When is it acceptable to lie, if at all?!?

Question

Do you think it is ever acceptable to lie, even to spare someones feelings?
Or do you think people should be 100 truthful.
I don't think life works that way, and saying that someone looks good when they are just about to go out, is nicer.
Lies destroy a lot though, what do you think?!

Answer 1

I am a great believer in telling it like it is. But because we are all human doing exactly that can cause heartache or pain. Some people will say they can use tact in any given situation thereby telling the truth so that it is not harmful.You will identify this as a grey area.

You choose;-

a)"Excuse me, ma'am but would you like to try this in black instead of violet".

b)"Ma'am violet is not your colour, here try the black".

c)"You do look a bit plump in the violet, wouldn't you rather try the black".

d)"Ma'am you do look lovely and ever so elegant, I should buy the violet outfit as soon as possible".

Clothing shop assistants at one time were trained to lie to prospective customers trying on x amount of garments. As the more they sold the more they earned in commission. Nowadays, it makes commercial sense to tell the truth. Telling the truth or handling any situation with a little tact does not ruin friendships.

The correct answer is a or b. Depending on whether you'd like your customer to read between the lines than you'd answer a), answer b is a little more upfront.

Had you answered d) your credibility would suffer and c) is an insult.

Tact is the art of communication.

Answer 2

Sometimes honesty is not the best policy. Being honest with someone also requires a degree of understanding and responsibility from the person you are making a confession to or telling the truth to. if that person is not responsible with the honesty then sometimes it is unfair to expect honesty (if you see what I mean). obviously the best policy is to never get into a situation where you have to lie in the first place, or to ask the person out-right how they will take an honest response to a question. in order for honestly to work in a relationship you both have to be able to listen, be objective, forgiving, reasonable and have the ability to work through and over a problem. however, lots of people are unable to uphold this responsibility and can't let go of the confessions or honest comments. I also believe that if a person is asking for an honest response to a question, then you have to consider what will hurt them more: lying to them or telling them what they don't want to hear. sometimes you do lie to protect people because they are simply too unreasonable to accept a different perspective on a matter.

Answer 3

Yeah ok, but even the smallest lie can back fire and make the person who's feelings you were saving feel 100 times worse.

Best way to do it is to think of yourself. Would you want the truth or the lie? How would you react if you found out that you had been lied to? If you don't like the answers then don't do it!

Answer 4

the 1st 5 examples are no longer ones of ideal mendacity. that's being executed to entirely income the guy mendacity. #6 falls under the class of 'white lie' or 'social lie' and is an element of life. it truly is much less ideal to be brutally honest and harm somebody's thoughts than to 'fudge' a sprint on the actuality. in case you do no longer in user-friendly terms like the haircut or gown or although you could say some thing like "it truly is not some thing i could positioned on/have, yet i'm happy it pleases you". There. No lie. you in user-friendly terms have reported your opinion blatantly. And an omission isn't the comparable as a lie. #7 Santa and Easter Bunny are persons memories that youngsters rapidly study are persons memories. counting on the way it truly is finished, it truly is not unavoidably a 'lie' in any respect. St. Nicholas replace right into a actual individual and the spirit of his generosity is what this present giving season is truly all approximately. The Easter Bunny, if defined with the aid of fact the Germanic persons tale/fantasy is began at, is not extra telling a lie than analyzing infants previous fairy memories. Or do you communicate those lies additionally? in case you lie to keep an harmless from harm, I account that as a suitable lie. it truly is not in any respect ideal to lie to shield the to blame, even whether it truly is a family contributors member or sturdy chum. it truly is not ideal to lie just to attempt to 'get forward' in life. a majority of those issues tend to rebound quicker or later.

Answer 5

If I told my friends they looked good before they went out and they didnt, theyd kill me. Not to mention that they would then presumably do the same to me and allow me to go out with my skirt tucked into my pants... Sometimes honesty really is the best policy, even if it hurts a little in the short term, it may pay off in the long term. However it is perfect;y acceptable when asked by your boyfriend "is that another pair of new shoes?" to answer "no darling, had them ages just dont wear them very often"- that is a white lie.

Answer 6

ok there is nothing perfect once u hit planet earth. to lie or not to is very circumstancial. if dat tiny voice in ur head says lie go ahead n lie, otherwise dont. dat tiny voice is correct 70% of d times.

being 100% truthfull may earn u a few fans, but honestly it will also help gather the most bitter enemies too.

its not an ideal world dat v live in so everything backed up with a strong reason n ur will to stand by it somehow does work most of d times, n other times whether ur right or not - d universe just goes right thru u.

in many cases lies does destroy - but human beings are all very funny wat may destroy u may help build someone else's life, so to lie or not to lie is very much ur ball.

Answer 7

If you have to lie do it to spare someones feelings. But only if you're being pressurised. If not just don't say anything. The truth can hurt people more than lies, so at times its okay.

Answer 8

some say lies of omission are still lies, but that is a crock of hooey. Say, at a party, you don't have to tell everyone that someone's mom is a prostitute just because she IS. You can keep your mouth shut and not have lied. If asked that question directly, you don't have to answer yes just because your GF told you, even if you believe it's true, you simply don't have proof, so an "I don't really know" to totally honest. Even if you KNOW it's true you can choose not to answer or answer with " that's none of my business, ask someone else!"

Answer 9

Well, you can skirt the truth, to keep from hurting someones feelings. Usually, if a statement is something that is about someone else, and it isn't necessary that others know about it, then it simply shouldn't be repeated--some things needn't be said.
If not telling the truth (a little lie) will not harm someone, then it should be okay.

Answer 10

Lying just leads to other lies, there is always agentle way to speak the truth. when your asked, lets say, Does this look good on me ? I believe the question was asked in hopes of a thruthful answer.