She is the same age as I am and has had a lot of problems in the past .. and continues to have many problems today. She has scars all the way up to her elbow, and continues to make more in the same area. Her parents couldn't care less and she is starting to develp an eating disorder as well. I'm just not sure... what to do about it. How to help. SHe wants out..
2006-06-17 21:55:24 · 12 answers · asked by Ally. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well it's quite hard for that friend to understand she is doing herself harm and that her wounds are going to get infected. People in that kind of situation (mutilating themselves) usually have problems (as you said).. but they don't have that way of confronting their problems and dealing directly with them. For these people, cutting themselves might seem an easier way to forget everything. It differs from people to people. I think what your friend needs right now is a strong shoulder to lean on, and some good advice. I've been like that too with my problems.. But I had my friends to support me, and it worked. Thinking that everyone is equal on this earth, then the people who've had terrible times are going to have better lives in future or in heaven. Maybe your friend just feels she is all alone. Try to make her feel that there is someone out there for her (you for example) and that she can spill her heart out to you. It will work, she just needs to trust you. You could ask her what problems she's had, try to understand them and find a solution to them. Ask for help if you need it, you might be surprised at the amount of people that have got the answers you need. Just remember that you are both strong and nothing happens to you if you can't deal with it. But first of all, just stay with her and let life go on. Don't force her into talking about her problems if she doesn't feel like it, don't push things. As her friend, you know what she would like best. Try finding out with what she cuts herself and take that away from her. If things get worse, get someone (a counsellor) to go talk to her parents, because they can't go on ignoring her like that. Good luck!
2006-06-18 01:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sasa137 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Show her how you cope with pain without inflicting pain upon yourself. If she is addicted to it, she won't stop unfortunately unless she has a total meltdown and rediscovers a new positive meaning for life (yeah that happens about 0 of the time) or gets professional help. And you can lead her to that help by being positive. Show her it's nothing to be ashamed of to ask for help when you really need it. And reinforce her inner beauty because if she isn't just cutting for attention when helped will probably be very self concious about her scars. Good Luck.
2006-06-18 05:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by D.T. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be her way of reliving stress and anger if things are getting to much think of an alternative thing that she can do
on the other hand it might be a cry for help so make sure that she is always aware that you will suport and help her unconditionally
subtly drop theese things for her to do rub an ice cube on her arm
tell her to put an elastic band on her arm and snap it or squeese an ice cube they all cause pain if thats what she is wanting but without the risk
good luck
2006-06-18 05:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by bitter sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I think what you can do is tell a counselor at school, a teacher or something, they will call her parents and step in. You can also call a psychologist and ask them. She needs to be stopped right away.....
Also, you can call the police and get her to the hospital, you may end up saving her life..
2006-06-18 04:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convince her to see the school counselor or nurse; they can guide her in the right direction. Continue to be there for her, because she's going to need a good friend.
2006-06-18 05:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mizbehavin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when I say this, get her to the hospital and get some help. Or go to a local church and ask the pastor, they are very helpful with these life problems. God bless.
2006-06-18 05:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by triggr9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every time that u see her try to get her attention ...
how?
faith, or tell her that u got HIV and is contagious and is spreading to all the open wounds, and be like u try to get get close to u (it is a scary way but it may work if she is getting scary and she doesn't want to lose you)
2006-06-18 05:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy lots of Band-Aids
2006-06-18 04:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should console her,may'b its difficult for you,but there is no harm trying,take her with ,ask her about her problems and make her happy as best as you can,may be if she realizes that everyone loves her and wants her to be happy,she will just be better.
2006-06-18 05:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell an adult. Tell your parents or tell a teacher at school. Don't hesitate,do it ASAP!
2006-06-18 05:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋