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Some peole on here posted some angry comments, because I hit on waitresses (Really any females in service industries are possible future rendezous) but before you get too judgemental consider this: When I married my wife she was thin and attractive, now she's kind of chunky. I think I'm doing her a solid by cheating in secret instead of divorcing her. After all who else would marry her now that she's beefed up? I know it seems mean but think about it, I'm kind of doing her a favor. Besides, she's set to inherit several million when her mother passes and I don't think I'm ready to walk out on that. Would you?

2006-06-18 08:33:28 · 37 answers · asked by Pumpkin Head 4 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Hold the horses people! Chill out with the harsh remarks! I make plenty of money mysel, so it's not just the $ that I'm thinking about, its mostly the fatness!

2006-06-18 08:48:00 · update #1

37 answers

Cha-Ching!!!
You are a loser....you are risking everything by cheating on your wife. You need to make a decision. Commit yourself to the Fat and future rich wife or bail out and find someone more your type before you are too old and fat to get another woman.
Stop Cheating!! You are risking millions, bro!!

2006-06-18 08:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by liljomo1234 5 · 4 4

So, when you married your wife did you skip the part in your vows where it said "for better or for worse?" What you described is pretty shallow - did you think that your wife would stay looking the same throughout your whole marriage? I bet you don't look the same as when you got married either. Instead of cheating why not spend the time with your wife and do active things together. Why not join a gym together.
You cheating on your wife isn't doing her any favors and the fact that the only reason you are staying with her is to get your hands on her inheritance is disgusting. I feel sorry for your wife. If you had any balls you would tell her how you feel, stop cheating, and work on your marriage.
Oh, and by the way - there are TONS of guys who don't mind a woman who is, as you say, "beefed up" - don't think for a second that a smart, attractive, funny woman is going to be shunned by all men just because she's a little overweight. There are a lot of men who actually prefer a little meat to bone skinny.

2006-06-18 08:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I know a little of what you speak. However, my situation is slightly different. Yes, my wife has gained a lot of weight and is no longer physically attractive... but that is not the reason I no longer love her. The reason is partly because neither one of us knew what love really was when we got married... the other is that over the years she has become bitter and resentful, and has even become physically abusive to me.

I began looking for someone else to fill the hole in my heart that she was making... I finally found someone and we started talking. We discovered we were soulmates, but because of a number of reasons we could not be together. I could not divorce my wife because my son was too young. However, my soulmate and I stayed together, because not only did we love each other more deeply than words... we also had become best friends.

Well, now my son is old enough, and I AM planning on divorcing my wife, because EVERYONE in this relationship will be better off. She and I fight all the time. We are NOT happy, we have only been staying together all this time for my son. She thinks this marriage can be saved, that we need to work at it... I know the truth. The last time she hit me in the face, I said that was it... I was NOT going to sit there and take that EVER AGAIN.

You are wrong to stay with her for the money. And you are wrong to stay with her because you think no one will marry her because of her size. Many people are more than willing to look beyond that to the person within... I am. You need to stop running around with anyone who comes along while you are with your wife. Get a divorce, set her free, then do whatever you want. If you're lucky, you'll find someone you really do want to spend the rest of your days with, someone who will always love you... a true soulmate. With such a person, it will not matter WHAT they look like... they will always be the most beautiful person to you. And you will NEVER want to be with anyone else.

2006-06-18 09:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbajones 3 · 0 0

Before I decided to answer your question, I looked up your other questions..... The only one that was half way decent was the one you asked in regard what you needed to do to help spice up your's and your wife's sex life, or something to that effect...
Looks as if you are into a pattern that will, trust me on this one, catch up to you... End results won't be pretty either......
First of all, why don't you put your picture on here? That might make a lot of difference to justify what everyone is saying about you regarding what you look like now. I have the same tendency to believe what other people are saying regarding the fact that you probably don't look like the man she married as she doesn't look like the same woman you married.... However, that Does Not justify you hitting on and cheating on her and the worst comment you could have possibly made was the fact that "any females in the service industries are possible future rendevous"! If I was in that field, which I am not, I probably wouldn't hand you your plate, I'd throw it at you!!!
When I first married I gained alot of weight, and my husband was much smaller than myself... However, that always bothered me, so when I got pregnant and weighed in a 180lbs, my dr told me if I didn't lose weight I could just find another Dr. That has always stuck with me, and I did lose weight. More even after my second child was born. I ended up at the time down to 128 lbs. My Dr was so proud of me.... Unfortunatelly, I found out that my now, ex-husband liked heavier women, so he divorced me and married a fat lady.... That's where your comment is so wrong considering the fact you commented on who would want her anyway as she was so chunky??? Lots of men!!!
When I was a child, my Father traveled all week and went out on my Mother constantly... Even with some of our neighbors. (I only found all of this out when I as was older). Mother received a call from an irate husband saying if you don't keep your SOB husband away from my wife "I'll kill him"! Food for thought, huh????
Bottom line, it's your life, if you "Play - You Pay"!!! "What goes Around - Comes Around", so on and so forth.....
I'm not going to judge you on what you are doing, even though I could easily do so. However, in the end just remember this..."You Will Be Judged"!!!

2006-06-18 09:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by longleggedblonde1378 2 · 0 0

I am not going to get judgemental on you. Enough people have---whether they are right and you are wrong---its not why I am posting.

What I will say is this. What if you were her? And she said the same about you? How would you feel? Its not a DAMN YOU your going to hell thing. Its a---do you still love and care for her thing? If you care enough about her to still be with her, then doesn't she deserve for you to TELL her your feelings? TACTFULLY PLEASE. Maybe she will try...she just has to know? Alternatively, if you want to see new women.....fine. But maybe you should end the marriage....out of fairness to her.

But much more serious: disease. And I am not talking aids. But that is a possible issue. Let's be honest, people lie about their sexual history all the time. All it takes is one time unprotected....even oral sex, and you can contract a disease which can be passed onto her and which can cause her cervical cancer, ovarian cancer.....hell, you just infect her period! Many many stds do not have symptoms in men. You'd have no idea ytou have it. But you could, and some (like herpes) will never go away.

far from the the moral issue.....out of fairness to yourself and her, you guy should BOTH be happy, or have the opportunity to. Lying to her is not the answer. Lies have a way of catching up with you.....

that's all I have to say.

2006-06-18 08:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by dm 1 · 0 0

You're clearly an asshole. Marriage should involve far more than what your spouse looks like and we ALL get older. Looks will fade whether we gain weight or not!

And what do you look like these days? How much weight have you put on?

You are not doing her any favors. Come clean with what is wrong in your marriage and work together to resolve it EVEN if that means divorce.

Thank god any money she inherits is legally HERS and not a community asset.

I hope she sees this because if I thought my husband was hanging around just for my mom's money, that would be reason enough to dump his sorry butt, but knowing that you are cheating too, and exposing me to all sorts of possible dangers (from disease, to extra chldren to stalkers), I'd want you drawn and quartered.

There is NO justification for what you are doing. You are just a jerk.

So go be single and you can spread your jerkdom as you choose.

2006-06-18 08:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0 0

You are shallow and selfish! Did it ever occur to you that maybe your wife has chunked up due to unhappiness with you... maybe she has an eating disorder due to depression from being married to a jerk like you. Or maybe she chunked up because she married a man she thought loved her for who she is and not what she looks like so her chunkiness is a sign of happiness.... (ever wonder where the phrase fat and happy came from???)
And trust me... if you are cheating, she knows!!!!! You men tend to put off a STINK when you stick it where it don't belong!
Maybe you should look beyond yourself for a moment and consider talking to her about your feelings. Maybe she doesn't realize that she repulses you because you walk around as if nothing is wrong while secretly courting others. Be a MAN and talk to your wife. Also its pretty sad that you're willing to ruin her life over a few extra pounds and an inheritance.

2006-06-19 00:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You know better that cheating on your wife is wrong... you are married to her because of your own selfish desires like good sex and wealth from her.

Now that she's physically unattractive, you're just hanging around for the money. That's really damn nasty and you know that.

So what do you want in your life? It seems like you are a lazy guy who wants to get the best the easy way. Just imagine how life would be once you're old and broke and you haven't set your life in the right track.

Once you mess up with life big time, it's really hard to change things. When the damage is done, there's no way to get things back.

Cheat on wife? you're cheating yourself and you'd be broke and unhappy when you get old and ugly. Your children, if you've got any, would probably hate you for the rest of their lives.

2006-06-18 08:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 1 0

when you married that thin little thing you said for better for worse till death do us part...it said nothing about until your *** gets big. Any male that cheats on his wife after he has committed to a life with them....and had children and promised to grow old together is not a MAN! A true MAN would be able to handle his tool with some discretion. Get a life if you are that horny all the time leave her so someone can love her.

2006-06-18 11:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 0 0

I would like think Thom is not even married just a person who likes to stir the pot. He enjoys the reaction he gets from others by making statements such as this.

If by chance it is true just wait Thom time will catch up with you my friend. Your hair will begin to recede, your waist too will begin to expand not to mention other areas will begin to "sag and shrivel" at which point your then wealthy wife will have no need for a balding, over weight, impotent fellow.

Best of luck :)

2006-06-18 09:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by Justagirli 2 · 0 0

Oh my God, someone should get you and do the same thing to you, and you know what, people like you always get caught or have horrible things happen in their lives. And trust me you will deserve whatever comes your way. You think that your wife doesn't know, but trust me she does and she will kick you to the curb long before. Or maybe I am your wife, and you just didn't know that I have caught on to you. Watch your back baby! I may have put on weight, but along with that came brains and I'm figuring out the best way to get rid of your ***.........and make sure that you never see a dime!

2006-06-18 08:41:10 · answer #11 · answered by Terri B 1 · 0 0

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