MAJOR LIES. We're not married. It is killing me that I keep letting him lie to me. I forgive him, listen to his BS excuses, and we start all over again and it happens all over again. Why do people let others hurt them - over and over and over ... somebody, anybody, should I stay or should I go?
2006-06-18 13:04:20 · 19 answers · asked by jumpn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doesn't sound like love to me. You don't lie to people you love & actually if you're emotionally healthy, you don't lie at all.
As for you, do some reading about addictive relationships and/or see a therapist. Love shouldn't hurt!
2006-06-18 13:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by my two sense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two reasons why you should leave: 1. Obviously he doesn't communicate with you in ways that make you feel comfortable. 2. You should leave and before you get into another relationship, make sure the problem isn't YOU.
There are many women (and men, too) that badger the hell out of their mates, to the point where telling lies is easier than the truth. Everday it's: Did you work today? What did you do at work? Who did you talk with? Do women work there? Are they pretty? Why do you need to spend so much time with your friends? What time did you get home last night?
These third-degree people will never be satisfied in a relationship. Their mate becomes their entire world, and this is not healthy. Speaking only in general terms, I have noticed that most men have hobbies, while most women have husbands (or boyfriends). If you are this type of person you need to get a life beyond having a mate. Take classes at your local college, learn different forms of dancing, volunteer to help the needy... There's nothing worse than having a mate with no interests. They are boring, needy people.
2006-06-18 13:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the answer is yes you should go........Second, you may really love him, but if he really loves you why would he be hurting you and lying to you?? It doesn't add up. Lastly, why do people allow others to lie to them and hurt them?
At the core of that problem is the fact that sometimes we do not really believe we deserve better; which is wrong. It also has allot to do with how you were raised in your own family and how your parents interacted with one another. I know my parents had a fairly poor relationship; I saw my fathers behavior as "normal". It takes a allot of time and emotional energy to grow to the point of expecting more for yourself. Leave this guy, and when you meet a new one, be alert, you don't have to know exactly what you want in a man, but you do need to know what you WILL NOT accept. If you see a warning sign; be warned....make conscious decisions that are good for you!
2006-06-18 13:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by mchlmybelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave you say we love each other but it sounds to me like its just you loving him cause if he loved you theres 2 options 1 dont lie 2 learn how to lie good enough that you dont catch him and get upset and if hes not willing to do #1 and is too lazy or dumb to learn how to do #2 then hes not good enough for you if you have to be with a liar at least pick a good liar
2006-06-18 13:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by puresplprix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Life is too short to be miserable. What is the quality of your life with him if you cannot trust him. Let him go and find someone who will not lie to you. Good Luck.
2006-06-18 13:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know if you should stay or go....GO! You say "we really love each other"...well, he apparently doesn't if he is lieing to you all the time! Don't you deserve better than that?
2006-06-18 14:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you actually need to think about this - GO! FOR YOUR OWN SELF WORTH - GO! FOR YOUR OWN DIGNITY - GO! Surely you realize this heel is never going to change and since you're enabling him to lie, he's going to keep doing it. MOVE ON and do it soon - before it keeps getting worse.
2006-06-18 13:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start seeing him for who he really is,and then it will be easier to leave him find someone who is worthy of your love,and when he lies to you dont let it slide mention it to him let him let him know your not going to put up with the lies
2006-06-18 18:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lying is seen by some as illness that needs therapy... it doesnt mean he's crazy or anything, just that he's maybe a little bit insecure or cant manage to control his emotions well. if you two are in love really, then you should try that.
2006-06-18 14:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you should leave him, why even ask ??
If you are worried of being single, thats a whole different issue. But you need to dump him.
2006-06-18 13:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by CUBICLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋