I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 year (i'm 20 yrs old , he's about to 23 next month). i havent said anything because i dont want him to ask me bc its what i want. i just want to hint to him CASUALLY. suggestions??
2006-06-18 11:10:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't matter if you're ready to be engaged it's if he's also ready. It's supposed to be both people are ready at the same time to take the next step. I guess you can ask him what his feelings are on the subject and see if you guys are on the same page.
2006-06-18 11:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, are you ready for a plan that will actually work? Here it is.
Lead him to believe that you have lost interest in your relationship with him. Take long weekends with your girlfriends or family. Take up a hobby that doesn't include him. Hint that you feel there must be "something more in life". DO NOT mention marriage.
He will either figure out that the price of poker just went up, or he will drop you. If your plan is to marry, then either move by him is good news.
2006-06-18 11:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get married, are both of you financially stable or is he financially stable? Because you are both still very young. And couples who aren't financially stable are at a high risk of divorcing.
# 2. Do not talk about marriage or hint about getting married because it scares men off. If you do, it will take your boyfriend longer to propose or he might not even propose at all. Especially, if you both live together. Men who live with their girlfriends take a much longer time to propose or they might not even propose because they already feel like they're married anyway, so they don't see the point. If this is the case and you want to get married, the only person you can change is YOU.You can't change a man. You can only change yourself. If you change yourself, it changes the people who you associate with, not only your boyfriend. One suggestion is if you do live with your boyfriend, you can move out for the time being with a friend or family. Remember you are not breaking up when you move out. This will give you time to clear your minds and give each other space and create that "miss" feeling for each other. Do not ask him to move out, take the initiative and move out. This is hard but if you are serious into him wanting to propose to you, you have to have willpower. After awhile, your boyfriend will start missing you and will run after you and propose in his own time. If he doesn't propose after awhile, it means he likes the way things are and he's not the right person for you and you already moved out anyway, so it's easier where you both stand.
2006-06-18 11:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think hinting casually is a good idea. It's much better to be completely open about it all. Like the other answers said, it's about you both being ready.
Complete honesty is so important in a relationship....and if either of you do find it hard to be honest, you have to sit down and look at your relationship seriously.
Good luck. : )
2006-06-18 11:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by staceymoonlight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are better off to just wait until he comes around . Maybe he is not ready . Is it possible hints will scare him off . You could get engaged anytime in the future let it happen . What's the hurry?
2006-06-18 11:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by pms247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't understand if he's planning to symbolize to you or no longer. It appears like you 2 have huge-spread one yet another a effective lengthy time period although! attempt no longer to anticipate a idea, because if it would not ensue, you'd be dissatisfied no matter if the holiday replaced into quite very wonderful. also, in case you're not any more searching ahead to it, it really is going to come as a wonder whether he does. reliable success!
2016-10-14 07:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by leong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't wlling to ask on his own, you really can't do a lot. If he is sincere and if he truely loves you he will do the right thing. I am not trying to imply anything, but would like to say that if you are having pre-marital sex, he may not commit to you because you are already giving him the golden ring so to speak.
2006-06-18 11:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's not said anything doesn't mean it's not on his mind. (He may be scared to death about it!)
Give him time (he's 23) and space. You're right not to force him into it just because you want it. Men do what they want.
Get busy! Confidence is sexy. Focus on things other than your relationship--fill your life up with meaningful things and people, and let the proposal take care of itself.
2006-06-18 11:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Chaucer_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. A lot of men tend to be a little touchy about the marriage thing. You dont want him to feel pushed and like you said, you dont want to be asked out of obligation. Give it a little time you never know he might be well on his way to asking....
2006-06-18 11:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by tyger_willow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did was tell him "it should have been love by now and since I am a free agent, too old to go steady and have ideas about how I want my life to progress I think we should both consider seeing other people for awhile".
It worked!!!!!!!!
2006-06-18 11:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋