hi im 26, married for 18 months with him for 5 years. any type of commitment scares the hell out of me. jobs, settling in one place, buying a house or even marriage. what can i do to stop being afraid?
myhusband was the only bloke i have met not to run off and leave me, even though i love him i am panicking about the thought of forever.
i feel the need to pack a bag and run off from everything. im always like this.
what can i do to stop being afraid of commitment?
2006-06-18 01:06:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-06-18 01:14:28 · update #1
So you are wanting to run from your fear
Becareful your phobia doesn't make the fear become a reality
My ex had a fear of me running off with somebody, and that fear brought out the worse in him. I did everything to show him I wouldn't, deep down he knew I wouldn't. I showed him my whole heart and that was never enough and his fear did make me run, but not because of the fear itself but because what the fear turned him into
Becareful, your own fears can be your own demons, don't allow the demons to darken you.
We have to put our trust in people, and although he feared me running off, he did it himself many times. I like to think that my forgiveness showed him my love-he knows that now as he has grown like we both have but it is too late for him now, for us.
We create our own fears, and our own moments of regret-face your fear and let go of past haunts to allow the light to shine in this relationship-not everybody is the same-don't judge all as the same
Good luck and God Bless!
2006-06-18 01:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by WW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like even a marriage contract cannot tie you down... how sad. I think you just need to find ways to be more emotionally attached to him, your new home or even your job. Is it so easy to leave something that you've built in so many years?
But most of all, you need to find out what is the main reason that give you so much fear for commitment. Could it be because the future is way too predictable, you desire uncertainties more? You may want something different from your husband. Try discuss with him. Perhaps he'll be willing to bungee jump his life together with you. Don't just run away without knowing the root cause because you may just keep on running like Forrest Gump without knowing your destination.
2006-06-18 03:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Rebornie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi you sound like the movie runaway bride.Anyhow how did you get married if you have all that fear? And what is a bloke? If you love him , see a theraptist.Find out from your Dr. who they can recommend for you.Because you do have some serious issues with committing .Or take it a day at a time and stick it out. Good Luck to you Congrats on your marriage!
2006-06-18 01:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by peanut_purple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your hectic of marriage. for sure you're already committed on your significant different in case you have been at the same time a at the same time as and that they are asking you to marry them, it is going to likely be fantastically serious. i used to be hectic of it too, i could date somebody for no longer than 2 months then eliminate them. till i got here upon the guy Im with now, we've been at the same time basically approximately a year and that i comprehend hes the only Im meant to be with. perchance hes no longer the excellent one and thats why you're afraid.
2016-10-31 02:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you should think many times about this commitment. Once you involve with commitment means you are willing to sharing evertything with other person. So.. make your own decision. In this live every human being have commitment in their live.
Good luck and hope you can go with a good commitment.
2006-06-18 18:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you should stop thinking to much and just get on with it. You need to cope with responsibility and stop running away. What would you do if you had kids? Leave them as well, stop panicking and start enjoying life.
2006-06-18 01:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by bevsthe1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't have to think about what to do to stop beeing afraid...u have to think about what u really are afraid. are u afarid that u haven't yet met prince charming? are u afarid that u don't know his true personality? learn to trust the one who is beside you. If he realy is the one for you he will make everything possible to make u feel at home with him (hope this helps, good luck)
2006-06-18 01:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sengrath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling, girl. If you don´t get help you will most likely ruin your marriage.
2006-06-18 04:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by kmacgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is scared of change my dear. Take it day by day and you will be fine. good luck and congratulations
2006-06-18 01:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just the thought of anything permanent freaks me out, in fact i can't even finish this answ
2006-06-18 01:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by andyandfaro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋