My husband doesnt talk to me.He does not discuss anything with me.just makes me feel so bloody lonely.?

Question

any body got any ideas as to what i should do?

Answer 1

wow theres a lot of answers in here already...i to get that way sometimes...honestly it starts when my wife nags me to get something done...i understand her needs but i work 60 hours a week and come home to do errands, sometimes cook...so it erks me...she asked what i'm doing, sometimes i snap back with working...or if i'm sitting down i'm saluting with a "back to work boss!" then the mood is sour...it just rolls over to every part of our lives...she doesn't smile...looks at me sad...i feel bad...we don't talk...etc....and you know, it just stems from nagging....do you nag? tell him how he should be driving or instead of cuddling up to him on the coutch you ask what the f@ck is wrong with you?! there are so many ways to get over it but untill he talks about it or you try something....
if your walking just grab his arm and stroll with him...no need for sappy talk, touch is enough...
try it...i hope i'm right and it works...quiet relationships kill a person.
now if i could get my wife to do some of this, i wouldn't be answering questions ;-)
good luck cinderella...and i still have your glass slipper *sigh*

Answer 2

First of all, you can't change a man BUT you can change yourself! By changing yourself and behaving a certain way will make people behave differenly towards you. Have you tried talking to him without waiting for him to come and talk to you?
Try this method: When he comes home from work or when you both go to bed, or when you are both eating dinner- ask him how his day was. Don't talk about yourself! Be open to him and listen to him first. #2. Compliment what he does, say you're proud of him. But don't overdue it. #3. Tell him you love him out of the blue.

#4 You can also clean up your house to give it a nice clean feeling and if your house is clean the people who live in the house also feels good!

#5 Keep up in your appearance. If you don't like the way you look, change it. If you feel attractive, it makes you feel good your husband will notice it. Even putting on just lipstick without anything else will put some color to your face.

By trying most of these methods will either make your husband to be more receptive and reciprocate or he might be too self absorbed and not reciprocate or be receptive, which is the hardest thing to accept. But you won't know unless you've tried these simple methods.

Answer 3

heres a hint tell him you want to start having a convo on the finances and so on every day around the table so if any thing happens to either one of you its planned and also maybe a living will or trust so they dont keep you as a vegatable for years and that will wake him up and then theres the sex question if he's not doing it at home and hes out late you can try to sex him up toget attention or go see a lawyer andf take half and find an attentive man

Answer 4

He is your husband, only you two can fix this. You need to make him sit down and discuss this problem with you. If you don't fix this little issue now, it will blow up into a major storm later and the problems will only intensify. You need to let him know how you feel, without sounding like you are attacking him. If you come across as picking a fight, he will only clam up more.

Answer 5

Sometimes people are so closed off emotionally that it makes the people around them miserable. If you have told him what you need and he refuses to try to give you what you need, then it may be that you've married the wrong person. Have you tried counseling? The key is, does he want to make you happy and does he want the marriage to work? Or is it all YOUR problem? If he's making it your problem, then you'll never get what you need out of the relationship.

Answer 6

Men are dogs when he does something good "reward" him when he does bad remove the "rewards". Is that clear enough. Also try to go Bowling or goto the Horse track or somewhere you can talk not movies or places you cant talk. Maybe a nice 7 day cruise.

Answer 7

Initiate conversations with him.Be optimistic.Dont offer solutions,but listen.If he doesnt want to discuss things,dont take it personally.He will,some other time.Read "Men from Mars and Women from Venus".

Answer 8

He must be going through some change or something...May be best to open up and tell him how you really feel...He may not even realize that he is doing that...I know how you feel and its hard...As I'm sure you know this cant keep up...Be happy and be proud...Make what changes you feel necessary..

Answer 9

Don't talk to him when he does make any effort to talk to you. Go out, make friends and when he asks what you're doing then tell him you're being with friends who include you in their life.

Answer 10

Either leave him or have a life of your own, friends, travel with your friends , just have separate lives.