What is with all of these outrageous questions being asked by children?

Question

I am shocked and disturbed at the sorts of questions being asked in the teen/preteen category. I understand that teens have questions about sex, I just more expected to see questions about, first periods, relationships, kissing, weight problems, depression and general insecurities about their developing bodies. Instead I am seeing more questions like "Why do I like to take it up the butt?" , "Do girls like big or small penises?", "Any tips on masturbating?", "Why can't I have an orgasm?, and "I'm horny, what should I do?". Are these questions from Kids with way to much time on their hands? Are they just being smart asses? Are they just trying their best to shock people like me?

I guess what I want to know is if this is what teens are like in America today? I don't have my own family yet, but is this kind of behavior I will have to look forward to? I am just so totally dismayed at what I have been seeing here in this category. Any serious answers are appreciated.

I am not a "hater", nor am I a prude.

I understand the curiosity and the want to ask questions anoymously. However, it is simply absurd that a 13 year old should be concerned why she can't orgasm. There are legitimate questions here, and I can understand the embarrasment connected with certain subjects. I have tried to offer help to those who obviously need help and have legitimate concerns, as I will with my own kids when the time comes.

I just want to know where these kids are getting these ideas at such a young age. I feel that it is a lack of parenting, or very screwed up parenting. I want to know are all or most kids like this, or does it just seem that they are because the few really screwd up ones have all come here and the good kids' parents are actually doing some responsible parenting.

Answer 1

I feel that a lot of the questions come for kids that are not well supervised. The have gotten in to a situation and now need answers. I'm sure that some of the questions are from kids with to much time on their hands but many are actually seeking information. Not all kids are bad and not all good kids make good decisions. As adults we should do our best to teach our children well, give them the love and attention they need so that they do not go finding the attention by having sex at such a young age. You have a right to be concerned with your observations, but I am afraid that a lot of these problems you have seen start in the home. My daughter is 10 and we talk about sex.. No like adult sort of things but she has seen animal mate and she knows that it takes a boy and a girl and physical contact to make babies.. I do my best to answer her questions. I am overjoyed when she gets a little embarrassed when we talk about these things because it shows innocents. Not every parent is like me tho and some avoid the subject all together. I assume that is why we see a lot of shocking questions.. Some parents just do not know how to deal with their teens and pre teens. Rather than putting these kids down for their behavior, I respect them for seeking help and answers.

Answer 2

Yahoo Answers is the place where teens and preteens can ask questions that they might be to embarassed to ask other people... I've noticed there are a lot of young teens and preteens who don't have the experience and their parents haven't given them "the talk" so they don't know what to expect... It does make me sick that 12yr old girls are having sex, mind you, it was the same when I was 12... And I would say it has nothing to do with how the parents raise their kids, its what they see and hear in school and daycare and on tv and other places that make them this way... Its America (and Canada)
Have fun with your kids when they get to be that age!

Answer 3

I agree people r to young asking these questions!but sex is everywhere on tv and in todays popular music,us teens can't excape it!so of course kids r couris and want answers,but I like when people tell them to wait for sex there like 11 and 12 asking these questions scary that's when u should just be holding hands!i'm waiting 4 marriage!And they ask these questions 4 answers for real,and some to show off and b funny,if only there parents knew!but all i can say is 4 people to be real with there questions and answer them b4 they hear something wrong from a friend!but good point!

Answer 4

They now have a forum to talk about this sort of stuff and alot of the questions appear to be for shock value. Before they had the internet they only used to think such things as their friends would probably have disowned them if they had behaved this way. The net is a fantastic place and a great source of information, but where there is good, there is an opposite amount of bad, sadly. I don't even open those questions anymore..just skip over them.

Answer 5

I was born in 1979 and I don't know when that changed happened where teenagers just became so overly sexed that may not even be a word but these kids are different.The parents are much younger and less strict.If a girl had a first child at 14 then you are talking about a 27 year old with a 13 year old daughter/son and there we have it.I have 2 kids and I can't imagine how much it would cost for me to get bailed out of jail for trying to kill one of them.It's something in the milk.

Answer 6

I must agree with you. How very disappointing to see this is what our children are reduced to.

What do we expect to see when music videos portray females as Ho's and wearing not much more than a smile and shakin' their booty?

As I child, I was blissfully unaware of such things and my childhood went far into my early teens.

Sure I got upset with my Mom & Dad and was going to run away from home - probably because they didn't buy me AlphaGetti or some such innane reason, but I was loved, safe, protected and innocent.

It's very sad to think my generation may have been one of the last generations to have that kind of security.

Answer 7

This is the result of what television, magazines, and schools feed our children. I remember when I was 12 (I'm 21 now) being in a school bathroom and these two girls were in there talking about the new girl in their 'group' and making fun of her because she was still a virgin!

Because of what I've seen out there, and my own semi-recent experiences with teenage hood, I have decided, hands down, to homeschool my children so that i have control over what is being fed into their young and vulnerable minds. Kids will follow what their example gives them. There is so much sex and vulgarity on the radio, TV and internet there is no surprise that they are doing this.

And to top it all off, they have raging hormones, lack of judgement and are very implulsive and make quick decisions.

Having recently exited them myself, I can safely conclude that it sucks being a teenager. (that's sort of off topic but hey).

the wonderful anonymnity of yahoo!answers allows kids to ask those questions that they wouldn't dream of asking someone in real life.

Answer 8

They have little or no supervision and are exposed to very bad influences at an early age. Parents need to know what their kids are doing, especially if they have access to a computer. I would never let a child use it unless I knew exactly what they were doing. TV is also a bad influence. These are major concerns for parents.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to say this but us teens/pr-teens are curious about stuff. Instead of asking an adult which would be so embarrassing we ask on here. I know theirs some questions that you see that you say to your self Oh My God, is he/she serious so yeah. We're teens for crying out loud. reality isn't perfect. I hope you don't take this the wrong way.

Answer 10

I have to agree with you on this one. I have three children and I just hope this is not something I will have to look forward to. Besides that yes I think this is truly their way of acting out. To get attention.