I rather have a general idea before filing for a conference to avoid the anger because he can get very very nasty. If it isn't much more then I would just not go ahead with it. He will start getting our children involved and I do not need anymore stress added. However we my 2 children and I are struggling and my older one sees it. I dont want my children to worry like they do at times. Not yet divorced but we are in the negotiating stages. It is so unpleasant. I know he makes $30K more then I do. I just really want to know if it will be worth it before going forward. thanks so much
2006-06-17 21:34:54 · 6 answers · asked by michelea00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the children are his then you should make him pay.Yes,it might involve the children but it will also give them a better life.If he does not pay then that could lead to a major financial difficulty which the children will see and will harm them as well.With 2 children,I would guess around $350-$400 per month depending on his actual income which might not sound like much but will put food on the table for those children.He may get nasty with it but that just makes him look bad and there are law enforcement officials to handle things when it gets out of control.
Good luck,I will say a prayer for you all
2006-06-17 21:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by jlthomas75844 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do a google search for child support and whatever your state after that. You should also be able to call support enforcement in your state or the court hourse and they will tell you.
There are several factors, that take your income and the child ages.. Like in my state WA they take my income, add it to my husbands and we each pay a percentage by what our income is..
Then they go by their age, if the children are under a ceratin age like between 0-13 for example, they get less per child than a child of 14-18..Tha is just an example, I cannot remember the actual ages.
And in most, if not all states, you cannot say "no I don't need child support".. It is NOT for you, it is for the kids and so they will say he has to pay it no matter what you say.
Divorce is unpleasant, there is no way around it. My sister went through hell.. Her x took her to court for every little thing.. He still will..I think it's been a year since the last time he took her to court.. always over the kids, something stupid just to make her life hell..
You are connected forever with this man through your children. But remember, it WILL get better and you will make it through this. DO NOT let tha A** intimidate you, do not fuss or cry in front of him, do not fight or argue with him, let the judge see how much of a jerk he is.
There is no way to spare your children the harshness of divorce. Just be there for them and keep it away from them as much as possible, there is only so much you can do to keep them out of it.
Show them as many good times as you can as you all go through this, it will help SO much for all of you!
Good luck to you!!!
2006-06-17 22:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mommadog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, I could tell you some horror stories...
Google your state name and child support. For instance "Florida child support", and then go to the link that looks like the official site for your state. Almost every state has a "department of child services" and publishes the form (much like a tax form) online so you can calculate the support.
If you can't find it that way, search for your state's official site, and then look in there for the dept of child services. Only go to your state's site for this info. Beware of all the other sites offering "free calculators" and stuff, most of them are trying to sell you information, or are fronts for law firms.
Good luck, divorce is almost always a nasty business.
2006-06-18 00:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by LonnieW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the state that you live in. some states calculate child support based on current income of both parties, and some states base child support on the ability to earn income for the father. this way, the father doesn't quit a high paying job for a basic minimum wage job to avoid paying child support. contact your local family division of your local government.
2006-06-17 21:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Mair á?¦ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try working on 20% of his NET income , thats a pretty good point the child support people use
2006-06-17 21:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may be of help, type into your net search: legal services...then name of which state you are in, it should give you a web site about legal matters, child support should be one of the ones listed
2006-06-17 22:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by greenice13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋