How can I speak positively?

Question

are we natural pessimists or can we learn to look at things from a positive view only? isn't it a little dangerous to always be looking at the world through rose-colored glasses? I tend to be a very straightforward and honest person, but most people don't appreciate that even though they claim that's what they would like to hear from someone. Should we couch the truth so much that it becomes unrecognizable as such?

Answer 1

The truth hurts. People would rather live in denial rather that accept the truth because some people are weak and extremely sensitive.

Truth is hard to deal with for some people. Truth means that they will have no excuse to live any longer in ignorance. Ignorance is a safe and comfortable place for some to live and for some, they just can't comprehend the truth.

Truth can be overwhelming. Some do not want the responsible that comes with truth. Truth sometimes means that one need to take some action or change sometime about themselves.

Finally, just because something is true doesn't mean that it needs to be spoken. In some instances, it is better to find and focus on the positive in a situation as the truth may have nothing practical to offer but the fact that something is true.

Answer 2

Greetings:

No one should be held responsible, much less feel guilty, for commenting truthfully on the rot in the world. Why shoot the messenger!

We've often heard the saying about practising what one preaches. In popular vernacular we talk about 'walking the walk and talking the talk'.

Humanity senses these as admirable qualities because they have an underpinning spirituality. Spirituality being defined as anything that advances human evolution. Evolution being defined as change over time.

To be "very straightforward and honest" is what is known spiritually as HONESTY OF MIND.

Individuals who think one thing, say something completely different, and still do yet another thing different from the other two, are not exactly in and advanced stage of evolution as such ambivalence testifies.

The 'Honesty of mind' you display in your interaction with your world, is one of the three royal roads to be the best you or ANYONE can be. The other two are sincerity of spirit and detachment.

You can only be you, because anywhere you go, there you are.

Keep on trucking.

Peace,
Well-wisher

Answer 3

Honesty & straightforwardness is always the best policy. Cynacism is sometimes trapped somewhere in between these two qualities. Unfortunately all of these traits put together is hard to deal with by some as they feel like they are a loser. Even thhough they share the same qualities and traits as another, they strike back with a defense mechanism that can be deadly but only to them......Sound recognizable at all........@~@

Answer 4

The reason is that negativity is so much easier. Being positive requires work and a choice... bad things happen to everyone, and its your choice whether you decide to look for the learning experience in every situation (good or bad) or to be be beaten down and let it affect you. As negative experiences happen, they DO tend to wear you down and your polarity can easily shift from positive to negative-- keeping your chin up and remaining positive requires a strong effort. However, the more you train your mind and focus your outlook on the positive, the easier it becomes to stay that way.

'Rose colored glasses' is kind of a different concept altogether- its being too much of an idealist and altogether refusing to accept that there are limitations and negative elements of every situation. Its more of a delusional state, and it is never healthy to delude yourself into thinking things are what they really aren't!
Being positive means seeing the reality, and making your choices based on what is healthy for you, taking a lesson from every single day of your life, and believing that good things will happen. It also is all about trusting the universe to let things happen as they are supposed to.

Answer 5

Not always being positive is to be realistic. As a matter of fact being positive is trying to change in your mind whats the actual truth, when there is possible change, hope to another state.

For instance, looking at the positive bright side of things is not always easy. Whats importante is not to speak on what they want to hear, maybe you think they want "A" and suddenly those people or audience like "B", if doesnt fit their interests at leasts did fit yours, do it for you as if you were there listening to your own self !!

Being very very honest is sometimes hard, and risky, sometimes is better to keep silence and let others interpret that silence, to speak is like a symphony, has to be armony, rythm, silence, different levels of instruments, etc.

If you are very very honest from your point of view, expect someone that is like you and speak the truth about your own self....sometimes is not that good is to know and to learn to listen to others and also to learn to say things in different ways, many people who are very very honest they are seen sometimes as impolite people and thats not always the truth, some people who tell their own truth to others can be so direct that may hurt others feelings without intention or without knowing that. Put yourself in their position....

Watch Tv and some politicians, most of them know how to say positive things -even if some of them dont accomplish that- but they have the skill to move people to convince through the way of expression.

Being positive doesnt mean to have delirious or to be fantastic or to live out of reality, to be positive is to be optimistic in something you really know you can change...you have that power and thats how your argument will convince others...

Answer 6

It can be hard to tell it like it is. I feel that's part of the problem today, no one will tell the sometimes brutal truth. Just look at our politicians and media, PC is destroying the very fabric this country was founded on. Keep up the good fight and I'll do the same.

Answer 7

I have the same problem, I am too straight foreward, not too many people can handle the truth, they would rather be lied to.