I am 19 years old and pregnant but i already have 2 year old identical twin boys. What do i do?

Question

I am 2 months pregnant !!

for all you people i am married and have been for two years and all my kids have the same dad. AND i WAS on birth control.

Answer 1

This isn't a question to be answered here.Search deep in your heart and you will find the right answer.

Answer 2

Girl, you don't have to explain to these people if your married or not or on birth control or not. Whats done is done, don't let them make you feel bad. And if your pregnant, its much easier to feel depressed.. It doesn't matter now anyway. If you chose to have the baby, you will make it. Raising children is not easy especially when your young and have two boys. Just focus on what must be done... Try to start potty-training your boys and weaning them from things that they may not necessarily need. Save all of their baby items and watch for things at yard sales. Figure out what bills you can reduce or pay-off in the next 6 months and save every penny.... By having these twin boys, you already know what stress is. They have and will continue to make you stronger. Focus on the long-term benefits of having a large, close family...Things will seem hard and depressing at times but they will get better!!! I know because I am 24, with a 5 and 4 year old boys and am also 8 months pregnant. I am divorced so I will be handling this alone, but I know we'll be fine. You will be fine also as long as you remain a good parent and do whats best for your children!!! God does not give us challenges we can not handle.

Answer 3

well all I can say , if you don't want another child give it up to a family that what's a child that can't have any kids,I shur hope the father is by the same Daddy as the two Boy's U have... so it don't get pushed aside. ~~ OR ~ Hope for a Girl so you can stop. so U don't have anymore children. I could only have 1 child my self by the grace of God. He made it here > and always wanted another child, God will give me only 1 child I gave up after my son made it to 8 yrs old. His father wanted 2 child also, but it never happened. I was not made to have any children and , was told that when I was 16 because of my female part where not made for having child so by the time was 20 I face it that I would not be able to have children. Now I have a bright eyed 6'5 1/2 tall Young man , 230 pound @ birth he came into this world 6 weeks early, and grew to be the man he is today,
GOOD LUCK HONEY < AND MAY THE LORD ABOVE BE RIGHT AT YOUR SIDE TODAY< AND The rest of your days.
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Answer 4

Wow, when I read this question the first thing that came to mind is, that just about is me! I have boy/girl twins, I'm 18, almost 19, and I am pregnant again. Is your boyfriend around to help you? It would make a huge difference if he is. Don't get an abortion. If you decide you just can't afford to care for the new baby, give it for adoption. If you need someone to talk to, fell free to e-mail at [e-mail]

Okay, married is good. I'm not going to say you are young, cuz I am the same age. Hope you have a good time with your kids. It will be a challenge, but worth it in the end. You can still e-mail me if you want to talk to someone.

Answer 5

Ultimately, it is your decision. If you feel you really won't be able to cope with another baby, you could have an abortion. You are already 2 months gone so this decision would have to be made quickly.

If it is a matter of money, there are benefits you can get and your twins should be going to nursery soon. Would family help you out with childcare? You will need the help if you keep the baby, as you will not be able to run around after them when you're the size of an elephant!

I hope that everything goes okay for you and that you make the decision that is best for everyone. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to.

Answer 6

Are you married, can you afford to have another baby........ all these questions are really valid, and you have to look at it to be realistic.

But being realistic now and ending the pregnancy can end you up in the loony house when you realise 5 or 10 years or maybe 1 hour later that you have made a mistake. And you will never know what special person this baby could have been, I promise you this can really drive you up the walls and you must choose which is the better choice, financial struggle or emotional.

Answer 7

you are going to have a really hard time i have two kids but they are not twins and one at a time is hard work never mind having 2 or 3 little ones,if you have a good husband thats helps out alot then go for it it will be hard for the fist 2 years but after that it will great great having your children while you are young is not so bad at least when they are all grown up you can still have a life..but if you feel that you are all alone then get rid no one will think they you are a bad person or parent it is very hard work with 1 never 3 little ones.....good luck what ever you decide it will be hard

Answer 8

i'm 26 and I find it hard to cope with one baby! My mum had four kids under 4 1/2 though and she coped fine so I suppose it depends on what type of person you are. I am an identical twin and my mum said that as we grew up we entertained each other (if that is any help). I bet you have a gut feeling about what you want to do, but just be sure that it is YOU that makes any decisons. good luck

Answer 9

hi,

I'm sorry other people seem to have jumped to conclusions about you.

I understand your dilema, but it is really only you and your hubby that can decide what to do. The only thing I will say is make sure you talk to your husband before you decide anything as it will be really difficult for you to deal with this on your own, both now and after you have made the decision.

you've already proved you can be a mom as you managed to cope with twins at 17 without going crazy, so think carefully before you decide anything

sorry i haven't answered you question, hope everything goes well for you whatever you decide.

ick
xxx

Answer 10

Is the father around? That is always the question. If not ask yourself if you want to carry a child full term or do you believe in abortion. If you do carry to full term is adoption an option. Under certain circumstances there are people that cant have kids that are looking for single mothers that are pregnant. Is that an option for you. If that is i know some people that would love to have another child but have had a tubal ligation.
Good luck in your decision

Answer 11

I am sorry that you have received a number of critical remarks (although I think well intended). I think your situation is something I would not have chosen for myself or my own children. I know people from older generations who had children at your age when it was a normal expectation and became successful parents. Similarly, I hear of people who seemingly have the perfect life to bring up a single child (more mature, economically sound etc) and have made a hash of it. I hope whatever decision you make is positive for you and your twins, that you have some support systems, and that you are able to inspire your children to achieve in the world, whilst not giving up on yourself achieving (as you are young enough to make a mark). I hope the link keeps you believing in yourself.