I had a relationship over 10 years ago that ended bad, but always stayed in touch with the parents of this person. They are wonderful people. I'm now married with children and my husband is a little bothered by it. Should I continue to stay in touch, or forget about them?
2006-06-18 11:43:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oppose to all the other answer i feel you should stay away and respect your spouse feelings, why do i say respect your husband is cause if their are no children between you and that other guy than is really no reason for you to be THAT close,,,, now a simple hello bye how are you the fam? ok ands maybe send a card on the Christmas Holiday ,, you see the point. Just you need to part away from your past and MOVE ON WITH YOUR NEW FAMILY AND HUSBAND
2006-06-18 11:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Melimel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what's wrong with staying in touch with the family. If your husband is bothered, just tell him that it's not like you and your ex will get back together or something.
2006-06-18 18:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by čŖåŻęĤ! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get close to someone, you get close to their family also. You've built a bond with your ex's parents, who have also bonded with you. Would your husband ask you to throw your parents aside? That is basically what he is doing. These people ARE part of your family and he needs to accept it. They were put into the family before he was around. Help him understand that what he is asking is for you to give up your family just because they aren't blood.
2006-06-18 18:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by visionssofaraway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never did. Don't risk your marriage on the past. Talk to your ex family and get advice from them. I know its sounds weird, but at least they will understand. They will probably understand better than you do. But follow your own instincts. and your heart. It sounds like you have it made. Don't risk it. OK Just advice.
Your husband is insecure because he is afraid you will want to go back to your ex someday. He is afraid there is still some feelings there within you.
2006-06-18 18:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by debbie_joan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely no problem... but do NOT lead your husband to have suspicions that you may still have feelings for this man! It seems that by the way you say he is bothered by it that your husband may think you do still have feelings for your ex... Assure him that you love him and only him and there are reasons that your ex is your ex. Good Luck
2006-06-18 18:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by moon_fariey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are Married to this Man. If this bothers him, you should not stay in touch with Xinlaws. They are now Outlaws.
2006-06-18 18:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by Linda F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody, not even a husband should dictate who you share your life with as far as friends. Tell your husband that he is using unnecessary influence and control over your life and to grow up and cut it out. It is the first step toward domination that will not make anybody happy.
2006-06-18 18:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my dad and mum divorced over 20 yrs ago and when my dad comes for a visit he visits my mums parents and other relatives but they only put up with him out of politness, now my bf tried to remain friends with his ex wifes father and it ended up backfiring.... i think it's a good idea to let them go with the past, if theres kids involved , let the other parent be the one to take them to visit the ex-inlaws , i don't blame you husband for being a bit bothered , it is a weird thing to have to deal with, stay friendly but i wouldn;t go out of my way to visit them.You have a new life now and it would he a bit hurtful to your husband.
2006-06-18 18:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been in touch with them for 10 years and your ex isnt bothered by it then i say theirs no need to stop. they have become a part of your family your husband shouldn ask you to stop unless maybe you still have feelings for your ex. my boyfriends ex still stays in contact with his family they dated for 5 years. it was weird at first but as soon as i realized they didnt compare me to her it wasnt such a big deal.
2006-06-18 18:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by mk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been the best of friends with my ex people for the past many years and it has not caused a problem
2006-06-18 18:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋