Teetotallers; what's the secret? how do we stay off drink?

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Teetotallers; what's the secret? how do we stay off drink?

I don't have a problem and I've read every book the library had on stress management and so it's not a problem, but the stuff is just so nice, so; how do we stay off it?

Answer 1

If you don't have a problem, then it shouldn't be an issue "staying off it." I have a couple drinks a year, maybe.

I drank a lot in my teens and twenties, then I married an alcoholic; and no matter what he promised, he couldn't quit. The alcohol destroyed the marriage and took his life before he turned 40, and when our son was just 7. Today is the eighth "Father's Day" since his death.

I joke and say I need a drink when things get hectic at work, but I've learned how to leave the stress of work behind me when I walk out the door, and the same for the stress of home when I get to the office. In my mind, I know that there is nothing I can do about those situations, so I will address them when I am back in the environment and can take action to correct whatever issues are stressing me.

Now if I could just quit eating...

Answer 2

I'm not a Tea-Totaller (person who does not drink alcohol) - but I don't drink much and I don't get trashed. I really don't like the way it makes me feel. I've spent too much time babysitting other drunks to think for a minute that it's right to expect others to have to babysit me. I'm just not fond of dealing with drunks. It's not really a secret - it's more about respect for myself and for others.

I enjoy a margarita from time to time, but to be honest, you could probably give me a Slurpee and I'd be just as happy *shrug*

I'm curious why you're trying to learn the *secrets* to stay dry if drinking isn't a problem. If you don't think it's a problem - it sounds like maybe somebody else thinks it's a problem - which in turn makes it your problem.

Either way - It's hard to break habits. I was able to set down my cigarettes cold turkey ... and that's been for about 8 years. But I'm having a helluva time trying to keep away from the sugar. Having people around you that know, understand, and respect what you're trying accomplish really helps, though. Best of luck on whatever you're trying to achieve here!

Answer 3

Yah, it is nice to self medicate yourself with the stuff. You have to decide what is more important in your life--living your life, with its hard times and good times, or walking around woozy, passing out, and not remembering how ridiculous and obnoxious you were while drunk. Be nicely assertive in dealing with problems when they come up so things don't eat at you, forgive people who have offended you in the past, find something you enjoy doing and do it, love and respect yourself. If you give in to those warm, cozy feelings alcohol gives you, before long it will control your life. The 12-Step program from AA is tremendous. Look at their web site.

Answer 4

All you need is a reason. I used to drink, but went through a difficult financial time where anything unnecessary was off limits. I just never really saw a reason to start drinking again--I didn't (and don't) really miss it.

Answer 5

12 steps with AA

Answer 6

self control and antabuse pills. I am content with a beer or two, or not. husband is alcoholic . he thinks he is funny and humourous when drunk. Replaying a video of one of his not so funny drunken displays usually helps

Answer 7

First of all you have to take a strong decision and then you should implement it at any cost because it is your decision.

Answer 8

what the heck is teetotallers??

Answer 9

GET YOUR ASSS TO AA!!