stay at home mom vs moms with jobs outside of home?

Question

Is there a competition between these 2 of whose job is hardest?
a person with the screen name: dude that loves ice cream ; says yes.
she works at a job outside of the home and comes home and takes care of kids. and that stay at home moms(ones that dont work outside their home--no paycheck) have it easier.

Myself, I replied and said that stay at home moms have the most hardest and unappreciated job in the whole world:
my mom stayed at home with 8 kids and raised us until the 8th one was 1 yr old and then she worked outside the home.
myself, I have 1 child- I worked 14yr (including my teen yrs-10yr as a teen) before I had my baby(had her when I was 27yr) took 4yr off work and stayed home and raised her and saw all her firsts .
I went back to work when she started kindergarten. and both jobs are hard. this person thinks that going out to work is harder than JUST staying home all day--- I know myself : that it isnt easy either way. but being home with only children is sometimes hard too

Answer 1

I think a lot of the people who think stay at home moms have it easy don't realize how hard it is to take a break around kids. They have the illusion that we just have to sit around, watch soap operas and eat bon bons all day. Apparently the house and kids just take care of themselves.

Yes, working mothers do come home and take care of their kids after work. But it isn't like they have to make up for the time they spent at work, by which I mean they don't have to make all the meals, watch the kids all those hours, etc.

Quite honestly, I think neither side has it easy. You're either a lazy stay at home mom or a neglectful working mom. We won't even mention the lunatics like me who work at home (after all, the people making these arguements tend to ignore the work at home moms for whatever reason).

Honestly, I wish both sides would support each other more. It is not an easy job no matter what choices you make. Being a working mother gives you more to talk about when you're in social situations (who brags about being a stay at home mom?), but I think most happy stay at home moms feel more fulfilled than they would if they worked outside the home.

Answer 2

i think it depends on the full time job. my husband is a firefighter for the fdny, so no, i don't think staying home and watching my baby is as difficult as his job. i think if you compare my full time job which is sitting behind a desk for 8 hours, then I would say staying home is harder. edit: for everyone that is saying a SAHM is 24/7, what exactly are we comparing? the 12 hours I'm home alone with the baby and he's at work or every day over 24 hours?....I don't know about you but when my husband comes home from work, he's a full time dad. he wouldn't walk in the house, prop his feet up and ask for a beer, while I'm still minding the kids the rest of the night...if that's the set-up you have at home, then obviously working would be the easy way out.

Answer 3

working outside the home is hard but staying at home with ur kids on a 24/7 basis is very hard.there is no who has it harder they r both tough.either way it goes most of the responsibility 4 the home n children fall on the woman.so if she works outside the home she gets 2 come home n do all the at home ****,but she gets a paycheck for working.stay at home moms get 2 do it all,dont get paychecks n get flack from idiots who think they do not have a real job because they stay at home.both types of woman need 2 be appreciated 4 who they r not how much they r home.besides I can honestly say that I do more staying at home then I ever did when working.

Answer 4

I agree with you, I am 30 and have 5 children my youngest being 8 weeks old, I was a stay at home mom for a while when I was with my ex-husband. It is so hard to just be home with the kids 24/7. I love my kids to death but I could use a break for just an hour or 2 but I never got this I had atleast one child with me at all times, and then I had to go grocery shopping with them, school supply/clothes shopping with them, cook, clean and do laundry. doctors, sports etc. and if you have a man like mine you need to make his appointments as well and bring him to his appointments or he won't go. after my husband left I was a single mother of 4 and had to work full time and take care of my children all alone or go on welfare which I don't believe in doing unless you are physically incapable of working. so I worked full time doing what most in my town consider a man's job I was a mechanical assembler building machines sometimes the size of a small cottage. very heavy hard work and then go home to the kids alone and try to explain to them something I didnt know the answe to why did daddy leave, where is daddy and why do you have to work now. This I consider harder work than a working mother or staa at home mom because you have to be both mom and dad.( in my opinion if you are a single mom on welfare you got it pretty easy hope not to piss to many of you off but I have lived in the projects and seen what welfare moms do atleast a large majority of them.) I now just currently started back at work same job but my new man of 5 years helps out with the kids when I am at work, I work 3 nights a week 7pm to 7am overnights 12 hour shifts soI don't miss my kids growing up.

Answer 5

Stay

Answer 6

we have the hardest job than a mom who has an out of the house job in the working world.