my boyfriend loves me but he often comments on how other girls look...this upsets me and makes me feel im not good enough for him... do all men do this?
2006-06-18 05:22:27 · 20 answers · asked by GWYNEIRA G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
not all of them , but yes they do sometime. things they never feel satisfied. they want everything at once. that is impossible. you need to talk about your last boyfriend and see his reaction then, he will understand the lesson. and if he said he does not feel jealous and it is OK with him talking about you love, he is such a big lair. good luck
2006-06-25 04:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by some one 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Unless the behaviours between you both change, one of you is going to feel restricted in some way on this one...
The best way is to start commenting on some guys... Then TALK ABOUT IT with each other. Ask him if it feels awkward when you make your comments. Why not also try to discuss attraction - maybe over a good movie and an snuggle up together at home? You need to get the communication going on this one, otherwise it will open a rift that will just get wider and wider.
The reality is that we don't stop being sexual, and being attracted to others when in a relationship. We should not act on it though, and how we deal with it as a couple is critical to the success or otherwise of the relationship...
Goo luck! Get the communication going...
2006-06-18 13:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Aidy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. Part of human nature is the attraction between men and women. This is a constant that runs throughout life. When a man sees an attractive woman he looks at her because she is pleasing to look at. Normally the attraction doesnt run any deeper than a fleeting thought.
Many men have a very strong relationship with their girlfriend, but this doesn't mean that it will switch off his genetic and psychological processes that makes him look at other women. This is nature.
Some women tend to say to one another 'if he love's you he wont look at anybody else.' - THIS IS NOT TRUE!
FAITHFUL MEN LOOK BUT DONT TOUCH!
As a girlfriend, there is no need to feel insecure about other pretty women. They are not the enemy! If you see him looking dont be jealous and cause an argument.
But, a sensitive boyfriend should also be considerate of your feelings. Its one for him to say a girl is pretty to a mate of his, its another thing to say it to his girlfriend.
My suggestion is have a little sit down with him, and let him know that it doesnt make you feel very secure when he does this. Hopefully he understands and stops. But if he doesnt care well then you have to consider why.
I hope that helps!
2006-06-18 13:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ordinary Eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may not say it out load but they think it. My boyfriend will comment on celebs he likes etc but not just other girls in general that we'll see on the street. If that is what your boyfriend is doing then it's a bit insensitive.
Never allow anyone to make you feel you're not good enough for them and if they continue to do that, then you have to think seriously about the future of your relationship.
2006-06-18 12:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, men are much more faithful than they are made out to be. But they are allowed to set eyes on other girls, but I guess commenting in front of you is a bit far.....
2006-06-18 12:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend does it and i feel the same way you do about it. But i have learned that he is with me not them and that I am good enough for him because he wants me to be his girl and he wants to be with me.
2006-06-18 13:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a vegetarian shouldn't stop anyone from looking at the menu... even if this one includes meat. Dont be insecure, you dont have him tied up to you. Let him look and appreciate that he actually is with you, arent you the lucky one?
2006-06-18 12:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by vanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is subjective, you cannot make a generalisation of the entire gender based on the actions of one person.
Look at it this way, he isn't with those other women, he is with you, you have nothing to worry about.
2006-06-18 12:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Skull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word, yes! but, if you're worried about them straying, it doesn't mean that they will definitely stray! Do women still think about other men (or women) when they are in love>???????
2006-06-18 15:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by steve p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men relate sexual desires to women. Not looks. I mean we look but no matter how a woman appears the sexual desire is what attracts them.
2006-06-18 12:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by touchemupent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is different. give him a taste of his own medicine, as long as he's only window shopping then there's no real harm we all do it i bet, some people just no when to keep their mouths shut. try saying something nice about the girl who he is speaking about (i no it may not b easy) but he may just b wanting a reaction out of you
2006-06-24 17:12:09 · answer #11 · answered by Scottish lass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋