumping him. I would be more concerned about my kids growing up around that. This is the guy who is suppose to be there male role model, father figure. He needs to start acting like it.
Good luck and best wishes, Jack
2006-06-18 13:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by JACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what are you doing living with a guy in front of your kids? Second of all, why are you letting this guy impose on you and your children in a negative way?
He is the one privy to be sharing life with the three of you! You need more self-confidence than to put up with a stranger who would try to control and abuse you and your children. Either you move out or give this guy the bum's rush. He's a looser..in more ways that one I suspect!
2006-06-18 13:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋