Could a woman answer this please.
2006-06-18 01:35:20 · 8 answers · asked by eakelslc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shouldn't. I lived with my husband for almost 2 yrs. before we got married. Only thing that's changed is I carriy his name. We just celebrated our 30th anniversary 6/4. The only thing different is a piece of paper! Why should that change a damn thing? However you do have to work at a marriage it's not easy and some people aren't willing to do the work. Other than that I don't know what else to tell you!
2006-06-18 01:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by bsnana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all the answers saying it shouldn't, but that the little things get lost in the day-to-day when you no longer have to "win" the person. However, people change with each experience they have and therefor their relationships change. There is a lot of compromise in sharing a living space with anyone. If you lived together before marriage there shouldn't be that much change, but if you didn't then no matter how well you think you know someone there is always compromises which means people must change. You will always find out something new about someone especially as the comfort and security level grows. Unfortunately, as the comfort and security level grows, people tend to take each other for granted.
2006-06-18 11:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The security of being married changes all. The man gets complacent about pleasing the wife knowing it's difficult for her to quit. The chase is over. They will fart, dig their noses, belch and do all kinds of gross things and never care if you complain. The best course of action is to join them (if you can't beat 'em join 'em). If they don't respect you why should you respect them? However that is not all bad. He and you can be yourselves and don't have to put on an act anymore. From the point of view of the man, well he finds that the woman become nags after marriage, they are no longer the nice, all pleasing dainty things they are before marriage.
2006-06-18 14:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see........for a variety of reasons. But mostly because reality sets in. The 'dating' is over. 'Romance' goes out the window. Taking each other for granted. Sure one must work to keep it all in tact. But usually the 'job' becomes overwhelming, and no longer worth the effort. Ever notice those matchmaking places? The vast majority are divorced. That doesnt say much now, does it........
2006-06-18 10:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the parties involve change drastically.people have a tendency 2 think that marriage means that they do not have 2 do things anymore 2 make the other happy,the little things get forgotten in favor of bills,kids,ect.some men tend 2 think it means they own there wife some woman feel there hubby is owned by them.the romance dies n the hardships start.
2006-06-18 08:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because now the dating part is over and the reality of everyday life kicks in.
2006-06-25 03:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marrige is a comitment..charish what you got the next one may not be so good..its trieal and error
2006-06-18 09:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by licketdsplit756 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because knowing each other is forever and never ending.... adjustment, understanding, communication, love and everything is also a never ending process...
2006-06-18 09:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by vijaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋