what do i do?

Question

i have a friend and shes a girl and she told me she likes me and i dont know how to tell her that im not a lesbian, i dont know how she thought i was i mean sometimes i do dress like a tomboy and i do have a masculine body but im straight

Answer 1

Bravo! your straight just tell her your not interested and you never will be.

Answer 2

Just tell her you are not a lesbian or bi, so you guys can only be friends. She might be having a hard time finding people to talk to about her feeling and really just needs a friend.

Also a "masculine body" says nothing about what you are or are not. Some of the most "girly" girls are lesbians or bisexuals. That's a sterotype. Just putting that out there.

Answer 3

She's your friend, so you should really tell her. If she's your real friend she should ought to understand. Yeah you do dress like a tomboy and I am in your shoes, because I dress like a tomboy but I am straight. So you ought to let your friend know how you really feel and let her know nicely that your not a lesbian and your only interested in guys. But make it to the point where she knows that you don't have anything against homosexuality and that you still want to be her friend.

Answer 4

Tell her you are flattered but you are straight and that being friends is just fine with you. If she still persisits on admiring you for more than just a friend, maybe you should hang out with other people for a while until the attraction wears off. She will prolly find that being friends instead of "lovers", will be a lot better in the long run. Have fun and be happy.

Answer 5

I had the same problem as you. If this friend means a lot to you, treat her as how you used to treat her. I'm straight so let her know that I am. I respect her decision to like girls and we're still good friends

Answer 6

Just tell her that you dont feel the same way about her as she does for you. Tell her that you only like her as a friend.

Answer 7

Just tell her exactly what you wrote here. That you value her friendship, but you just aren't a lesbian. That's perfectly reasonable. She will understand. Just try not to make a big deal out of any of it. That might embarass her, which could compromise your friendship.

Answer 8

Just tell her you're not interrested...she should understand that you can't help how you feel, and that you want to keep being friends. Something like this shouldn't come between two people...and with her being a lesbian, she should understand that you can't help who you love, and that you just don't love her.

Answer 9

you need to let her know that you are not a lesbian. i think using the word "not interested" would kill her. since this is someone's feelings we are talking about, we need to be politacally correct about it so that she doesnt jump off the next tall building that she is in.
its only right to let her know because if not you'd hurt her further. maybe you can start off by saying that the both of you are adults and this can be resolved without your friendship being ruined since you value her friendship etc.... you get the drift.....

good luck!

Answer 10

Honesty is always the best policy , Tell her the truth and let her know that you are not a lesbian , but you are flattered that she has interest in you tell her thanks but no thanks . You can still be friends and nothing has to change between you . Best of luck

Answer 11

Tell her that you are sorry but you are straight and just want to be her friend.