My parents moved to Spain. They have a few items registered at my home address, ie driving licences, credit card (only 1). My husband tells me every time he sees post addressed to them that he has had enough of them using our address. I am at my wits end. Do I tell them they are wrong to use our address or is my husband being unreasonable?
2006-06-18 09:12:25 · 14 answers · asked by viki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband is being unreasonable. They are your parents for God's sake.
2006-06-18 09:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man have I ever gone through this! You will definitely have to nip this one early before it ruins your friendship. Here are a couple of options for you: 1. Be honest. The next time it happens, try something like this - "Sometimes when you say things like that, where you tell me what I should be doing with my son, it hurts, and makes me feel like you think we are bad parents. There are many times when we've tried or done exactly what you suggested already, but every child is different and so is every family, and we are just doing what we feel is best and what works for us. You are a great friend and we have some great conversations and I really don't want to lose that because of a misunderstanding." Hopefully she will get the hint. 2. Let her talk - maybe it's just her way of talking about all the things she's trying to learn about parenting in an effort to determine how she will be as a parent. To combat your feelings make up a phrase to say like "That's great advise, I'll think about it" and in your head it will mean "You just wait until you have kids then you'll know!" When she finally has her baby, you will often find that these will stop when she realizes her advise doesn't even fit her own situation. 3. Simply say "Yes Mother!" and giggle. 4. Tell her a story about this 'other friend' you have that always says these types of things and how it makes you feel then ask for her advise on how to get this 'other friend' to stop. Make the situations a little different from what she does but have the same basic idea. Maybe she'll get the hint and realize what she is doing. At the very least she won't want to be like the 'other friend'. Hope at least one of these works for me - I've had to try all of them before and I've never had a case where at least one didn't work.
2016-05-20 00:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Credit card debts are linked to addresses so if there card is in the red then it affects you and your husband if you apply for any type of credit!
Check the status of the card and, if its fine, tell your husband a few bits of paper dropping through the letter box is not an issue!
2006-06-18 22:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ross J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is 2006, what do YOU think?
If YOU think your parents are out of order tell them.
The postal service in Spain is a bit dodgy and things such as driving licenses are inportant documents to go missing.
Why does your husband have a problem? Is it just this thing about an Engloshman's home being his castle.
If so he needs to get out of the last century too
Stand up to him
2006-06-18 20:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by glynis4673 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would annoy me a little. Why are they using your address? Have you asked them? Maybe your husband is worried that your parents are taking advantage. It doesn't make sense for their stuff to go to your home so suggest to them to get them re-routed to Spain and then thats the end of the matter.
2006-06-18 09:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U used their address for a long time and they go nothing out of it. So let them use yours for now. And tell your husband that those are your parents and that withouth them he'd never had u, so just deal with it.
2006-06-18 09:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by letmesurpriseu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they really need to be registered in England for anything, why cant they transfer the addresses over?
2006-06-18 09:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband is being petty and you know it.
On the bright side, be thankful, if you consider this to be a problem - you must be leading a pretty peachy life right now.
2006-06-18 09:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by del-d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell them that they are wrong, just advise them that you are going on a mailing preference list to avoid junk mail, and conserve the environment, so they will have to receive the mail themselves or find an alternative. Easy! and no one is offended.
2006-06-18 09:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why they are using your address. If it because they are trying to skip on their bills then it should stop. Talk to your parents about this and see what they say.
2006-06-18 09:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋