I had sex while my GF was pregnant, she lost the baby and blames me for it. can that really happen.?

Answer 1

I agree with most (not all) of the things people have said already. I agree that she feels that she needs to blame someone. Remember that in reality, its no ones fault. Miscarriages are fairly common and usually occur because the fetus is not viable.

In general, if she is having a normal pregnancy, sex would not have caused the miscarriage. In certain situations, sex is not advisable during pregnancy. For instance, if you GF has perterm labor, vaginal bleeding, cervical incompetence, problems with the placenta, or multiple babies in utero, obstetricians would advise against sex. Your semen contains prostagladins which is a hormone like substance that can induce labor. In fact there is a drug on the market called Cervidil which is a prostagladin that is inserted into the cervix to induce labor.

So to answer your question, yes sex can cause miscarriages only in certain situations. If the pregnancy was progressing normally, sex can not cause the miscarriage.

So try to have some makeup sex. Get back on the horse, get her pregnant again, and the miscarriage will be history.

One last comment, 1)Girlfriend and 2)not married in the long run wouldn't it better if she didn't get pregnant again. My 2 cent.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sex-during-pregnancy/HO00140

Hey someone googles up the same web site and didn't read it all. Shame on you.

Answer 2

no! IT can't. do not let her blame this on u.it's no one's fault! once the miscarriage has started there is lil u can do.she should go get tested to c why it happend although there most likely wont be an explanation.Also she is hurting alot inside and is taking it out on u.it's not right,but it's a pain that u just can't describe and no man will ever come close to experience.just be there for her and be patient with her.u probably r hurting too and let her know that.Also,going on rides at theme parks is not good,physical abuse to her body can cause a miscarriage.the first 3 monthes are the most sensitive so if ever pg again take it ez for the first 3.it also does not mean she can not have a successfull pregnancy in the future. Good luck and I am very sorry for ur loss!

Answer 3

first of all, nobody is to blame or guilty of any crime without the act of "intent", okay?

then, there's the extenuating facts and circumstances surrounding this matter:

were either one or both of you informed by her doctor at any time or on any level that having intercourse could or might in any way cause damage to the fetus?

did she even ask her doctor at all about any possible cautions or preventions that she should or shouldn't take regarding her pregnancy, specifically sexual intercouse, bowling, horse back riding, drugs, drinking, etc.? Becoming pregnant IS A BIG RESPONSIBILITY and requires maturity and good judment
especially on the woman's part if she makes that choice to carry a child inside her!

and finally, try not to take her present emotional state of mind as
permanent and/or comparable to what she normally would believe to be true under other circumstances. from personal experience, i know that she is experiencing deep senses of loss, pain, anger, guilt, confusion, betrayal, fear, and all kinds of other adjectives that i don't even really need to bring to your attention. part of the grieving process includes a "lashing out" phase, and i'm willing to bet that this is nothing more than just that. communication is really all that you can offer her right now to help her through this. be strong, if you know what the true facts are, and don't take any of this legitimately personal, you'll both come through this okay, and the better for it. Goood Luuuuucccck!

Answer 4

It's really unlikely unless you raped her and caused her body all the resulting stress.

She's going to be hormonal and feeling guilty for a while. Unless you were under direct orders from a doctor, sex should have been safe to have. Most likely, she's blaming the sex (and therefore you) out of sheer grief.

If she smoked, drank, did drugs, or in other ways reckess, that could have caused it, but i wouldn't bring that up to her at this point.

If she wasn't doing any of those things, just try to assure her that it wasn't her fault. And that you feel the grief, too.

I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 5

Not usually, it was most likely a natural miscarriage that would have happened anyway. If she keeps blamiong you, dont take it personally. Losing a baby is one of the hardest things a person can go thru, and when it happens you want to blame someone or something. JUst be there for her whenever she wants to talk.

Answer 6

First of all, no. Sex will not cause miscarriages. You are not to blame for this. Miscarriages are very common. They happen in about 15-20% of all pregnancies. There is not anything you or your girlfriend could have done to prevent it.

Secondly. Your girlfriend is really hurting now. She needs your support. I know that is very difficult to have a miscarriage when you were just getting used to the idea of becoming a mother. She probably said her comment in her grief. She needs to grieve her loss. She will need your love and support through this.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

Yes, it can happen. Many experts belive that sex during pregnancy is fine, but warn that that is only if the pregnancy is already proceeding normally.

Male semen contains prostaglandins--hormones that can cause her cervix to dilate. This can trigger labor or miscarriage. Now, to have vaginal sex late in pregnancy is probably a good thing to bring hasten labor. But early on, it can end in tragedy.

Also, if a male carries any STD's--for example Clamydia--he might not only trigger a miscarriage, but might permanently affect his mate's ability to become pregnant in the future.

Check the following articles, and come to your own conclusion. Don't harbor any guilt, however, because her miscarriage cannot be undone.

Answer 8

I am sincerely sorry about the loss
But its not your fault
reason 1. You need a partner to have sex with which in this case is her and the fault must lie equally. unless you raped her or something
2. it is okay for a woman to have sex during her pregnancy, as long as it is gentle.
----instead of assessing blame maybe there should be more support and less negativism. But to be sure a doctor would be more reliable
GET HELP for her she is obviously putting the blame on you to deal with the loss . this is unhealthy for the relationship and her.

Answer 9

She just doesn't know the facts.

Is it OK to have sex during pregnancy?
As long as your pregnancy is proceeding normally, you can have sex as often as you like. But you may not always want to. At first, hormonal fluctuations, fatigue and nausea may sap your sexual desire. During the second trimester, increased blood flow to your sexual organs and breasts may rekindle your desire for sex. But by the third trimester, weight gain, back pain and other symptoms may once again dampen your enthusiasm for sex.

Can sex cause a miscarriage?
Many couples worry that sex during pregnancy will cause a miscarriage, especially in the first trimester. But sex isn't a concern. Early miscarriages are usually related to chromosomal abnormalities or other problems in the developing baby — not to anything you do or don't do.

Does sex harm the baby?
The baby is protected by the amniotic fluid in your uterus, as well as the mucous plug that blocks the cervix throughout most of your pregnancy. Your partner's penis won't touch the baby.

Are any sexual positions off-limits during pregnancy?
As your pregnancy progresses, experiment to find the most comfortable positions. There's just one caveat. Avoid lying flat on your back during sex. If your uterus compresses the veins in the back of your abdomen, you may feel lightheaded or nauseous.

Answer 10

No. A lot of men have sex with their pregnant wives and girlfriends and their kids are born just fine. She's displacing blame to try to cope with what has happened. Just be a good boyfriend and console her - she'll be okay and I'm sure if she's a decent woman she'll realize what she's doing and apologize.