if your boyfriend said he didn't know what he wanted anymore and that he didn't know why he wasn't happy anymore doesn't that basically mean its over. he claims to still love you but you get the feelings things have changed.would you stay.any advice would be nice.if anyone has been here i would like your input.
2006-06-18 11:49:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will presume that these things he said were part of a larger conversation where you wondered aloud to him about your relationship, how he feels, etc. If that's the case and you've been left hanging with deep doubts, then I think the relationship is disintegrating. He would have otherwise tried in ernest to assure you that it's not you or the relationship, but something else is bothering him...and because you are (or are supposed to be) his most trusted significant other, he would share with you his troubled thoughts. But he didn't. I think he doesn't want to say it outright, because doesn't want to be challenged, but in reality, he is tiring of the relationship.
2006-06-18 12:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by nothing 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people feel lost. I know I have gone through this in my own marriage. It doesnt automatically mean that things are over. It could just mean that he is searching for something and that he doesnt really know what it is. Give him some space and try to support him. Mix things up a little. Do something that the two of you ahve not done in a while and really enjoy. My husband and I used to go to the lake and just sit and talk but for some reason we stopped do this. When I myself went through this and didnt know what I was looking for I knew that I didnt want him to leave and one day he picked me up and took me to the lake and we sat quietly for a while and then we just started talking and we figured out that things had just got boring. Now everyweek we go to the lake and talk. Things are so much better now. Please dont automatically think that it is over... Communicate with him and give him some time. If he truly loves you this hard time will pass. Good luck sweetie.
2006-06-18 12:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by lvb524 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the first year of my marriage , i felt the same way. I wasn't sure why i was not happy. I loved my wife and son , i had a great job . I think if most men would open up and be honest i think we all go through a time like that in our lives . It may not be you he's talking about , Just be there for him and show him how much you love him. You'd be surprised what a little "I love you" can do.And most importantly talk to him be supportive, let him know he can talk to you about anything in the world. Trust me he'll get through this and ya'll will be just fine. Good luck to you and him
2006-06-18 12:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by RM802001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its one of two things or both...First he has another gal..Second its peer pressure from his friends...Some times Friends try a push you away if there lonely that way there not the only one with out a girlfriend...Anyway sound like your a little young and don't need that kinda stuff...Kick him to the curb you have plenty of time to find other friends..
2006-06-18 12:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes honey that is what that means. Would you rather he say "I still like ya and all but damn its time to move on" no he is trying to let you down easy. he sounds like to good a person to just say "sucks to be you sorry about your luck" see it for what it is and move on honey otherwise he will get to the point he just blurts out something mean
2006-06-18 11:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said that about the relationship then yes i would say that it is over. But if he was just talking about life, then you 2 needs to sit down and have a good chat.
2006-06-18 11:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it's toast. He's either met someone else or he just doesn't want you anymore (or both) and he's too much of a wimp to tell you. Run!! And don't look back.
2006-06-19 08:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by jerryg1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's planting the seed in a future break-up. Start preparing yourself!
2006-06-18 12:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me your boyfriend is having his own issues that are seperate from you. I do know that communication is your best tool. Try not to take his problem personal.
2006-06-18 12:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by The Nanster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's over. Don't hang around until it gets messy. Take your dignity and go. If he changes his mind, say, "No thanks." He's a wimp.
2006-06-18 11:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋