what should i do..???..plz help me!!!?

Question

i'm in a relationship.......but i don't love him any more.....but i hate to hurt him.....i'm a kind heart 'd person......i'ma run down some of da things he did to me to give u a betta picture.....
1. he cheated on me....(it took him a year to tell me)
2.he's ova protective....
3.he hits me when i don't obey him
4.he talk to alot of chicks
5.he's always try'n to keep me in da house
ok.....i'ma very pretty gurl....
i can get damn near anybody i want....but plz help me.....if ya want to kno more.....*[e-mail]*

Answer 1

Honey if he is abusing you then why are you worried about hurting him by getting yourself out?
Get on the phone to the sheriffs dept and have them take you to a woman's shelter where you can get the counseling and help you need to build a new life with some self respect.

Answer 2

Ok, first you need to seek professional help because the situation your in is a dangerous one. Domestic disputes can be fatal and if you like your life at all, then spare yourself the agony of domestic violence. You say you don't want to hurt him, but you don't mind hurting yourself? Because that is EXACTLY what you're doing by staying in a relationship that your miserable in. YOU ARE HURTING YOU! And furthermore, if you think your "hurting him" by getting out of the relationship then YOUR WRONG. From your list above, it is plain that he doesn't give a CRAP about you what-so-ever. You're just a novelty to him... just someone for him to bully around and abuse. If you take that away from him by leaving the relationship, he'll be a little pissed off at first, but it will not take him very long to replace you with another "girly punching bag". Your boyfriend is an ABUSER and the longer you stay in the relationship and make excuses for him the longer you will be ABUSED. And if you think you're kind-hearted, YOUR WRONG AGAIN. The term you should be using to describe yourself is foolish, not kind-hearted. Your boyfriend has a SERIOUS problem and by you staying with him , you're allowing him to abuse you and YOU ARE ENABLING his aggressive behavior...this is FOOLISH OF YOU, NOT KIND-HEARTED! Get away from him NOW so that you can get your own life!
Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

I applaud your kind heart, but you have to look out for yourself. You know the reasons this relationship isn't healthy for you - you listed them very nicely. Please be smart and realize that he will not change for the better just because you obey him and let him have his way with you.

Do you have parents, brothers, sisters, girlfriends, a former teacher, a doctor....ANYONE...who you can confide in about your situation? If you do, then do it. (No one is going to be ashamed of you or shocked - this happens to a lot more women than you realize. It happens to poor women, rich women, educated women, old, young, beautiful, homely...you name it.) If they offer to help you leave, let them help you. Leaving is HARD TO DO....it is much easier with help from friends and family. The people who really love you will help you through this. And believe me, this guy will get over you and move on to abusing the next poor soul he can lay his miserable hands on.

I truly wish you the strength to do this and the best of luck.

Be well.

Answer 4

abuse is not something to be nice about. Please be true to yourself and don't allow it any further, staying gives him the ok to do it again. Being nice and being a doormat are two different things. You should follow the law and leave and get a restraining order. So you hate to hurt him, but how does hurting you make him feel, does he even blink? Dear one, Take a deep breath and go.

Answer 5

You need to separate and get out. I would not stay with him if i were you especially if he is abusive and treats you like a slave. Take him on the Maury show. Seek counseling and help too. But i am telling you to GET OUT NOW before the abuse gets any worse. If you are married you may even have to get divorced later too!

Answer 6

Girl, I'm gonna tell you like this from experience, Get out now before you get killed or almost killed. My Boyfriend was the same ways that's why I stopped Loving him.... I didn't want to hurt him either but I had to get my life back if not I knew my life was gonna go from what it was before to being his slave and not being even able to talk to no one never going out side. He always made me hang up the phone my friends, parents, everyone I couldn't take it I had to get away! I waited so long I almost got killed... please get out before its too LATE!

Now I am happy I Found someone who is amazing and treats me the way I never thought I would be treated, he made me gain my self confidence back, he supports me emotionally and helps with me with everything. He puts me first in his life and adores me, he tries so hard to make everything perfect for me.....

But I would have never found him if I didn't get out of that relationship or what I thought was a relationship!

Do it not only for yourself but for your mother because no mother wants to bury her daughter!

Answer 7

I think you know the answer, you have to gather some courage and stand up for yourself. Also maybe having some friends/family for support would help as well. No one should be restricted of their free will. He obviously isn't.

Answer 8

take a good look in teh mirror and tell you self YOU ARE A WINNER, and you deserve better.

once oyu have more self confidence you can go forward -
develop a close circle of friends.

and go forward.

GO GET 'IM GURL!

Answer 9

Your guy is a looser and you need to find someone else. He will never treat you any better for any amount of time, and he has no respect for you. It is time for you to find your own self respect, and to find a man, not a boy.

Answer 10

everyone is going to tell you to leave but to tell you the truth do what you think you need to do because just getting up and leaving is not that easy