i talk badly in front of the kids,even though they cannot stand their own mom?? they call me mommy and they say they love me alot more. but if my fiance hates her and cant stand his ex wife then why does he sit there and yells at me for doing that???
2006-06-18 03:55:38 · 18 answers · asked by happybunnyjg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
girl, you don't have the right to do that, even if they say they can't stand her. stay out of that issue. She'll always be the kids' mother and you'll lose if you play this game. don't lower urself like this.
2006-06-18 03:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by rayhanna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not want you to give his kids an idea that their mom is anything but perfect, even if your fiance divorced her.
Instead, try this; say nothing about his ex wife OR do everything to be positive about her. There is not enough love in the world today so teach the kids who love you (be thankful for that, love is very important for all of us) and to keep loving their mom, too. In the end when the kids are grown up, you will look back with a lot of wonderful memories and wonderful times.
2006-06-18 04:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its shows immaturity on your part. Those kids need you to be sympathetic but they also need you to have no part in their mother's behavior.
Even though the kids may love you "more", that's still their mom! There are weird "loyalties" every child has with their mom no matter what the circumstances are. Bad mouthing their mother in front of them makes you look bad and alienates the kids.
Unless she does something directly to you, then don't take sides. You can be sympathetic towards the kids and your fiancee without badmouthing her in the process.
2006-06-18 04:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by myshira 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you can't figure this out for yourself.
Say you were mad at your mom and were complaining about her. Now your husband starts talking about how he's always hated your mom and that he hopes she dies soon. How would that make you feel?
Simple fact is... That is the mother of his children. He may hate her guts, but it's not okay for someone else to trash her because it will put him on the defensive. Nobody can trash her but him.
And what kind of idiot are you for trash talking her to her children?
These kids may like you now, but someday they're going to grow up and resent you for the stuff you've said about their mom over the years.
Best advice i can give you is when they are talking bad about her just stay quiet. It'll make you more popular in the future.
2006-06-18 04:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by Talamascaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause evern though the kids don't like their own mother right now, it doesn't give you the right to bad mouth her in front of them.
i mean think about how they feel when they hear about you dissing their mom? i mean i'm sure they feel pretty bad to hear something like this about her. what if it was your mom? and you were the child. Would you be okay? hearing bad things about her coming from your new step mother?
i mean down the road they might like their mother again and you shouldn't be encouraging them not to like her either, i hope your not either.
if you have to say something bad about her, do it when their not around. they still love their mother no matter what, she's done in the past or now.
kids are sensitive to negative things. be the positivie role model to them, even if you don't like their mom, it doesn't mean they should. maybe you can do something nice for her with the kids.
i hope when your parent, your child doesn't hate you. just try to make things positive around them, including their mother. cause those two wonderful kids wouldn't be around if it wasnt' for her.
2006-06-18 04:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you appreciate it if it was your mother that was being talked about badly??? It sounds like a 2 sided coin though, he can say things about her and you can't. How well do you know her??? Sounds like some animosity going on here!!! Maybe some counselling is needed here. Good luck.
2006-06-18 04:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 06:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE A TERRIBLE PERSON TO DO THAT IN FRONT OF CHILDREN YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED AND I HOPE THAT YOU WILL CHANGE KIDS DO NOT NEED TO HEAR ADULTS TEAR APART THEIR MOM NO MATTER WHAT I SUPPOSE YOU ARE AN ADULT WELL ACT LIKE ONE WITH COMPASSION AND CARING AND THOSE KIDS WILL MAKE UP THEIR OWN MINDS AND I AGREE WITHTHE DAD THAT IS NOT RIGHT SO STOP IT YOU TWIT
2006-06-18 04:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by jkpoet2@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to understand that children are easily manipulated and they hear everything, you need to have some respect for those children, if you love them than talk about the happy times you have together and leave the conversation about their mom alone. Move on and let them and your man move on.
2006-06-18 04:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by in love with love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different setting but when my brother bad mouths his mother and she is a waste of oxygen. I still yell at him because that is still his mother. You should always respect the ones who birthed you.
2006-06-18 04:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by tattoomeats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋