wot is sex like?

Question

wot is sex like,
im really nervous because my boyfriend keeps begging me. I really want to do it but i don't know what to do. Please help. Which positions?

Answer 1

First of all, don't do anything that you aren't completely ready for and want to do. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you are 100% that it is what you want to do. If he loves you, then he will understand. If he doesn't understand, then you deserve better.

Secondly, you must, must, must, must, must, must, must, must, must, must, must use protection. Don't rely on him. Go out and get your own. It will be embarrassing, but much less embarrassing than a teen pregnancy or an STD. You can hide them and only bring them out if he forgets. DO THIS!!! And don't forget, that even a little semen (or pre-seminal fluid) can get you pregnant. Treat this stuff like it is radioctive. Anything that has touched semen goes nowhere near your "flower." And don't let him tell you that he will "pull it out before he finishes." Even if he does, he can still get you pregnant.

Lastly, relax. Cavemen figured out how to do it and so will you. If you play around and have fun, then I'm sure you'll figure it out. It may hurt a little at first, but this is common in women. The standard missionary position and the woman-on-top are the easiest and best position, and maybe diggie-style. You can work through the Kama Sutra later, but there is a reason why these three are the most famous - they are the easiest and the best. Don't have unrealiztic expectations that it is going to be like it is in the movies - it never is. Just relax and have fun. And also realize that the guy is just as nervous and scared as you are.

And again. Don't feel pressured to do something that you don't want to do. You have the right to say no and you have the right to change your mind.

Answer 2

Like many experiences in life it can be the greatest thing or the worst thing. The difference is what you feel and think about the other person. This is not a game or an activity to enter into lightly.

You don't state your age but by the tone of your question, you seem very young. The worst reason to have sex is that someone else is pressuring you to do so.

And I have to wonder what makes you think that you really want to do it? All your friends are doing it?

And are you prepared to do it? There is more to it than positions. Have you discussed birth control with your eager boyfriend? Have you discussed safe sex to protect yourself against diseases? Are you ready for the emotional consequences of this action? What about a pregnancy?

Sex is an adult behavior that is rushed into by a lot of young people. It is more than an the act itself.

Be kind to yourself, think about this one. If your boyfriend goes to someone else because you won't have sex with him, you haven't lost anything. Don't end up young, scared and pregnant. Give yourself a chance to grow up before taking such a big step.

Answer 3

How old are you? While age is not the only way to gauge readiness, it is one good indicator.

There is a lot of pressure to have sex but what a lot of teens, especially girls, don't understand is that there is a lot of emotional issues that go with it. It isn't just a joining of bodies.

Most girls assume sex creates more commitment in a relationship and that it will keep their boyfriend. It can, but a boy that really loves YOU is willing to wait until YOU feel you are ready and does not require sex as a condition of whether he will stay with you or not.

If he insists, he is probably not the best choice.

Keep in mind how you are going to feel if he breaks up with you. Breakups always hurt but when you've been sexual, it can hurt a lot more.

Have you two discussed pregnancy and how to prevent it, and what happens if it occurs anyway? If you aren't ready to have this discussion, you aren't ready for sex.

As to HOW...well..it really is just a matter of him putting it inside you and there are a lot of positions, and every couple has favorites that may be different.

That aside, very, very, very few girls enjoy sex much the first few years. This is what couples need for the woman to enjoy herself:

1. To really enjoy sex you have to know your body. For example, what works to make you have an orgasm? BTW, masturbation is a great way to figure yourself out.

2. You need to be comfortable with yourself naked (men pretty much think its all good so don't worry if your body isn't perfect - pretend it is).

3. You need to not be afraid to just let your body do its own thing.

4. you have to be confident enough with each other to TALK about it. To talk about birth control and what ifs. To ASK , if you are not both virgins, for proof someone is free of disease (yes, you can ask to see tests).

5. He has to have a genuine interest in pleasing you and most boys don't have a clue, or even a real interest in doing so.

For boys sex pretty much always feels good, though there is a difference between okay sex and awesome sex. It's all good to them.

Sadly, though not all men are this way, most boys will say anything they have to, and promise anything to get sex. You have to be smart enough to sort through the BS and figure out what is true.

A 16 yr old is not likely to stick around and be a good dad, or even pay child support if you get pregnant no matter what he says.

Answer 4

Well darling if you are asking in here that means you are too young to have sex yet. Trust me when a boyfriend begs you for sex, thats the only thing he wants from you. Dont give in. Wait until you find someone who wants more from you than that. Virginity is a precious thing and the wrong kind of first time could effect you the rest of your life. Just say no and wait.

PS.....Dont forget about disease. A condom cant always protect you. Think about your body first. Just because someone looks young and healthy doesnt mean they are. Nine times out of ten hes had sex with other girls. So not only is he sleeping with them he is sleeping with their partners too through them. Think smart.

Answer 5

Your first time will probably hurt. And I believe like everyone else you are way to young. Even if you think you want to do it please think about it more and decide if he's the guy you want to remember your whole life as the first time. And he should not be pressuring you, that's not a good sign of things to come. But I know teenagers and when their minds are made up. You will probably do it no matter what anyone with experience in this matter says. So, If he manages to talk you into it, don't let him talk you into it without a condom. You can get pregnant your first time. And the pull out method doesn't work, he will swear he'll pull out in time. Just because he manages to pull out before the bulk comes out, doesn't mean a little didn't already come out. Condoms, Condoms, Condoms!!!

Answer 6

R u old enuf 2 have sex yet? If your guy loves u, he ought to respect u only when u r ready to let him enter u. If u nwanna do it, I suggest he better make u very wet n slippery so that your "V" does'nt hurt or u r going 2 have a nightmare for the next 2/3 days.

Answer 7

Uncomforable for a while. truthfully, girls tend not to enjoy it for the first couple times but then you will get more confortable with everything and enjoy it more. Your boyfriend shouldn't be begging you, he should be patient and wait until your completely sure that he is the one that you want to lose it with.

Doggy Style (from behind) is fun but I would not do it your first time as it can hurt sometimes depending on how fast he's going.
Missionary (guy on top of you) is a standard one for first timers and can be quite enjoyable.
If your comfortable with yourself you can always be on top of him but you have to have quite a bit of energy for that one.

Answer 8

you need to be ready and completely comfortable to have sex for the first time. do not let yourself get pressured. and do not have high expectations for the first time you do have sex. almost all of the girls i've ever known, or talked about sex with, all of them said their first time really sucked.

enjoying sex can be a very complicated thing... there are so many factors that influence the whole act.

being comfortable with your own body is one of them, the more you love yourself and your body will help you have better sex. your partner is also very important. hopefully you have someone that will be caring about you and your needs as well. and you need to be relaxed. if not, you will be tense where you need to be relaxed and it might be more painful than it should be. my first time wasnt that painful, but it is different for everyone.

good luck.

Answer 9

stick with 1 position for the first time either him on top or better yet you as you can then ease into position, try to relax while you are doing it if you freeze up or are too tense it hurts more. Discuss with your bf before and make sure he agrees to stop or slow down if you ask him to. If you are under 16 wait until you are older your body and mind are not ready and you can damge yourself physically and emotionally.

Answer 10

You definitely shouldn't be having sex first of all. If you are asking this question then you are probably too young to be doing it. Have some self respect and tell your boyfriend that he's just going to have to wait until you are mature enough. He sounds like someone you don't really want to lose your virginity to.