Hello
I am going to be 30 this summer. from when I was 7, my life was a hole chaos full of dead-end roads. a few years ago, I decided to turn 'round and try to find back into real life, what even brought me into harder soul-shaking, but also made me start release suffering and find back to myself, little step by step.
Now that i almost found myself back where I "left life" I met this 15year old girl and whe are really melting for each other. It is a relation without sexual-needs up till now, but totally in heart-to-heart communication. But her parents for sure are extremely against it, what I clearly understand.
Now someone tell me, can this be (or become) real love or should I rather wach out for a safe place with white walls and locked doors to keep myself away from being a danger to live?
My heart is pounding for her and I really do not no where this leads me.
though the question might be unclear, do please ask for more
and excuse my bad english-writing...
hoping still
2006-06-18 05:31:22 · 19 answers · asked by Hellgohr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess if you both are in luv each other, the girl's parents shud agree with this relation. Cause the daughter is supposed to get married to you, not the parents. Age is not a barrier for true love. If you really mean what u say, that is, ur relationship is somethin beyond ur sexual needs, then thats great. If the girl loves u the same way as u do and if she is ready to get married to you, then I guess there shudn't be any probs with anybody. However, at the same time, I suggest that let the girl complete her studies first of all. Give her some time, let her turn atleast 18 cause she is just a child now. Her responsibilities wud increase after marriage. Moreover, if she conceives at this age, being a child herself, she wont be able to handle ur children. Take some time and then ultimately u ll have to take a decision and buddy, I request u, take a proper and correct decision so that ur beloved doesnt suffer later.
2006-06-18 07:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Halle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds as if you've taken some pretty hard knocks; glad to hear you've made some progress in the direction of healing (aside from this present wrong turn).
I bet this attraction that you feel for her is really just some unresolved part of your past that's popping up now for whatever reason. Don't make her your "crutch!" It may help YOU for a brief time but it's bound to turn into another dead-end road and hurt you both, especially her. If you really want what's best for her (and yourself), then break it off once and for all, don't see her, don't talk to her, get away from her.
Most importantly, you need to try to understand and deal with what it is in yourself that makes you seek the companionship of a girl when a woman is a much better match for you physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Blessings to you!
2006-06-18 06:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start running! This isn't a good situation for this young girl. Not to mention the illegality of the mater. Why can't you being the "sound" adult step back and in a few years when she is 18-21 then see if there is still a spart. If you can't wait then you are not a "sound" adult and you need to go to therapy - seriously.
Do the right thing
2006-06-18 05:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by LJD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly.....there isn't any way that this relationship could be good for either of you (and i think part of you knows that or else you wouldn't be here asking this question) as friendly and caring as she might seem towards you it doesn't change the fact that she's still just a girl and might not have the maturity you're looking for (or deserve) in a relationship. she still has alot of life to experience and to be tied down in a relationship with a man twice her age would take alot of those experiences away (i.e. - do you really think her school would be ok with her taking you to her prom? not at all. ) you really could end up in jail. you're gonna have to bite the bullet, thank her for helping you in a time of need and then walk away from her or you will unintentionally destroy both of your lives.
2006-06-18 06:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by bran856 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can go to jail if her parents know about it. they can charge you with hell of a lot for just hugging her. i think u have to wait for a 3 yrs, till she's 18. then she can take her own decision. where do u live? if u r in asia, it is kinda possible.
it can be real love only u guys know it. love comes in different packages. but try for someone in ur age. may be ur girlfriend is just looking for a normal bf. she is going to change a lot in her 15-23 at least. she may not be the woman she was before. so think at least 5 times before u go to jail and ruin it. she may be the perfect one for u but when she is 25 she can be totally different.
2006-06-18 05:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by answerer101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live the United States, it is illegal for a 30 year old to be with a 15 year old.
As a mother of a 15 year old girl (and a former 15 year old girl), she doesn't know what she wants yet. She is still growing up. If you really love her, let her grow up and find herself first. Let her experience life and find out what she wants to do with her life before she gets into a serious relationship.
2006-06-18 05:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by MJL613 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude...you need some help. What kind of love is it that a 15 year old can provide for a 30 year old man. Find someone your own age...what you're doing is WRONG! You need help...seems to me as if you really haven't found yourself....what you have found is some possible jail time.
How does four walls and a cot sound???????
2006-06-18 05:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Loquat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
having a relationship with a 15 yr old girl is bad news since your 30. sorry to say but she may just be leading you on. it kinda happened to me once too. i thought i loved a 50 yr old man. and I'm in my early twenties. at the end he was just using me to make him feel younger. is that how you feel? just because shes young, you think that she gives you a meaning? get a woman your own age. its best this way. forget about her. move on.
2006-06-18 06:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the day that was ok, but today it is not. Your older and should know better that she is young, let her be a child and find someone that is legal. If her parents turn you in, then you will be charged and booked as a pedo and the police can harrass you as much as they want, you should just stay away.
2006-06-18 05:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by Robyn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are too old for her...Start looking for someone closer to your own age...I would suggest you seek some professional help also. Leave her alone!!!!! Don't mess up her life!!!! Seems you are making her life chaos as well as your own!!!!n Get the hell away from her!!!!
2006-06-18 05:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lark 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋