My daughter is 14 and wants to start wearing thongs and skimpy bras what should i do?

Answer 1

Personally, I have been wearing thongs and pretty bras since my freshman year in high school. I didn't wear them to show off for others, I just like pretty things. Your daughter wearing thongs or pretty bras doesn't mean she will be having sex or anything like that. Also, I think thongs are wayyy more comfortable. That might be part of her decision. Maybe you could take her shopping and pick out bras and panties that you can both agree on (compromising on letting her get thongs - but nothing too skimpy!)

Answer 2

I think it's best to let her do it. She's probably going to do it anyway. At the age of 14 boys and especially girls will ask and when you say no, they will do what they want and hide it. If you know about it, at least you know and there's no lying and secrets. Also, she's realizing that she's becoming a woman and if she feels like it will help her mature and give her more confidence in herself, then it sounds like a good thing. I know a lot of teenagers lack confidence and giving her something that can help that is a good thing, even if it's something that helps her feel sexy. Though, it's not about sex, at least we hope not. It's just a curiosity and it's good to be curious. The more you fight her in her growing up, the more she is going to fight back and want to act like an adult. Reverse psychology doesn't always work on teens, but remember you have more life experience than she does, so control her in the best way you can. You should say no sometimes like to smoking, drinking and sex. The first two can stunt her growth and the last, well, you know what that can do. Try to be her friend too. It may be hard, but talking and being open will make her hard days, weeks, months and years ahead a little easier. I had a single working parent at that age and thus no one to support me emotionally and I was a mess. I did everything wrong and got my young stupid butt in trouble all the time. It would have been nice to have a parent around to talk to and tell me yes or no sometimes. Good luck, you've got some hard days ahead, but it's worth it. Try to smile and have fun. Life's too short not to.

Answer 3

dont restrict her.

In fact go and shop together, show her that you care, let it be the daughter mother time. If you restrict her she will go opposite from what you want and become rebellious. I have 16 years old and very very decent.. but I have very open and honest relationship with her. I actually suggest she gets more attractive things and she does not want them.

So be open, go shopping and if you dont like something, be honest, but with good reasons not because someone here says one thing or another (you are her mother and you should know her character by now! eg if she smokes or drinks, you have bigger issues on your hands that just under ware!! This is disgusting to say but I seen so many girls already sleeping around at 14!! very sad, but due to strange parental restrictions and not enough love or attention ). Ask her to ware it and give her honest advise of what you think or what might be an outcome. TALK with HER.

However guide her and advise her if she will start using to reviling cloths she will suffer because of boys unwanted attention: give her examples examples etc that she can related to.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

I think she is to young to be doing this. What is her reasoning behind wanting to do this? This could lead to bigger things that she is not mentally or emotionally ready for. What I would do, is sit down and have a conversation we her and see where she is coming from with these ideas. Kids, now days are growing up faster then we did when we were growing up. Just be honest with her and don't lie to her because that is the worst thing you could ever do to a child. I also suggest if you go to Church maybe getting some help from someone who has gone through a similar problem with their daughters. I tried to be real strict with my children and sometimes it backfired in my face, but at other times I am glad I did if that makes any sense.

Answer 5

let her i'm 22 and when i was that age i asked my mom if i could wear a thong and she said no, but i wore it anyway, and it just turned into an argument if she did my laundry, i didn't wear skimpy clothes i was just self consious of the panty and bra lines. could be the same with ur daughter

Answer 6

Talk to her about what is going on in her life. Some times when you are a teen, your friends do this stuff and it makes you feel small. So you do it because of the pressure.

She might just be going through hormones. But she should not be doing this right now. She is to young for it! Put your foot down and tell her flat out NO!

good luck with it! =)

Answer 7

Let her, who cares what undergarments she wears? As long as she is not walking around in a bra and thong who cares? Even if you tell her no, she will obviously still wear them because I really don't think you will want to ask her to take off her clothes to see what kind of underwear shes wearing..As long as she is not letting it hang out everywhere why not?

Answer 8

You need to sit down with her and talk to her about why she shouldn't be wearing those kinds of clothing. Try to make her understand that she is a teen and not an adult yet. Try to get her to tell you why she wants to wear those types of undergarments. It's possible she wants to wear them to be "cool" in front of her friends, or maybe because her friends are wearing them.
You just need to make her understand your point of view - which she may not get, but you should still explain. If she persists with it, then try to make a compromise - maybe no thongs or too sexy undergarments, but maybe try getting her more stylish undergarments with a little sass to them. Compromise is your best bet, because if you forbid her I'm sure she'll find a way to get them anyway.

Answer 9

Talk to her about what could happen when she is out in public dressed like that. There are a lot of sick people out there. If she wants/needs to feel sexy, tell her to change her hair style, not wearing skimpy lingerie

Answer 10

If you don't approve, tell her no. You don't need any other reason than you're her parent.

If you want a reason, they're not healthy. You might remind her that gravity will take it's toll on her bosom if she does't take care of it, and thongs are not hygenic.

Unless you want to be a grandmother to a 15--year-old's child, best to put your two cents in NOW before it's too late.