should i feel guilty coz i "lied"?

Question

i'm 25 and i come from a mentally abusive relationship.My bf doubts me and he thinks i'm sleeping with other men, cheating him.I never do such things at all.For instance,last week after work,my handphone ran out of batery,i cudnt call him, and when i came home, i calld him the 1st thing.He said i was sleeping& F**K*** with other men.even today, just coz i didnt reprt to him durin gmy break time, he aid i was sleeping with men.I genuinly was bz, tht's why at times i fail to report to him.From the time i wake up till i sleep, even i want to go to the toilet, i have to inform him.If i dont tell him what i'm doing, he wil call me a B**CH or a SL**.i asked him why i shud report, he said y am i complaining if i am not guilty.I swear i never did anything behind him but I dont know why he's doubting me.I have to cut and hurt mysel to prove my love to him and to make him stop talking bad things abt me.I cant' take his words at times.So pain.I even gave up so many of my good frens 4 him

today he sent me an email and he wanted me to chck. I told him my sis was using the pc n i had to wait.whilst waiting, i accidently dozzed off.There he striked me aain with his 10 missed calls.Wen i picked up the call he was shouting and yelling who i was talking with.Just after he hung up the call, another call came, and tht was my old buddy.I answerd the cal and i spoke to my fren.i cudnt even talk to my fren coz i know he'd be trying to cal.so i hang up my frens call, and as expected he called me and he asked me y my line was engaged.I lied and told him it was my cousin sis when acctually,if i tell him it was my fren, he would shout, yell and link me.Once he even linked me with my brother, how long wud he take to link me wth my friend?Do u think i'm guilty and a B**CH for lying?He's still shouting at me.Whilst writing this message, my handphone speaker is on and he's shouting.I'm in tears.i can't believe he's abusing and calling me dirty names.He said I m FUC**** now. Am I?I'm here

Answer 1

No, he is driving u crazy! Get rid of him! No body should have to live like that! Who the hell does he think he is, your drill seargent?! There is no way I would put up with that! That actually would make me cheat by drilling me all the time! Dont feel guilty! You really need to put him in his place! Slave days are over!

Answer 2

I agree with the other answerer's - she must have insulted some of the formula feeders in the past. I nursed both of my kids. My daughter for 6 months, son for 10 months...then i had to start supplementing formula. I am proud of nursing my kids but i don't feel that i'm better than a formula feeder bc of it. We're all individuals with different circumstances. I feel that every mother should at least ATTEMPT to bf but if you try and it doesn't work out, you shouldn't make them feel bad. Breastfeeding is something to be proud of, but bragging about it is taking it too far.

Answer 3

You have to dump him. He is obsessive, posessive, and abusive. Put your love aside for a moment and see him for what he is. Does he do anything that is worth you giving up your friends or self esteem? You have the right to come and go as you please, you don't have to explain your actions to him. This seems like a relationship that has only one beneficiary-him. Unless you are codependent there should be no problem making a sensible choice. The boy is taking advantage of your love and the only good thing that you have gained from this experience is that you have been given a glimpse of what life would be like if you married him. My feeling is that he is cheating.

Answer 4

Your b/f is not a healthy person. He is an abusive man, and you will find this out first hand. Right now he is just being verbally abusive and controlling. You need to get away from him, as he will eventually start with the physical abuse. He has no respect for you either. You are enabling him by allowing him to continue treating you like this, and you need to leave him.

Answer 5

DONT FEEL GUILTY... Your 25 and with a life ahead of you. The good thing is that your not living with him. BElieve me it could be worst. He could beat you up and end up killing you. Once there is no more trust in a relationship is not a relationship no more. He is no one to be treating you and calling you names the way he does. I seen it happened with 2 of my best friends, one ended up in a hospital because of that. Get out will you can, do not let him abuse you and get rid of him. Believe me once you get rid of him and ask your self if you want a better life, you will feel better and you'll get your friends back. I know my friends call me after years of putting up with guys like this.

Answer 6

Hun, I'm not trying to be rude here, but i really think you and your baby should get out of this relationship. No boyfriend should be on your back that much and accuse you of junk that isn't even supposedly happening. You shouldn't have to take this nonsense, no one should. Even if you love him, do you think he really loves you? When people our in love they have to have TRUST. It seems he doesn't trust you, but I mean if you really still want to be with him, get some couple/family counseling.

Answer 7

This is slavery. u r still 25 years and that's not the right choice to stick with a guy like this.....better change ur mind.take care of yourself and FORGET him completely.do what u want, but don't let anybody rule u at this age!!!!!

Answer 8

You have bigger things to worry about than having lied to him honey. Run. Run fast. Run far away. Far far away. And don't look back or go back. He is a control freak and will break you and smash you and spit on you. I think he already has. Run.

Answer 9

Do you have family nearby? If so you need to go and tell them everything that's going on

Answer 10

you need to stop giving him reasons to yell at you

Id be scared if i was you he sounds scary