Have you ever been in a relationship where both people love each other,but just couldnt make it work?

Question

If you have how did you get over the heartache and finally realize that this person isnt the one?

Answer 1

I was engaged for two years to someone. Before we got engaged we were friends. He and I come from totally opposing backgrounds. I have a degree, he never even completed high school. I come from a upper-middle class family with strong political ties, he was an ex-con. He was a heavy drinker, I don't drink. I worked hard for my money, he was unemployed. But yet I loved him with my life. Somehow deep inside my heart I know that we were never meant to be, but we were very close, we went through a lot for each other. And I think he knew we were going nowhere too. But because letting go was far, far too painful, we trudged on through the years, hurting ourselves deeper and deeper but yet neither wanted to end it.

One day, I just wanted to see what would happen if I didn't call him. A day went by, then a week, then a month. He never called me once.

And we left it at that. No words were necessary: it was the best thing that we could have done to end the relationship painlessly. I moved on and had a few more relationships. Then three years later, I thought I'd call him and say hi to an old friend. When he answered it was as if nothing had changed. We talked and laughed. Before the conversation ended, he told me he had got married and had a baby daughter.

Whether a person is or isn't the one, you can feel it from the start. But sometimes you just don't want to acknowledge that feeling because there are too many things you love about that person and you don't want to let them go. My advise is, don't prolong the hurt for both of you. Not only will you suffer excrutiating pain but you will be wasting a lot of time which could have been used to lead a fuller life without the emotional burden. Sit down and talk it out, and come to a mutual decision. If it has to end, end it now.

Answer 2

By realizing that now, you are doing yourself the best favor ever. There have been millions of people who stay in relationships because of what they used to feel. Even though I know it's cliche love sometimes really isn't enough. Especially if there are no children involved. These relationships that are on life support only end up making you both unhappy. If you have tried everything to put the spark back into your relationship and nothing has worked, well I think that it's best to end it while on good terms instead of waiting until you are at each others throats.

Answer 3

Its just matter of time after a gap of some time,you will start altering the past and then you will get the whole picture,what was rite and what was wrong,where both made mistakes.When there is no resolutions its better off to let it go and move on in life becuz behind every darkness there is a a bright hope of light!!!

Answer 4

yes. and i started 2 cry a lot and so i started to talk 2 mi friend Jared and he gives the best advises ever. i got over it in a month or 2 but that does not mean i still dint love him.

Answer 5

well i have been in the same type of situation and i found gettin some direction in ur life might help put ur efforts in to bettering urself so u can be happy with urself cause no one will love u till u love ur self