do u think that a marriage will last after both spouse has cheatted? and that they have been married for 13yrs

Question

if two people been married for 13or 14yrs and they both cheatted on each other do u think this marriage can be saved? which the male he had cheatted for 6yrs and the wife he don`t truely know how long she cheatted she didn`t tell him the truth how long she had cheatted

Answer 1

If both you and your wife want to to recommit to the marriage, than you have a lot of work ahead of you. Its only a lost cause if one or neither of you want to make the effort to try again.
If one or neither of you don't want to try, file for a divorce and move on.

Answer 2

If you both still love each other and want it to work, it can be saved. I am speaking from experience. My husband and I were having problems and he cheated. Then I cheated. It doesn't matter why it happened, it was just wrong that it did. We knew that we still loved each other and didn't want a divorce so we sat down and worked things out. We fulfilled our vows of "in sickness and health" and "death do us part" after I lost him to a 2 yr illness. We were together for 16 years. Marriage is not perfect. You will have problems, but always remind yourself, that if you both still love each other that you can work through things. I hope you find the happiness everybody deserves.

Answer 3

I don't think that trust can be gained again by both of you.Even if it will on the surface, the doubt will still be there.And marriage is more than who's cheated on who.Right now you both have to think about why did the cheating started int eh first place and what did the other persons have that you didn't find at your partner.
Try talking to her and ask her that and go from there.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes, the marriage can be saved, but only if both partners actually want it to be saved. I would suggest counselling to help them get back to where they were before the cheating started. There are all kinds of Christian Counsellors out there that specialize in this.

Don't let me kid you, this is a very hard path to walk down and recover from. Both people really really have to want it and be prepared to truly forgive each other.

Answer 5

I think that it would take whole lot of work to save the marriage, and both people would have to want it badly. It sounds like there's a lot of pain and mistrust to work through and that would be really tough. I don't think the odds are good, but anything can happen if two people want it bad enough. If both people don't want it, both should get out for their own good.

Answer 6

I think that the first thing that needs to happen is getting all of the lies and cheating on the table so that you can begin to heal from it. Secondly, you both have to understand WHY you all cheated WITHOUT blaming each other for your cheating. Thirdly, you have to know if the cheating was an experience, or was it a lifestlye, and finally you have to forgive yourselves and each other for cheating.

Answer 7

Yes, I think the marriage can be saved. But it will require good communication between the two and time to rebuild trust. Going to a good marriage counselor may help too.

Answer 8

If they really want to it will. But if they just want to save it, just to save it, or for convienence, it won't. Sure they could go on pretending, but wouldn't you rather wanna be truely happy? If the marrige doesn't give that to you, you deserse to leave. Thats what lifes about. (making sure you enjoy it)

Answer 9

It can last if both parties decide to get honest and work through the reasons that they cheated.
I wish you the best and hope you both get into counseling.

Answer 10

Isn't marriage about love, trust and fidelity? This is no longer a marriage, it is a sham.