My fiancee died two years ago in a car accident I was with him when it happened.Luckily I survived
I got married last year and now Im pregnant,But still I cant forget about him,I still love him Im very sure of that.My marriage life is not going well because of that.Im trying to give my husband that love that he diserves,But I just cant.
somebody pls help me .....
2006-06-18 00:02:31 · 10 answers · asked by chephren 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You might need grief therapy. You can never really have "closure" and you will forever feel the pain of losing your fiancee. But you can get on with our life and you will need to as you have a husband who needs you and a child on the way who will depend on you. You need to be there for the living people in your life.
My brother was killed in a car accident 6 years ago and I still miss him every single day. I am married with children, and they also miss him, but we all have to be there for one another. If any one of us feels the need to talk about my brother, we do. We miss him terribly, but we are also there for one another.
Good luck to you, dear, and please accept my condolences for your loss and my congratulations for your new marriage and baby.
2006-06-24 20:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very sad story, but you must move on. It takes time to heal from this type of situation. You probablly didn't give yourself enough time to heal. God does things for a reason and you must accept the fact that your fiance will not be coming back. You can't keep hoping or be stuck in this phase of your life. If you do then you will regret it because you will lose your husband now. You are sticking to a dream and will lose something that is real, and is here. Remember most people don't marry their true love, but end up marrying the closes thing to the first true love.
2006-06-18 06:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by lici05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think you ever will forget him and you shouldn't have to or want to. You don't have to stop loving someone when they pass away. Maybe you could try going to some counseling either by yourself or with your husband or do both. I think you can still keep the love you had for your fiancee and work on accepting his loss and try to move on with your husband. Ask him for help, be honest with him, you've been given another chance with love and being happy. Don't lose that, but don't forget either. I think it's possible to do both. Good luck!
2006-06-18 00:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is not a long time to pass. When you lose someone you love in those circumstances you will never be rid of those feelings. You have to let him go, he will never come back and now you have this new relationship and a child on the way. You are with your husband now because you fell in love...yes?? The feelings you hold for your deceased fiancee will never go away but it is time to concentrate on your life now. You will never move forward if you keep holding on to the past. If you can not come to grips with things seek counselling. Good luck.
2006-06-18 01:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by AussiePete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've been through more extraordinary circumstances than most people ever will. the stress level whether you feel it or not is affecting you. death, marriage, pregnancy are all real biggees. you need to get some counseling either alone or together or both.
my cousin's husband was killed in an accident in april and left a 2 month old baby. that baby has no father. if nothing else try to do a favor for your expected baby.
2006-06-18 00:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by aylsm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first i like to say i am sorry about the lose of your fiancee but it comes a time in life that we just got to let things go and move on with our life because u can't bring him back , i just think u need to get some couseling just u for yourself . i know it is hard that u still love him and that u love your husband but u just got to let him and and start to love your husband if not it may ruin your marriage with your husband
2006-06-18 01:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two years is not very long especially because he died two years ago you have lost your possible soal mate and a lover a nd friend two years doesnt heal all wounds and no time can heala true love that you might have shared,your feelings wont go away,it might help you if you can talk to your husbund about this now and how your feeling because you are pregnant and your hormones are raging but try if it doesnt work out try counselling toehr wise end the rrealtionship now before your child suffers
2006-06-18 00:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give yourself enough time to heal. This is not fair to the man you are married to now. I would suggest counseling to see if you can find closure. Good luck
2006-06-18 00:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by K SHINE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry your husband????? If it wasn't because you loved him and wanted a life with him, then get out now.
2006-06-18 02:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by gordis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek therapy.
2006-06-18 05:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋