Can someone please tell me why Indian people from India, and Pakistan, etc. try to force their friendship?

Question

I get IMs and emails, and any means of contact from people in these areas of the world telling me they want to be my friend. And they are so pushy about it too. Why is this? Has this happened to anyone else?

I'm not being racist!! What is wrong with you?? It's the truth!! It's what's happening to me.

Hello?? I'm not trying to be unfriendly or proclaim superiority. Whatever, guy. These people try to push their friendship on you. I don't go around asking people to be my friend, or practically stalk people to be my friend.

I NEVER said the the WHOLE race was this way. How critical can people be? Geez get over it. Every race or culture has it's good and bad people.

It's not a matter of cultural difference when someone tells you, "Can I be your friend?" "Let's be friends." "Why don't you want to be my friend?" "I want to be your friend." They go on and on. They stalk you for days on IM trying real hard to be your friend. It's happened to me various times.

DISCLAIMER: NOT ALL INDIANS ARE THIS WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

JUST THE ONES I'VE COME ACROSS.

I don't have to research anything. I am talking about personal experience. I am questioning something that has happened to me. I was not talking about a whole culture. Would it have been better if I said a few?? some???, a minor amount of?? SORRY!! Your frames of mind attacking me, are more racist than what I was trying to get across.

Answer 1

Yeah it happened to me too.
This Indian guy just wouldn't let go. he tracked down all my email accounts.

Answer 2

I am from india, and not all indians are like that , that is a stereotype. Actually I was born in the united states. They don't try to force friendship. In india , we all are like family , everyone over there leaves their doors open for anyone, it is apart of our nature. As far as them being pushy,I don't know what you are talking about, yes ,there may be a little controlling on some people but at least its for the good . I've came to the conclusion that , they are controlling for the well being , at least its not physical abuse or telling you to do drugs and get into bad addictions. Most Indian men and woman are faithful , hardworking god fearing people at least with them you don't have to worry. Personally, girl you need to not talk to these people especially if they are im'n you because you don't know what nationality is on the other end of the line and besides thats just a stereotype because all of the other nationalities that I hang out love me and my culture and my family ( lemme tell you l have a huge family, and most of them were born out in india) . That is just a stereotype, do some research on India before you decide to analyze something you don't know!Get the facts, if you want to know anything else you can email me and I will be happy to tell you about beautiful india. Stay well and god bless.

Answer 3

Pushy?

I don't know what you've experienced, or where you're from, but my guess is that you've bumped smack dab into a cultural difference! Hooray! It's a great way to learn.

Some groups of people do not speak much -- some Native American tribes are that way. If a person from a very loud Italian-American family, for example, were to sit with them at dinner, it would seem to them that the family must hate each other! My goodness, they hardly said a word!

But to the family, the visitor would seem nervous and edgy, always trying to get somebody to say something. They might guess that the visitor had something terrible to hide, and was trying to cover it up with noise.

In truth, they're just two learned ways to communicate, both respectful. But to someone who learned a ~different~ style of communication, they feel fake and the folks who use them seem untrustworthy.

All a matter of perspective.

Vive la Différence!

Answer 4

Ha ha ha ha ha ha haaaaaaah!!!!

You finally confessed, didn't you? With your disclaimer! Yes, NOT ALL INDIANS ARE LIKE THAT!

Then, what is the whole point of your question? Your disclaimer implies that you question is invalid.

NEVER do such wrong generalizations. If you really wanted to know the answer, you could have framed it as 'some people' in the place of Indian people from India and Pakistan! Since you named, it shows you want to insult somebody or the other!!!

And the sort of answers you have got... saying we want marriage, money, trip to US... and this and that... all this arrises when you look at yourself as superior and us as inferior or unworthy. And that is indeed racism!

Change your attitude first! And you know what... it really hurts to read and answer such questions... You will never understand.

Answer 5

Probably they do not know about the "politeness" required to talk to a girl or they might be lacking the language skills to tackle u!!! Everyone you are chatting with on the internet want to make "friends", and no one is out there to discuss wordly matters! These guys may be just don't know the way to approach as compared to people from other parts of the world!

As regards to the racism in your question, you have to question yourself... " Have I hurt any people in this forum with my question ? ". Likely yes, as seen from some of the responses and some one rightly pointed, you could have written "some people from ....."
Also some moron pointed out that this is for money, trip to US, etc!!! I don't think hardly anyone harbors such thoughts!! It is just for some "chat" with a foreign chick.. Nothing more nothing less! Also, I would sincerely advise you to rid yourself of prejudices towards anyone! It is not good for your personality... i.e if you have one!

Answer 6

Yeah I get those all the time. Many of them are trying to get a connection here so they could have someone sponsor them so they can come here and many of them develop "friendships" and then give you some sad story about why they need money Now don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that all of them are like this. But most of what I have gotten so far has been

Answer 7

First of all, my dear friend, your question is not legible to answer.
You can add a brief to it, which could result in answering it, preciously.

My understanding is that, you had an experience of being forced to accept friendship of the mentioned communities.

My opinion is Friendship can’t be developed by force; it will bloom on the base of trust, sharing & along with time.

Answer 8

I know a few indians and pakistanis personally and I wouldn't say they are particularly pushy or overfriendly. I suspect the ones who are trying to contact you are desperate to learn and practice english.

India is one of the up and coming nations and is making huge in-roads into modern technology. They will very soon be to our IT levels and probably surpass it given the amount of effort they are putting in to both IT infrastructure and IT education.

Answer 9

i think alot of people from india, at least the ones i met like to be friends. i guess it sometimes starts as a sort of i give u this and u give me that sort of thing, but if among all the pushy ones who u get hassled about, there is just this one who is meant to be ur friend then its sort of worth using ur gut feelings to maybe open a door. or not . sometimes it gets a bit like.....hmmmmm how seriously do i take this and how real is this.actually this is smething i asked myself a million times if i have to be honest.oh man i really dont know.

Answer 10

If you don' want to be friendly, don't you to know use the ignore key on ur comp?

Don't try to show off ur self-proclaimed superiority this way..it sucks.

How critical people can be? well u r a living example! and hey ur stupid nick name suggests the rest about you.( Just read that u like insults and comments..so this is ur today's dose)

Answer 11

these are people that are in desperate need of money, not necessarily friendship, so they are most likely trying to scam you. This is in all societies. Con artists are often the nicest people you'll ever meet. I am not cynical just aware of the truth.