Is revenge a childish thing? A natural thing? or is it something that everyone has to do to be able to go on with life once they have been hurt by a cheating spouse?
Or is it best left for them to get what they deserve on their own??
2006-06-18 11:22:04 · 31 answers · asked by soulmate_n_nc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not try to get revenge on someone. It hurts you worse than them. Let it go, they'll get theirs in due time!
2006-06-18 11:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is ALWAYS a bad thing, but totally natural as well. It's whether we act out our vengeful feelings that makes us good or bad, I think. You have to assume that the person will get what they deserve in the end, but I guess wanting that is sort of revenge in itself. When you're feeling like that, it's hard to get past the negativity and move on with your life...to heal. It takes time, but once the betrayed person has been able to sort out their lives and be happy again, the negative feelings should subside. If not, that's probably a good time to think about getting some therapy to help.
2006-06-18 18:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by partlycloudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you take revenge on people that have hurt you, it's only going to bite you back in the "***". Karma will find them without you taking revenge.
If you don't believe in karma, read up on it and read with an open mind.
I've had alot of people who've BS'd me before, I don't know why it's been happening to me when I've done nothing wrong and there were a lot of times when I wanted revenge but I learned that revenge doesn't work and they will get what they deserve by themself, either in this life or the next.
I've give you examples about my life. # 1. I've had a client that owed me money or the hard work I put in but he left and acted as if he wasn't responsible for it. Now he's getting less pay from his other job and while I'm working with debt collectors to get me my money back from this client, I just got another job offer from another company with more pay,
# 2. I've had a ex boyfriend who treated me very poorly and I always wanted to get back together with him. I spent a long time crying over him and he left me hanging. He is still stuck in a rut. While now, I'm married to a wonderful man who loves me and gives me respect and he has taken me on vacations and showed me the world.
# 3. My ex best friend was very toxic and was unwilling to work on our friendship, while I spent my time working on our friendship. She is still negative and unhappy and stressed out while I am moving forward with my life.
And there are many other people who have BS'd me and I haven't ever done a thing to them. I don't worry about revenge. Although it is natural to feel revengeful. I know karma is going to get back at them sooner or later.I just treat people the way I want to be treated
2006-06-18 18:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many people claim revenge is childish, but I personally love it. But sometimes the best type of revenge, is when the other person doesn't even know you're getting back at them. (I.e. My ex cheated on me at the beginning of our relationship, and I tried to forget it for 2.5yrs, i couldn't so I ended up cheating on him and then telling him all about it after I left him. HOWEVER, I also did something he doesn't know about. He went interstate on holidays for a month and I still had house keys, so my new bf and I went and had sex in my ex's bed.....hehehehehe). Enjoy your revenge. It's fantastic.
2006-06-18 20:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a Buddhist, but I believe in Karma. I once had a horrible room-mate. I moved out when his girl friend got pregnant. She blew up into a balloon, and became lazy. He ended up going to jail because he assaulted a women--all due to his locking his keys in his car. How could I do anything worse than that to him (and still respect myself)? Move, on; if the person is a bad person then it will catch up with them, somewhere, sometime. They hold the seeds of their own destruction.
My motto is to look for the good things in life because the bad ones will find you no matter what you do.
2006-06-18 18:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why waste time getting revenge? Many things in life have a way of coming back and biting people on the ***.
2006-06-18 18:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge in the form of cheating back on him can be self therapeutic. He doesn't even have to know about the revenge. It's your way of consoling yourself or getting even.
2006-06-18 18:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think revenge is natural. revenge boosts moral so that you don't feel bad about something. it depends how far you take it though. to prove a point or want to be in charge, it can be a good thing. if you use it to hurt the person, i think that it's gotton too far.
2006-06-18 18:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by so5be6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge will only make you feel worse. Let the Karma gods take care of the cheater, and move on with your life.
2006-06-18 18:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not good at all because you regreat it for the rest of your life...I know from personal experience...it's something that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Two wrong do NOT make a right...
2006-06-18 18:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋