my friend is 14 yrs old every1 thinks she has given them up. but last night she told me she hasnt. i have been trying 2 get her 2 stop but nothing works. i have promised not 2 tell anyone in her family and her friends. i want 2 help her but if i tell someone she wont trust me anymore !!!!
please help me
2006-06-18 03:10:45 · 23 answers · asked by *~*SING~*~STAR*~* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is wrong of your friend to put you into a position where must either "be a snitch" or "be a liar". She should keep her private vices private and not involve you by telling you about it. Tell you are not going to go "snooping" into her doings, but if she insists on telling about it, you are going to pass the information on to her parents.
2006-06-18 03:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a good thing to begin with drugs when you are so young. I tried my first drugs about 3 years ago (and I'm 33). As an adult, I think I don't have any problem (I can take something once or twice a year). But when you are young and begin taking drugs by rebelliousness, that's a very dangerous thing. Whatever you do, don't take them you, too. I think the wisest thing you can make is to trust an adult in your familie and tell her/him the truth. Your mother/father should speak with this girl's parents. I know it is not easy to lose a good friend but, believe me: it is much worse to lose a wonderful life for a stupid mistake! Greetings!
2006-06-18 03:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Fxstrrsfrtrss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a difficult situation,but the trouble is you arent doing your friend any favours by helping her to conceal the fact she hasnt really given up the drugs and in fact you are hurting her more than you are helping her.Also your friend is being selfish by expecting you to keep quiet about it.You need to talk to someone about it and not carry the burden alone.If you cant talk to the family then discuss it with a qualified drug councillor or phone "Frank".Imagine if you do nothing and your friends habit gets so bad she kills herself....how would you feel then?It may sound harsh but you have to be cruel to be kind and i would say to your friend that you respect her as a friend but she is putting you in a corner and either she quits now or if thats hard,that she seeks help before its too late or you will be forced to tell family members about it
2006-06-18 03:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mick H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHat kind of drugs is she taking? This is probably a psychological issue- there's a reason behind her behavior. Try to sspend more time with her and distract her from drug activities. Do something nice for her each day she does not use them. Make sure to let her know you're on her side and there to help her.
if it continues u may want to speak to a guidance counselor or someone who can helo besides her parents
2006-06-18 03:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by n0wuseeme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her to call NA, or call them yourself for advice. She's 14 now, if she continues she may not make 16 especially as she's hiding it from everyone..and you don't need that on your conscience by doing nothing. She may not trust you for a while, but hopefully she'll see the sense in what you're doing to help her as a true and loving friend. Good luck
2006-06-18 03:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by cymbalita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weed isn't your individuals situation. Ecstasy is a situation because you never understand what chemical compounds are in there. never use man made drugs. the reliable lord in his know-how has left a lot of organic stuff throughout this planet. at the same time as your pal isn't intense set him down and tell him the subsequent time your telling his mothers and fathers.His body isn't complete transforming into and chems are going to fry his mind.From the way you describe the full mess i imagine you already know this to be real.
2016-10-14 06:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a true friend, you should not cover up for her. I know it's not easy to betray your friend's trust, but this is really ou tof your hands and you are doing this for her own good. One day she might blame you for not stopping her from ruin her whole life. She MIGHT blame you if you tell others, but at least you know you've tried and you have done the right thing. You will not need to live with guilt your whole life.
2006-06-24 03:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by G K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she just smokeing the odd spliff I cant imagine its anything heavy if she is 14, get stonned together and get it on with her. If she regrets it blame the drugs and that will make her not do it again.
2006-06-18 03:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you r not helping her by keeping her secret for her tell her parents for sure she will hate u for a bit but she will thank u in the long run iv had alot of experience with drugs and watch alot of my freinds fall apart.if u need to talk contact me
2006-06-18 11:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry darlin , the trust thing will get better when she does because once she gets better she will realize you were just trying to save her life..you need to tell her parents or she maybe over does and die and that would make you feel like crap if that happened. best of luck ~Angel~
2006-06-18 03:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by myangel_101211 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋