OK here is the deal my husband wants a divorce but he doesn't want to come file for it so I am. He is living in GA with his grandparents and works 6 days a week. We have a 3 year old together and I am pregnant again. If I file for the custody and everything how will everything go because my little girl does not want to be with her daddy. please help me!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-18 03:50:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry yoUr going through this, but Ur gonna be fine. Please don't stress yourself over this because ur gonna be fine. Your not the only woman who has had to going through this( he's a bum, for doing this to u)
You can file for it and I'm sUre the courts will side with u
Whats important now is u, your 3 yr old and ur unborn child) so what u should do is not allow yourself to get stressed and please don't give him the power to get u stressed
Tell the courts u want child support and may be even spousal support. He has to take care of his kids.
God Bless & I hope u have a healty & happy baby =-)
2006-06-18 04:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Tough life, tough situation. Sorry you are going thru this.
Sounds like he is either too busy for a family or he is running away from responsibilities.
If he no longer wants to be with you, make it official. Get a lawyer to make sure he does not, a few years later, when he gets older and more mature!, shows up at your door and ask "forgive me." You do not need the mind games!!
I would also suggest that you join a parents without partners group and find someone else. There is a lot of lonely people out there looking for companionship.
2006-06-18 03:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In almost every case the mother wins custody unless the father can prove abuse or neglect of some kind. Since the father is so far away, it's doubtful that your child will be seeing him very much. However, as she grows up she will ask about her daddy and you should allow occasional visits. The court will decide on visitation right.
2006-06-18 03:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you file for the divorce,you can seek sole-or joint custody of the children. Either way,he gets to see the kids if he is paying child support. If he has been the one supporting you and the kids,he must pay all the medical and school bills if they decide to go to college and they don't have a scholarship.
2006-06-18 04:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by wolftatx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is go file...It don't matter where he lives maybe even better...He will have to sign like you have it written up and agree or will have come back to VA. to work it out through the court...Best get it started and make sure to get enough support for the children..
2006-06-18 04:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that your husband wants a divorce, but doesn't want to file??? What is his reason??? Sounds like he is being a bit of a coward!!! Get in touch with a lawyer first off, he will guide you, that would be the best. Sounds like you're better off to move on anyway. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-18 03:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are a bad Mom, you will get custody, he will pay support & he will have visitation whether your child likes him or not. The best thing you can do for your child (unless her dad is abusive or something like that) is talk to her about her dad & all of his good qualities. You have 2 kids with him so he can't be that bad.
2006-06-18 04:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your legal aid society found in the yellow pages. You may be able to get full custody and child support to boot. Good luck.
2006-06-18 03:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ray S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me he doesn't want to be a daddy, so you don't have to worry about making your child spend time w/ him.
If he wanted to be a dad, he wouldn't have moved so far away.
Take the divorce and move on!
2006-06-18 03:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on, a 3 year old doesnt wanna be with her daddy?
Be honest please. You file where you live, and it's his problem how he responds.
No one is able to provide all the help that you require. :(
2006-06-18 03:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋