This neighbor of 9 years has made so many visits to my front door in the last month that I've lost count. It's gotten to the point that I don't even want to sit out on my front porch or even appear in my front yard due to this neighbors intrusiveness. I've tried not engaging her in conversation, I've tried just getting up and going in the house when I see her coming, (she only rings the doorbell then). She appeared at my home 5x yesterday with the latest visit at 8:15pm to borrow a kitchen item. HELP....me.....I'm more of the ROSANNE type neighbor....
2006-06-17 23:38:24 · 11 answers · asked by aunt_beeaa 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Obviously she isn't getting the subtle hints you are giving. Some people aren't capable of picking up on subtleties, or she could simply be ignoring them. It's possible that she may not even realize that her behavior is bothersome. However, since this behavior does bother you, it looks like you are just going to have to let her know point blank. No need to get rude, however tempting, just let her know that you really aren't a "people person" and value your space, it's nothing personal, it's just how you are.
I am the same way, I don't like people just showing up at my house, nor do I like people I don't really know that well coming over uninvitied. That many visits daily would rack my nerves. Good luck.
2006-06-17 23:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by adagia27 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have a neighbor just like that. She about drove me nuts coming over all the time, wanting to borrow things, invading my privacy when I'd sit outside by myself, etc. etc. One day I caught her dog in my garden eating my tomatoes. I worked very hard in my garden and didn't appreciate her letting her dog run wild like that and she's lucky I didn't call the dog pound and tell them come pick that dog up. I got the tomatoes he had destroyed, put them in a sack and paid her a visit. After that day, she backed off completely. That's fine with me, if I want her over I will invite her. Sometimes you have to tell people like it is.
2006-06-18 07:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the frequent visiting has become bothersome just recently, she either has a problem that she hasn't told you about ie. loss of loved one, loss of job, bad news like being diagnosed with illness, etc. or, she suspects something of you. ie. thievery of possessions, criminal activity in your house, et c. if you are friends, open up to her about her constant and explain that you need time without her and inquire about the visits. if you are just neighbors, don't totally push her away but, explain that you would like to enjoy your home with the people that live there and she should enjoy her home more often.
2006-06-18 06:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by johnny_on_the_spot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop encouraging by not keeping quite.
Ask her to stop visiting your home once and for all.
Tell this to her parents. They may be teaching this indecent behaviour to her or they may be using this girl to give you problem. Some people are sadist type. You have to teach them to behave properly. See whether you can give a police complaint and control this.
2006-06-18 06:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this neighbor is making you feel uncomfortable in your home. this neighbor wont get it till you tell them straight out, that you really need to keep your visits to a minimum. i had a mother in law like this till i told her enough and now she respects our wishes. be rude if you have to, if this doesnt work call the police and ask them to help you tell her
2006-06-18 06:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So is he/she 9 years old? That probably means you are very attractive. So next time you just tell her directly that she or he is really bother you that much---with the kind way. And by the way, did she/he not go to school?
2006-06-18 06:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, these other people have given you the best answers; tell her to "step off." But, if honesty doesn't do the trick, just make up an insane story about yourself to scare her off.
2006-06-18 06:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by Vex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your neighbor's name Kramer by any chance?
2006-06-18 06:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by †ђ!ηK †αηK² 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what she really wants. is she gay
is she trying to convert you to some religion
if not grow some balls and tell her flat out get your butt of my lawn! be honest about how u feel
2006-06-18 06:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her where to get off!
2006-06-18 06:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by Missylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋