It didn't last very long. He started out by calling me at my post a few times a day to 'chat'. We started getting more and more dirty on the phone, and within a couple weeks we were kissing, I was masturbating for him to listen to on my phone, and we were discussing our sexual fantacies for each other.
One day, his wife found an online journal that he hid that said all of the stuff we did with each other. I got real scared, told him that day that I was gonna try to fix it up with my boyfriend and have worried ever since that his wife will hunt me down and hurt me in some way. I didn't have any feelings or anything for him during our time together, but when he said his wife found his stuff online, I figured he was gonna leave her and I knew I didn't like him enough for that to happen, cuz I didn't want to leave my home life for him. The whole thing was pretty stupid, but I still have this gut feeling about his wife.
What should I do?
2006-06-18 07:08:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The whole thing got outta hand when he started calling me out at my post. It made me feel special that he was paying so much attention to me, and even though he is like seven or eight years older then me, it made me forget that I have kids, and a bf. Not tryin to say it was the right thing to do, but I figure if he had no problem with flirting with me while he was married, why should I? The only things we really talked about was sex, and some kinky stuff too because he told me some about his marraige with his wife. He seemed to be sorta lost and unsure of his feeling for his wife. I really never gave it a lotta thought, but now I am thinking that she could probably find out where I live from him, even though I had two rules for our affair. No actual intercourse, and at no time were we gonna discuss loving each other. I didn't want it to go as far as sex, but I did love teasing him. Was a real power rush. I still talked with him after and tried to be a friend to him but no go.
2006-06-19 05:03:43 · update #1
Did you KNOW he was married when you started the affair?
If so... certainly... how this has turned out... is a surprise to you?
The HUBAND seldom leaves the wife... for the mistress.
I'd be more concerned about salvaging your career. Perhaps a job change might be the best thing.
And next time... Keep you professional life and personal life... separate.
Good luck.
2006-06-18 07:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If she came up to you. You can't deny it cause there's proof. All you can do is tell her that you're sorry about what happened and you don't have feelings for your boss. Tell her that you'll stay away from him from now on. It might be really weird being at work with your boss around. Maybe you should find another job.
2006-06-18 14:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by QQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get a new job.
Even if nothing comes of it, you will never really feel comfortable working there again. It can come back to bite you in the *** since he kept records of your interaction.
2006-06-18 14:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by fcw372003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move if you can. Contact the police and file an information report just in case something happens to you, they will know where to point the finger.
2006-06-18 14:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Except the consequences of your actions.
Face the reality of the situation.
And think twice about doing something like this again, with a
married man.
Move on with your life.
2006-06-18 14:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the married man..all u is too him is a nice piece of a**..Don't waste your time...fighting for this jerk...First of all he should of known u was off limits b/c he's married...Second, he's garbage...cheating on his wife...if u was married to him he would of done the same thing to you..That toad..Girl. u can do way better to being his little thing on the side...
2006-06-18 14:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by Immortal Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should be worried. Women and men who mess around with married people get what they deserve. Good luck.
2006-06-18 14:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him as much as you can, and stay away from her. just give him your resignation letter, and go look for another job that would make you stay away from him. Well let you boy friend know about it okey, don't hid anything from him, cos if he gets to know, that would be bad you know.
2006-06-18 14:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Oshoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it myself. All you did is what he asked you to do, so don't let it bother you. We have all done some things we might wish we hadn't, but it's history now.....so forget it and move on with your life. Good Luck!!
2006-06-18 14:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's still your boss, you definitely ned to fix things up. Stay away from him as much as you can, and obviously stay away from her.
2006-06-18 14:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋