Know anything about social skills?

Question

Do you have any good tips on how to improve you're way of socialising?

Answer 1

The first tip I try to remember especially when in a new setting is that whatever I say should be something I can say to a child or a grandparent. Second tip is not to be critical of others no matter how they perceive you.

Answer 2

How you would like to improve your social skills very much depends on what type of creature you are. For example if you are a book worm joining a wriitng club would be ideal.

The key to survival in this instance is having enough confidence to go and do it. The next step would be to maybe join a creative writing class and to become confident in speaking with groups. eventually as your confidence and character comes out of its shell, you will have gained so many more new friends.

To your own self be true.

Answer 3

It really depends on what type of person you are. if you are a shy person then talk more, share you opinion. However if you the reason you need to ask this question is that you are too opinionated then you need to listen to what people say more.

Generally be relaxed, get involved in the social situation (even if your just listening and laughing at the appropriate times.), Don't single out one person to talk to only. If they are a social person, this might annoy them, as they will feel trapped and not able to talk to anyone else.

Don't do things to impress other people, unless you know it will be really funny and that you really want to do it.

Everyone will say be confident, which is true HOWEVER don't be confident in an arrogant, cocky way that many people come across as. Remember your only as good as everyone else, no better.

Answer 4

Find something you enjoy/would enjoy doing and get your self a group of new friends, then use their friends to add to your circle. Eat with others at lunch time at work, listen to what they talk about, and if you're not too sure, ask Q's or do a bit of research on the net that night and go back and talk to them about it. Be you and let others appreciate you for you and your interests, soon they'll all come together.

Answer 5

A lot of the people on here seem to be implying that you should keep your mouth shut and listen to every body else which is true,
but you must also be your self.
it sounds as if you say any thing you will be ridiculed.
speak up be happy be polite be courteous, listen ,talk .laugh.
at the end of the day every one in that room or where ever you are will undoubtedly be thinking the same thing, have i said to much,have i said to little, should i have laughed,or should i have grinned.
life is to short, get out there be nice, have a laugh.???

Answer 6

during my life i was very and still tend to be antisocial, not because i necessarily choose to be but because i was very self conscious...anyway, i had to learn how to continue responding when people talked to me, people would ask a question and i'd answer straightforward and that would be that...then i watch the facial expressions of people and sometimes you can see that they are wanting more conversation and so you try to extend it instead of leaving..be in the midst of people, when you get that urge to walk off stay listen to the conversation and see what you can get into, or start asking questions about the situation if you don't know what's going on....just include yourself, fix your countenance...if you look a certain way, then people may be afraid to approach you, when i began to meet people in my husbands family they thought i was mean, because i kept quiet and because i didn't look friendly, i wasn't trying to, but i was introverted and self conscious so i didn't appeal to people very much. so i began to put on this big smile for people and speak and ask how they were doing..which with that question expect a different response everytime, because some people may say alright, some may pour out there lives to you....but just put yourself out there, it'll hurt some if you don't use wisdom because you can't trust everybody, but pray about your friendships and people you meet watch them with a close eye to make sure you even want to be friends with them, and just be cool.

Answer 7

Join a social group like Toastmasters (they work on speeches and social interaction) in your local community. Others might be Lions, Rotary, Optomists, etc.

Answer 8

Sharpen your listening skills. Know when to keep your opinions to yourself. Speak little of your life so that you may learn from others who are always talking about themselves. (obviously, these people do not have good social skills if they only talk about themselves)

Answer 9

Buy the DeBrett's book of modern manners and etiquette for tips.

Answer 10

Get into something new, like maybe go and join a book club, watch a movie or something, do something new.