MEN....... do we need them or not?

Question

It seems that many women are pretty self sufficient and dont need men because we can do pretty much of what they actually do. It also seems that they are alone and or bitter. Could women have played a big part in the great divide between women and men. Does anyone agree? What happened ?

Answer 1

I wish I could find the exact quote but one well known woman who was writing about women's lib and the sexual revolution made a statement that went something like this paraphrase I'll attempt to give from memory.

"When women joined the sexual revolution and told men that they didn't need them they unwittingly betrayed hundreds of years of work that more sensible women had engaged in where we had finally gotten to the point where men were forced to take and active role of responsibility in society for gratifying their sexual desires.

They gave the men just what they had been looking for all along, and excuse to treat the sex act as nothing more than a passing pleasurable experience between two consenting adults with no strings attached."

Statistics show the devastating consequences on society of what happens when a woman is saddled with the sole responsibility of providing financial and moral guidance for a family. Men aren't perfect, just like women aren't perfect, but God designed a way for them to complement each other in a family relationship so that many of their imperfections could be made up for by the other person in the marriage.

Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him."

Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Answer 2

I don't need one. I earn my own money, I know how to cut the grass, I'm fairly handy, I've figured out the pickle jar, and I have a vibrator.
So what is wrong with me that makes me want one so badly? With all their faults, and my being able to make it just fine without one, I should be ok. But when I'm close to a good one, he can sure make me melt! I guess men are just plain YUMMY!

Answer 3

As a man, I'd like to tackle this one. Whether or not you need a man depends strictly upon you. Technically, you don't need a man at all. Men and women can do almost all of the same general functions. The main difference (and I am generalizing) is size, strength, and point of view. I'm sure you have male friends or relatives that could lend a strong back or their opinion if you really needed either one.

However, you ask a much larger question here. Unfortunately, there is no right or wrong answer. So, let's move right into my opinion of the right answer. Please keep in mind that this is just my opinion. I have not researched this and I am not an expert. However, women don't need men, they just need the *right* man for them. Some women I know **really** don't need men ... for anything ... literally ... if you know what I mean.

Has the sexual revolution contributed to the problem (i.e. "Could women have played a big part in the great divide...")? I suppose you could say so... to some small degree. Speaking strictly for myself, one of the main driving forces in my life is my desire to help my wife, to please her and to make sure that she is happy and that her needs have been met. Does she need me? No. She wants to be with me. Our relationship creates needs because of who we are. We have established roles. I kill the spiders, she cleans the bathroom. I cook dinner, she reads to the kids. I play with the kids so she can get some reading and relaxation in. Does she need me to help in any of this? Hell no. But we've defined our roles, it works, we're happy. What you need is someone who is happy to perform the opposite but required roles as you. Do I need her? Hell no. I can *survive* without her (or my kids) but what life is that for me, really?

It sounds sexist I'm sure but in the "good old days" when men brought home the money while the women maintained the home, men felt useful. We felt necessary. We felt strong and empowered. (BTW, my wife is a very successful social worker specializing in Autism disorders and she's working towards her Masters Degree so don't think that I'm one of those guys who forces his wife to stay home with the kids). Today, a lot of that has been taken away from us. In reality there is virtually no job that a woman could not do as well as a man. So what use are men to you, really? What is the point of men in your life? Have we just become sperm donors to you? Is there any value to me as a man in your life? Do you *want* to create needs for a man to fulfill? You tell me. Your opinion is what drives the answer to your question.

Keep one thing in mind when dealing with virtually any man. We need to *fix* things. Tell a man your problem... right, we need to fix it. Tell us about your leaking sink... we need to fix it. Tell us about the jerk who was mean to you... we need to fix it (often disastrously). For women, venting on male friends can be frustrating because he's always trying to make it better and in reality, all you need is to get it off your chest. Years of marriage taught me that.

How do you find him? That's an entirely different question.

Now please, don't trash me. This is just my abbreviated opinion. Hell, I could go on for hours. Another man will probably come along and tell you I'm full of crap. Just keep in mind that opinions are like assholes... we all have them and they all stink.

Answer 4

consider men as pets ..
only it has tail in front instead in behind ..
so when a pet like dog or cat is naughty, just catch its tail,
it calms ..

oops ..

well i'm a man but i'm completely agree with feminists thoughts.. somehow womans must be independent .. i myself dislikes this macho patrichiarkal system ... history proves it makes females suffers...
well relationship based on love and equality could be the answer why female need male.

Answer 5

no I don't agree some men just a dogs and others play too many games no one has time for that others u have to keep looking for the right one

Answer 6

We are useful for opening stuck cans, and for lifting heavy objects.

There are also times when you may want a simple opinion, or an answer of a few words. Which gender will you go to for this?

Answer 7

NO....I have Ben and Jerry for comfort....Duracell for satisfaction.....Bank of america for money, jack, jim, and johnny for fun and for protection...Smith and Wesson...those are the only men I need.

Answer 8

I don't "need" a man, but I'm glad to have one around. Somebody has to kill the bugs and parallel park.

Answer 9

Yes we do need men. God made us to complement each other. It woulds be chaos if they were not around.

Answer 10

i dont know what happened but i think men are only good for fixing things.