there are these boys that tell my friend symmone that she is ugly when she is not but she always crys and i tell her not to but really all the crying i can't take it anymore. plese help me. what can i do to atleast help the situation instead of making it worse
2006-06-18 07:57:53 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
It does matter more than most of the people realize and want it to matter.
2006-06-18 08:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by jacek s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you already have a good answer for this. but if not, this is what I have to offer. your friend Whether ugly or not, has a self esteem isue. now what would really help your friend would be for you to do something with her that boosts her confidence. I dont know how old you are so I wont go into any specific detail. you could do things like go shopping for some cute outfits, get her nails done, make her feel pretty. compliment her every once in a while. and if at all possible try to find a boy that does like her. and if nothing that you do seems to help all that much then you could always give an anonomous tip to your guidance councellor about your friends situation. and Im sure if nothing else they can make those jerks that tease her stop.
2006-07-02 03:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by thmslln3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUTH? I bet she is pretty or average and the guys are just jealous - coz they know she has no interest in them or they could never have her. So they just take the easy route and say she's ugly.
LOOKS: Honestly, as you get older, you will soon realize (hopefully you will) that looks aren't that important in life. If you realize that life is short and you need to make the most of it.. even if you are just absolutely gorgeous, you won't be spending more than 1/2 hr in the morning getting all made up. It's a big thing in school - coz that's all school is about. There's hardly any learning anymore. It's about parties and how you look to most.
If the boys are her friend, she needs to find new friends - even if they are just joking. It's not right.
If the boys aren't her friends, she needs to simply do her best to ignore or avoid being near them - that's if it really gets to her.
HOW YOU CAN HELP: Be her friend like you are already. Let her be capable of talking to you without you telling her things like "oh get a life" or "grow up" etc. No matter how much people get picked on, the one thing people need is a person to talk to that they have trust in and know that whatever they tell you will stick with you and you only.
Most of the time people think they need to "do" something about the problem. If it's not your problem, it's usually best to sit back and wait for a request for help. (unless of course it's causing some really big harm to the person)
Hope this helps. :)
2006-07-02 03:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by game buddee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think looks matter to everyone, put every-ones opinion on how someone looks is different. Someone might think that another is unattractive while the person next to them find that another beautiful, beauty is only in the eye of the beholder. But you have to remember that looks count but what is under the skin that is important. Have you ever realized that a person that you might not take a second look at can win you over on the inside and the more you get to know this person the more attractive them become? So yes and also no. So all you can do is be there for her, if she is your friend like you say she is then you sick with her. Take her to a spa, go shopping, have a makeover day, do what ever it takes you two completely change your appearance for one day or at least hers so that she might stand above you for one day, but guys are well hard to explain, more then likely they see her as being something more then beautiful and that scares them, guys don't like smart and beautiful because they feel that they will caught on to the person they really are and move on, plus with them being beautiful it will be easy, so do the makeover and just be there because she is your friend. Friendship is thicker then blood, but tears are just water.
2006-06-29 04:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by justalilbirdie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very young I think. Symmone will probably be a hottie in a couple of years. For now, try to hang out with different people. Tell your friend to look up some people that she considers to be beautiful, and then see if you can find some early pics of them. I bet that Julia Roberts looked like a tall skinny geek when she was 13. Look at her now!
2006-06-30 18:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people are obsessed with appearances, those shallow people only see, they do not experience the inner person, they do not allow themselves the joy of getting to know what is in the mind or heart of the person, they are in too much of a hurry to take the time to "stop and enjoy the roses". Those types of people are not worth worrying about, help your friend find people that will see past the external and appreciate the inner beauty of a really nice person.. "beauty is only skin deep..but personality goes clear to the bone." Nye
2006-06-30 10:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by teasinglittlebrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her feelings are hurt by this, so let her express those feelings.
When someone begins crying, they usually cry first for a little while; then talk a little bit while crying, and then STOP crying and talk more...if someone kind is there and is truly listening and not trying to get her to shut up.
After she realizes someone cares that her feelings are hurt, then she might cry less often, even if teased, because someone has really listened to how she feels.
2006-07-02 05:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by littleredms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of the first things I would do to try to help the situation is stay away from the guys who keep telling her that. In time she should see diffrently that what those guys think is just there opinion and that there opinion should not matter. And that more people see what you see that she is a beautiful person
2006-06-30 04:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by amyl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality is most important. In the words of Ron White, the reason why you should NEVER marry for looks: you can have surgery to lift your breasts, you can have LASIK eye surgery if your vision is going bad, and if you start growing a pot belly and don't feel like working it off, you can have a tummy tuck. But let me tell you something, you can't fix stupid. There's not a pill you can take. There's not a class you can attend. Stupid is forever.
2006-06-18 08:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by nighthawk_842003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society today can be so cruel, ppl today do base alot on looks because of the media. Tell your friend not to listen to them and to keep her head high, tell her that she is not ugly that the ppl that are saying she is are the ugly ones. People tend to say bad things about others because they themselves have faults, something they don't like about theirself so they have no choice but to try to bring someone else down too.
2006-07-01 08:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks only matter to those who are looking. If they don't like what they're seeing then what are they looking for. Most people that criticize people, it's because they like them in some way; whether it be physically or admiration. Everyone has somebody out there. Tell her to let them know that being ugly is a matter of opinion and they're to stupid to have one.
2006-06-18 08:08:51 · answer #11 · answered by kasar777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋