Anger management?

Question

I wonder if anyone can help me. I get angry a considerable amount and tend to get on the bad sides of my friends, family and co-workers.

Of course, that rush of hot blood is something to be savoured, the sheer undeniable knowledge that everybody else is beneath you and you're so furious with their stupidity you'd drown them in an eternal reservoir of their own blood and bodily fluids, paint the buildings with their brains and decorate the streetlights with their entrails, and the dark morass of creeping night beasts shall gorge on the festering remains and strip their carcasses into a Babel tower of bone and steel and humanity will needlessly suffer under the calcified blade of their kin's femurs.

... any advice?

Answer 1

Embrace your anger. Seek out those entrails.

I think you need to play more computer games. Especially the ones with entrails. Just to satisfy your perverse needs.

While you're doing that, I'm sending you a goth woman via post to do whatever you like to. Monopoly, Chess, Cluedo. I believe Proffesor Plum did it in the bathroom with the candle stick.

Answer 2

Anger isn't all bad. It depends on how you use it.

Essentially, anger - genuine anger, not sadness manifested as anger - is your subconscious's tool for telling you that something is wrong, or detecting some kind of injustice or unwanted situation, and for motivating you to do something about it.

However, you still have to make sure you use your anger appropriately. When you're in a rage about something, and the situation requires tact and clear thinking, you need to calm down somewhat before taking action.

Read 'Finding Your Own North Star' by Martha Beck.
Daniel Goleman's 'Emotional Intelligence' may also be useful, although I've not read it myself yet, so can't recommend it personally.

Answer 3

I do anger management with a lot of young men and what I consistently find is that if you need anger management, then it's very likely that you're not allowing yourself to fully experience all of your other emotions. A lot of men funnel all of their sadness, disappointment, and pain into anger. Once you've done that - it seems you have a few choices. Currently it seems that you enjoy self-righteous indignation and disgust. Your anger is most likely fueled by pain. As long as men express anger, others respond defensively or fearfully - which guarantees that nothing improves. Look inside yourself and consider what emotions and memories you've pushed aside. Deal with your pain in a way that doesn't perpetuate it. If you can do this with friends and family - great. If you can't - I'd encourage you to see a counselor/therapist. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Keep this in mind "NEVER REACT TO ANYTHING WHILE FEELING ANGRY",

Walk away and come back when you are more at ease. that means no comments, no emails, no action.the best thing to do is nothing.In the beginning will be hard, but as you get practice, it will be an automatic response.

Talk to someone you trust about whats making you angry, ask them to help you with pointing out the problem. It might be something that is on going thats getting on your nerves each time.

Answer 5

I'm often accused of "throwing my toys out the pram" by my work colleagues. I definitely do that more often these days and I also definitely drink more alcohol. I suspect the two are related. I won't say "drink less booze" to you though, until I have tried to cut down my own drinking. Hope that helps.

Answer 6

Well firstly maybe you should stop pretending that you are a goth! lol.

But seriously, anger can be a very useful emotion. In ninjutsu we are taught to switch anger on and off like a tap. To use it when necessary and then stop being angry afterwards. That is true 'anger management'.

Answer 7

uh... I dunno. Try to think positively. You know, look on the bright side of things.For example, when something bad happens try to think that it could be worse... or that at least you will have another chance and it's not yet the end of the world. Same goes with a person, everybody has bad sides, so just accept it. Everybody has good sides too!

Answer 8

You need lots and lots of therapy. Maybe even a nice whte padded room some where, are maybe you are trying to be funny. Either way you should seek professional help.

Answer 9

whoa!
that's a bit morbid..
try to chew gum when angry,break a pen, tear a paper,play with a stress ball.go to the bathroom and shout from the bottom of your lungs.
that will release tension inside you without harming anybody..

Answer 10

GET OVER IT...
You chose to be mad so don't give us that crap. You can be disappointed because of the things others do but getting mad or angry is a decision on your part.

So GROW UP