I must say I am very much annoyed with my own personality . I am frequently mis understood by others because I don't express myself properly . I took lot of steps like going to different social occations , joining clubs etc ..but nothing really worked for me till now. Now I am getting highly frustrated with myself .Please help.
2006-06-17 23:15:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I am 27 year old
2006-06-18 00:00:23 · update #1
Two things:
1. I agree with Lyndi about Toastmasters. It is amazing how it can not just "develop your personality" but highlight it and have others celebrate who you are. By your being yourself and following the guidelines of that club, it is going to be lifechanging for you.
2. The other thing is: how old are you? I would bet you are younger than 27. If I am wrong, it is okay. It is just that there was a time when I thought somewhat about myself as you do, but my thing was different: I wanted to behave around EVERYONE like I did around my friends and family. Now I am not afraid (many years later) to BE MYSELF, just be confident and let friendships and acquaintances F L O W. That is what I suggest YOU do. When you FEEL chemistry with another person (not a sexual thing) concentrate on THAT person until the next one comes along. It could happen in the fast food line, over the dry cleaners counter or with the mailman. Just look up, smile and make eye contact. You can practice THAT part in the mirror. Appear confident and the world will become your best friend.
Peace and Blessings to You!
2006-06-17 23:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Maybe join a public speaking group like Toastmasters. Not only are u developing the ability for public speaking but also learning new information. I think this would help overcome your shyness. It's ok to be yourself and expect people to accept you for who you are, however, if you wish to change then just keep trying new things until you get to where you want to be.
2006-06-18 06:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by lyndi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer your time someplace. Work with children or older people. Doing for others makes you feel good. The more you do this, the more you will notice your personality emerging. Once you feel more confident, you'll learn to express yourself. Take it slow, you'll get there.
2006-06-18 07:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be constantly surrounded by friends. Just as long as you have one or two close friends that are always there for you. Be yourself! You don't have to change your personality.
2006-06-18 06:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying. Just be yourself and you will be fine. Eventually you will find like-minded people to commiserate with.
2006-06-18 06:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by TellMeSup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋