2006-06-18 08:49:27 · 28 answers · asked by kl1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with the majority of the other replies. Dump him. It's up to you to have the courage to take that leap.
Remember "no man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry"
2006-06-18 09:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ladyfromdrum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I will say to you "I'm sorry".
Second, you should end the relationship because he's just not that into you or he would not be cheating on you.
Third, I would suggest that you buy and read the book "He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo . YOU (and the rest of us) DESERVE a person that feels you are "all that-- plus a bag of chips". I've been in a similar "not that into you" situation and what you have to decide is if you want to stay with someone that doesn't value you the way you deserve to be valued. It's very difficult sometimes making the correct choice, but it is worth it in the end. You can never change someone else (they must feel the need to change themselves), all you can do is change yourself and your own attitudes. Value yourself. That is important. When you value yourself enough to expect value and respect in a relationship then it will happen for you. Good Luck!!
2006-06-18 16:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Connie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he isn't going to be monogamous, then you can't be monogamous. Start dating other men on the side.
If that's not the type of relationship you want, then tell him that and break up with him.
Consider getting married. Marriage is the type of relationship you form when you want to be monogamous. Why are you so surprised that he is seeing other women, when you two are not married? You have no claim of exclusivity over him, except a loose understanding of wanting to be with him under certain terms, he may or may not agree with.
2006-06-18 15:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a boy from your work for 12 months
2006-06-18 16:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell girl - get rid and chop his nuts off in the process!!
8 years obviously dont mean anything to him if he's been seeing some **** behind your back!!
Kick him out & be brave! Someone worthy of you will come along in time, but please have some respect for yourself and dont let him make excuses and worm his way back to you! A leopard never changes its spots and im afraid if you forgive him once he will think you are a pushover and he will continue to push the barriers and cheat knowing you will be there and forgive him!
He's a dirty rat..................not worthy of you!
Okay i will stop ranting now! Be strong and good luck x
2006-06-18 16:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mel.B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no leave him!!! Him cheating shows a lack of love and honesty to you and these things only ruin a women phycologically and emotionally. Down will go your self-esteem and depression will rush in. Haven't you ever seen Whitney Houston after being with Bobby Brown, yep same story may occur. I know its been a long time and it hurts but let it fly, things will only get better. God Bless you sweetie
2006-06-18 15:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people cheat because of thier relationships,either stale,boring,routine or no sex.if he is seeing this woman you really need to establish if is worth carrying on.communication is the key.talk to him without pointing fingers,if you go in all guns blazing with YOU did this n that it wil turn into war.you want to keep him?if the answer is yes,make sure its not cos yr afraid to be alone.is he treating you like a doormat?does he know you will chuck him if you find out?youve got to ask yourself so many questions,and YOUare the only person who can answer yourself.no matter what people say,you will do what you like.its your life.good luck x
2006-06-18 16:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mistress j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him as soon as you can. the longer you stay in the relationship the more you will get hurt en forget the good times you had. he is an a s s to throw away 8 years. You should keep your dignity and get out. Good luck.
2006-06-18 16:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Levi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first problem is you having a BOYFRIEND for EIGHT YEARS. He should have married you way before now. But now you can see the problem you took care of him or you let him use you and now he has become bored. Let him go and sue him for Palimony.
2006-06-18 16:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by willyo2340 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him, it is posible that is not the first woman he goes out with, it may be the first you know about. it hurts but it will hurt even more later on. once respect is lost, love won't work. People don't change, remember.
2006-06-18 15:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Poe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋