I think my fiance is chatting with a guy inappropriately. He has even asked her to meet him. I know this cause i have seen the message. I dont know what they talked about before but he asked if they were both single would she do what she said. We also have a baby and it makes it harder.
2006-06-18 03:26:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you talked to your fiance' about this? I believe that if she is "saying she'll do things" then that is wrong. If she is flirting online then I believe that it is a form of cheating. First you need to make sure that she is truly doing this. It is easy to get jealous and jump to conclusions. If you are right about your hunch (and it sounds like you probably are) then you need to decide what to do about it. Is marriage counseling an option? Even though you are not married yet, you do have a family as a daddy and counseling could be a good opportunity to decide what to do. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-18 03:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK...did some of you realize you were answering a guy, becuase in your reply you put ask HIM, as in, you thought who you were answering was a female....read closer.
Ok, is internet chatting cheating, well, if they are talking inappropriately, and seeing each other that you KNOW of yes. I do not think talking about it is cheating. In my eyes the physical end is the cheating. If they were planning on meeting though, I think it would have gone further than just talking.....ask her.......but she may not tell the truth and it is true the child will suffer the most. Do you know if this guy is someone she knew before you, or just during your relationship??? the internet is so full of lonely poeple just wanting to talk, but, as we all know, it can turn into something bigger than that. Good luck!
2006-06-18 11:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by sokrvolleyhoopsmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her know how you feel about this. If you are accused of sneaking into her private email, admit that this was wrong of you. But relate to her that since you do know, you are concerned that she is investing more interest in this online relationship than she is giving to you and your child. You need to get this out in the open before the trust evaporates completely between you and your fiance. Sometimes this kind of reality jolt will light up the situation and show how risky she is being.Good luck
2006-06-18 10:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not married yet, and he may be having second thoughts. At any rate, he doesnt seem a faithful partner. It's not easy with a baby involved. But your cart was put before the horse long before now. You might want to consider your alternatives before you get further along into a marriage that possibly should not happen.
Please start thinking with your head, and stop letting your heart control your life. Look out for YOURSELF and your BABY.
Also consider financial support from him via a court order.
2006-06-18 10:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chatting on line is okay until it get too personal with sexual questions and inuendos. If there is lust in his heart for this girl, then in effect he has committed adultry. The Bible says that even if you lust in your heart and have not actually done it, it's still a sin and considered adultry. Therefore, I believe you could call it an affair.
Lose the this guy. There are far better fish in the sea!
2006-06-18 10:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by B.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is an emotional attachment that is more than platonic friendship, than this is an affair. Confront him about it and let him know you don't think it is appropriate. You are engaged... he shouldn't have to hide a friendship fro you. If that is all it is. If he is covering it up, you can be sure something isn't on the level.
Seriously reconsider marrying this man.
2006-06-18 10:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is an affair when it involves matters with sexual content. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she was just helping an online friend with something. Either way you should talk to her about it and let her know how you feel.
2006-06-18 10:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider it an affair when they start typing. She has no business talking to guys on the computer, especially if they aren't guys she's known for years. She's obviously looking for love in all the wrong places.....
2006-06-18 11:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is inappropriate when you have to ask this question. Sit down with your fiancé and tell her your concerns. I would also suggest a counsellor. It is the baby who will suffer most in this situation, so nip it in the bud now.
2006-06-18 10:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the conversation got intense enough that he asked to meet her.when the guy asked her if she was single she should have replied yes, but I am in a long term relationship.This would have stopped most guys in their tracks.
2006-06-18 10:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by Maggi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋