We all know "Forgiving is holy" but if the damage is severe, how to we learn how to completely forgive someone? we all have situations where forgiving is just out of the question, but if we must forgive due to certain situations, how do we go about doing this? We have our brain constantly replaying the bad incidents that happened and we have our concience telling us to just forgive. In my case where a child is concerned, I know that I must do it for my child and it is just civil.
2006-06-18 11:49:16 · 7 answers · asked by Jay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forgiving is hard no doubt especially if the offense was devastating, but how is this really affecting YOU by rehashing the offense, the hurt? By playing it over and over in your mind it's like a deep wound that can heal, but if you keep scratching it you'll open up that scar and the wound will open up fresh again. It will never heal. Reason it out and determine if it does more harm than good to NOT forgive. Forget? Well that may never happen, but look at it this way, "once bitten twice shy" is the old saying. If it happened once you're prepared to keep it from happening again. You'll see it coming.
2006-06-18 12:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by jazzy1! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing as you are. I found that for me distancing myself from the person that hurt me so badly was the first step I needed take. I didn't realize that was what I needed to do, but the court ordered a no contact between us and it has helped me to begin to heal. I didn't want the no contact order at first and was really upset about it, but now I realize it was the best thing that could have happened. Try to stay away from whoever hurt you and dig deep down inside to find yourself. I think that you'll realize that you are much stronger than you ever thought you were. I wish you the best.
2006-06-18 19:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.King 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean, it sounds like a pretty bad incident. But you just need to dig down deep inside and know in your heart whatever happened happened for a reason. Mistakes will happen but once you have the power to overlook them you will feel better about yourself and whatever situation you are in. Try to find at least one positive aspect that arose from the incident occuring and make the best of it.
2006-06-18 18:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by big_j_gizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first off tell the person how you felt when the person did what they did. Realize that holding grudges won't help. Only forgive this person if that's what you really want to do. Especially if this is on your conscience and it's telling you to forgive this person. I think that you should listen to your conscience or else you'll live to regret it and do you want that? If the shoe was on the other foot, would you want that person to forgive you?
2006-06-18 19:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me,forgiving someone is not about letting that individual "off the hook" so to speak. Forgiving IS for ME so I don't keep all the emotional pain and anger inside, which in turn can cause various health problems(physical and emotional).I asked God to give me the grace to forgive someone who caused my family great pain and suffering.God answered my prayer allowing me to continue on with my life without feeling despair and hatred.
2006-06-18 19:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, GET EVEN!!! That makes it WAY easier to forgive!!!
Ok, try praying for the mind and heart of christ, if that doesn't work, then get even!!!
2006-06-18 19:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Miss NancyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally they can say they are sorry till they are blue in the face ill let it go but i wont forget
2006-06-18 18:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋